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I've been real life defriended

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Re: I've been real life defriended

  • You make an interesting point CS. Maybe she is testing my boundaries to see how far she can push me before I am really truly gone.

     

    How is M?

  • Doing pretty well.  Is it that obvious I'm thinking everyone's testing?

    Seriously, one of my best friends is bipolar.  She often doesn't medicate it because of very compelling reasons, even though it sometimes wreaks havoc on her life.  When she's in a bad way, she's all over the place.  I can vouch for the sex being a symptom, but I agree she has to take responsibity for the mess it causes.  I can also say that my friend won't let a person slip away without reaching out (in a positive or negatie fashion) if she thinks she might still want to preserve the friendship.

  • I think "doing the wall" means something different to me than it does to you.

     Sorry to see the situation has spiraled to this level.  Hang in there Winged.

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  • As much as you care about her, I have a feeling once you get some distance you'll be glad you did this.  If she gets help, that's one thing.  Until then, she's likely to poison the air around her.  I cannot even imagine being friends with a bipolar unmedicated person.  Maybe she's not that bad off, but if she ever got worse, it's possible you'd end up hating her.
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  • Aw, Winged that sucks. She put you in a really shiity spot. :(  I agree with the others, sounds like she doesn't know what to do about her anger.
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  • I assume this will also affect mr. winged's friendship with her H and neither of them did anything. (not that you did anything wrong either) :(

    so bascially she's a shitty wife and shitty friend.  I think you win.

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  • I don't understand why she even told you in the first place. Did she expect you to high 5 her or just keep it to yourself and have it never affect your friendship?
  • Yeah, she's definitely isolating herself on her own personal island of denial. It sucks that she's cutting you out of her life, that stings. But when/if her bad choices catch up to her and her life starts to unravel, won't she feel like an asshat for cutting out important, true friends... She'll realize what a mistake she made someday soon.
  • From what she told me Jen, she expects me to just file it away in my brain, never mention it, never have any reaction to it and just support her.

    Now we have moved into the joking through the pain part of this whole thing. After her text about not talking to her at voodoo, my H and I are texting random things like

    "If you hear the name ____, drop and roll"

    "If you meet someone with my name, punch her in the face and steal her cookies"

  • I really like Winged/Mr. Winged texts.
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  • sometimes the best support is not supporting horrible decisions/actions.  are you still getting whacked out texts?

    (PS thanks everybody for all the compliments!)

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  • I haven't gotten any today. We'll see what happens when she gets drunk the next time. I don't think I have heard the last of her though.
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    sometimes the best support is not supporting horrible decisions/actions. 

    Exactly.  Supporting her or saying nothing while she was being self destructive would have been being a bad friend.

    The texts.  Gah.  Is she 12?


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