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*slow motion* Nnnnnoooooooooooo.....
^ That is what happened, just minutes ago.
So, I cruise over to campus to get my work picture taken, and find myself waiting with a couple of colleagues who need to get theirs done too.
I had my back turned for this actual conversation, thank God, but omg. Two ladies, Colleague A and Colleague B, are standing behind me. Here is the exchange I hear.
C1: *Jibber jabber about her kid*
C2: *Nodding and smiling politely*
C1: Yeah.. so, when are you due?
Me: 
C2: ...Me?..oh..oh, no, I'm not.. pregnant. Not yet..
C1:Oh..OH..I..I'm sorry
C2: No no, it's fine
C1: *panics* I..you know... I'm sorry..I think it's just the dress...yeah, it's just the dress
Me: 
!!!!!!!
C2: Um..thanks..er, excuse me. *leaves*
WHY??!!!
AND, that's not even the worst part, you guys. C2 does look a TINY bit pregnant, but do you know why? Because she had ovarian cancer and just had surgery for it, so is obviously kind of swollen. And has also been really heartbroken because she doesn't know if she'll ever be able to have children now. WORST EVER.
I felt so awful for the poor girl (and a little for C1 too, because she clearly felt terrible, but COMMON). I ran into her on my way out and tried to be super nice all "Oh, you look cute today! I love your dress!", but it was clear that her confidence was broken beyond repair for the day.
I'm pretty sure I'm making an awkward Lanie face in all of my pictures.
Re: *slow motion* Nnnnnoooooooooooo.....
Yes, unless someone is crowning and in stirrups, you shold never assume they are pregnant.
Poor c2. People suck.
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.
WHY??!!
I don't even ask that when I am 99% sure a woman is pregnant. Unless they start talking about it, I don't say a damn thing.
Holy jeebus, C1 is a blathering idiot with no sense of what makes appropriate conversation. Her attempt to cover it up is even worse! Yikes.
I've only had one person ask me if I was pregnant and she very cleverly covered it up by saying something about how it was because my boobs looked bigger.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
This is like the time the cashier at my cafeteria patted my belly and said something like, 'be good for momma'.
I wasn't pregnant.
Right?! Ugh.
Extra annoying is that C2 was away from work for about 2 weeks right recently, right after the surgery. And it's fairly common knowledge about her cancer.
would you ask me, Vinny? : ) I am either clearly pregnant or smuggling a large watermelon under my shirt and I do get asked all the time by strangers when I'm out and about "when are you due" or "boy or girl?" My H thinks I should F with them and be all, "what do you mean?" but I just have never brought myself to do it.
The other problem with asking people who may or may not look a little pregnant, or like their boobs are bigger, etc. is because maybe they AREN'T TELLING ANYONE at that point anyway! So why would you ask?
Exactly. I just ranted about this the other day to my sister. Don't ask people if they are pregnant, don't bug people all 'When are you FINALLYY going to have kids?". Because maybe they aren't telling people, or maybe they are unable to have children, or are having trouble trying, or maybe they are just getting chubby... the point is, people need to mind their damn business.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Nope Tasty, not even you. Unless you start telling me how you can't wait until you birth your baby to be able to see your feet again, I will not ask.
You just don't.do.it.
Slightly related, I had a woman ask me yesterday if I had lost weight.
Me: Why, yes, actually. A couple of pounds.
CW: Really? Just a couple? It looks like you have lost 20 pounds.
Me: Jeebus, how fat did I look a couple of weeks ago? [okay, I didn't really say that, but I thought it]
I never ask unless the woman herself has discussed the pregnancy in front of me. I know people that have delivered the baby already and have been asked when the baby is due, which makes them feel awful.
I can still see my feet. of course they are size F'ING ELEVEN NOW. lol
I never ask anyone or comment on weight lost, either. I figure that if I did, they'd think I thought they were fat before. Now if someone is like, "I lost 15 lbs." I say, "Wow, you sure look great!" or something of that nature.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Weight loss example - I noticed that an attorney here was looking really thin. I never said anything to her about it. A couple of weeks later, my boss lady tells me she is taking over thin attorney's cases, because she is going out on medical leave for brain surgery. I can just see that conversation now:
"You look great. Have you lost weight?"
"Why yes I have. The vertigo and constant puking has really helped out my figure."
Yeah, I am pretty firm in my "no comments about weight" point of view.
We bought a tv a few months ago and we go to check out and the lady says to me "when are you due?" I'm not pregnant and tell her that and she goes "Really?" no lady. I'm f'in lying. Yes I'm REALLY not pregnant.
I made it to the middle of the store without crying. I carry all my excess weight in my stomach. Damn nosey bitches.
I'm in vinny's camp. I never comment. EVER.
Oof, Jens. That is rough. Your poor co-worker.
I commented on a pregnant lady yesterday. But dudes, she was so obviously, beautifully pregnant. Now I'm kind of thanking my lucky stars I was right.
The nerve!
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No. We don't know because sooooomebody hasn't posted pictures.
Don't mind me. I'm just jealous
I went on that tour too. EAB and Mr. EAB give wonderful tours.
I think I'm having GTG withdrawal pains. I need to meet more people.
For serious. Are you in Cleveland or Cincinatti? I have an odd desire to vist Cleveland. I blame this on Bourdain. And Mike Symon.