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  • imageAngieP900:
    Well, I have no prior history, but have been pretty miserable pregnant. And while in Starbucks the other day I was reading about how a local animal shelter was destroyed from some bad flooding in the spring and one of the things they needed was toys, and that made me cry. In public. Because they animals have no toys. So I made Kevin go to the store with me and buy a shitload of stuff to drop off to make myself feel better.
    So my ongoing negativity, paired with a hormonal free fall, no sleep, a gross body, the animals having no toys and the holidays make me foresee some kind of breakdown. I will be closely following your experience as you choose to share it.

    To be honest, if you make it through without at least one break down, I will consider you some sort of freak of nature. Looking back, I don't even recognize myself in the crazy hormonal, sleep deprived creature that I was those first two weeks or so. I literally took wild, blind swings at my husband with one arm while holding the baby in the other arm because he was trying to take him from me while I was having an utter melt down over him not being able to nurse. It was scary. 

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  • fenton is a whore. a dirty FIL sperm in her vagina whore.

    Angie, I would be happy to share. And really, the emotions run high at this time for everyone, regardless. The thing I wish is that I didn't hide it from everyone. I honestly think that made it worse.

  • I think you're right Winged about hiding it. It is a pretty normal feeling from what I am hearing, so when you hide it you make it seem to yourself that there is something wrong about it when that is not the case.
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    For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.
  • Winged is so right about not hiding it.  I didn't experience PPD, but I certainly felt overwhelmed the first few weeks, but didn't want anyone to see that.  Once I got better at accepting the help people offered, and talking to friends about how what I was feeling was very common, I felt like I was on firmer ground.
  • imageAngieP900:
    I think you're right Winged about hiding it. It is a pretty normal feeling from what I am hearing, so when you hide it you make it seem to yourself that there is something wrong about it when that is not the case.

    yeah, and I knew about PPD and things like that but I didn't realize there was PPOCD. And I didn't even realize what I was doing would be classified as such. I just thought I was being weird. Then I started noticing a pattern that it intensifies when I experience letdown from nursing and I know that happens because of a hormone surge, so it all started coming together. but even then I hid it. But now it is happening in public.

    I was in an elevator, heard someone coming down the hallway and seized up emotionally and started panicking if the door wasn't going to close before she got there. It's like all my muscles tense and I freeze.

  • WInger I hope acknowledging it and doing something proactive about it has made you feel more in control already.  

     

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  • I don't think I had ppd, but I definitely had the post-baby blues.  I remember feeling overwhelmed and less happy than I thought I should be immediately after Miles was born.  I really don't think I felt like myself again until about 5-6 months pp. 
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  • Oh winged, that sounds rough. I hope you find good ways to deal with it. I think talking about it is a positive step.
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  • aww, this thread is giving me warm fuzzies. Thanks everyone.
    I think talking is going to help. I have been feeling this shame and I know I shouldn't and I appreciate you all. SEEEESTERS (and brother, but not like sperm donor brother)
  • I'm so sorry you're dealing with this Winged. I had depression issues when I went back to work and I hid it from everyone but Lorne because I was so ashamed at how weak I felt. When I finally admitted to others that I wasn't okay I got so much better.  You'll get through this and be okay. I'm sending you some internet hugz.

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  • Sorry, Zwanger.  Hopefully talking about it is taking a weight off your shoulders.
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