May 2010 Weddings
Matt & Ashley
5.08.10
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How often....
...do it get it on? [This is what I THOUGHT the previous thread was about....so I figured I'd go ahead and ask. Hehehe. Answer if you'd like. I'm curious. I'm sure others are too.]
My answer: Honestly a lot less than I thought. DH works a lottttt and I feel like we barely see each other. When we do see each other, we're tired, or somebody's sick, or the time slips away from us and before you know it it's 11pm and I have work the next morning, or I'm on my period, blah blah blah. The true answer is probably once every week and a half or once every 2 weeks. How pathetic. 
[Poll]
Matt & Ashley
5.08.10
Re: How often....
Haha! That's what I thought it was about, too. And I'm curious, as well.
I would say maybe twice a week. Somebody told me once that they'd heard that if you put a penny in a jar every time you had sex during the first year of marriage, and then took a penny out of it every time thereafter, that you'd never empty the jar. Obviously this is ridiculous, but we thought it would be funny to see how long it will take us to empty the jar back out.
Anyway, a few weeks ago I dumped out the jar and did some counting and some math, and it worked out to about every three days, not accounting for, *ahem*, "bye weeks."
For us it is pretty much anywhere from once a week to four times a week. It really just depends on how much homework Aaron has that week and if he stays up late to do it or goes to bed with me.
Definitely at least once every weekend. If I have my period we wait until Sunday.
Although I have noticed I'm more cranky the once-a-week weeks. I don't know if it is because of lack of sex or him not really being around.
I heard this recently. Was it on a TV show or something?
We put a dollar away each time. We started before we were married. We have a nice little pile of money already. Planning on saving for like 10 years and then go back to where we had our honeymoon. We already have some of it in a CD and plan an adding every year to it.
haha i thought so too!!!
My answer is just like ashstwrt's!! Alot less than I thought
We have conflicting schedules and he is a night owl and I am not. I'm falling asleep on the couch usually my 1030-11 and he is still destressing from work at that time. We were actually just arguing about this this morning about how we rarely spend time together and we are both always tired. We shoot for once a week but i think I've been so frustrated lately its been less. Made me really depressed today
Ditto the girls who say alot less than expected. Unfortunately, most of it is my fault - I just never want to. I think my BC may have something to do with it. We dated all the way through high school and college and I never ever felt the need to be intimate. That was (and still is) real tough on Jacob having raging guy hormones.
Anyway, I made an appt with the OB-GYN to see what my other options are and hopefully things will get better.
Well now a days the only action I'm seeing is from my friend... the Rabbit lol
I can sort of still participate!! lol.
The saving a dollar each time thing is hilarious!! DH's friend told him a story about putting a pebble in a fish bowl each time you get it on during the first year, and then the next year, you try to fill up an even bigger fish bowl, and then eventually you have so many pebbles that you get a big aquarium?? What in the world??
I'll add a poll to the original post for those that don't want to elaborate, but I personally like to hear the reasoning. Just sayin.
We're somewhere between 1-2 times a month.
I have a low sex drive and Adam's stressing with work and school. I'm hoping things pick up soon, since I'm finally off the pill. We talk about it, how we should be doing it more, but never seem to get around to it. This month has been especially difficult since we don't use other protection and I'm off my bcp and I'm charting, we abstained because we didn't want to get accidentally KU. He's also said when I brought up our lack of, that's he's just not that type of person (to want to do it all the time) and just because we don't do it all the time doesn't mean he doesn't love me (because I'm insecure like that). We did of course, do it all the time the first year or so of dating. 
Then we kind of tapered off.
Gonna have to kick it up a knotch come baby makin' time though.
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
Of course you can participate, LOL! A Rabbit is a girls best friend!
Uumm we do it every day, and usually 2 or 3 times on the weekends. If one of us is sick or we're just really tired we'll skip a night. I think we've only missed maybe 5 days since we've been married and that was because we were staying in my parents camper during a camping trip. We waited till we were married so we have 2 1/2 years to make up for lol.
I wonder if that really makes a difference - wating until marriage w/ the sex drive. We are 2-4 times a week but i've been dating HH since i was 15 and we've been intimate since I was 18 (now 24).
I doubt it. I was a virgin when we got married, HH was not, and he has a higher drive than me.
Edit: But then again like I said we dated for 2 1/2 years before we got married so, I really don't know?
DH travels M - Thur for work so that only leaves us Fri, Sat, and Sun but we make up for lost time.
Adam and I have done it almost daily since the day we met.... yeah, I'm a skeezer... the DAY we met. We've been together for over 4 years and we're still VERY active. When we first got together, we would do it like 3 or 4 times a day, sometimes more. Now, we don't go 2 days without it.
Edit: No your not the only one lol. I seriously NEVER talk about sex other than HH so its kinda nice that I know we're not the only ones. I don't really have any girlfriends I can talk to though so thats probably why I'm usually so reserved about it.
I just have to say that I really appreciate everyone's sharing on this thread. It's a relief to see such a spectrum of responses. Sex has been a big hang-up for us, and I think that we both make a bigger deal out of the quantity and quality of it than we need to. There are a lot of times that I think we have sex because we feel like that's what we're supposed to be doing, and it's tough.
If you go by what you hear in the media, you'd believe that only defective newlyweds were having sex less than three times a day. My sex drive took a nose dive a few months ago, and Matt's isn't consistent, so we really struggle with finding "normal" for us. I'm glad that "normal" can mean a lot of different things.
I agree, I don't think there is a "normal".
My drive always seems to be higher then, too, which sucks. We usually wait, but not always. By the end of my period, I'm always like "ugh, get away from me" and he, of course, is ready to go!
And this is why we have a semi-anonymous place on the internet to talk! I have ONE friend IRL that I would talk to about these kinds of things, and we only talk about this stuff rarely.
I wish I had ONE friend IRL to talk to. I've had 2 what I thought were real best friends in my life and I lost both to church splits. Of course HH is my BEST friend, but I need girl time to! lol
LOL Stu!
And, Katy, my friend that I was talking about moved to Alaska, so I'm using "IRL" kind of loosely! I only have two girl friends who live within driving distance. One's about 45 minutes away and the other is about an hour away, and I only see each of them maybe once every-other month at the most. I'm desperate for girl-time, too, which I think is why I love this board so much.
Not me, I turn redder than a tomato lol
Me to!
Well, y'all just know that I'm the least judgy person EVER so don't feel embarrassed at all to come on here and talk about stuff. We've all been through similar situations, so don't hesitate to come here if you have questions/need advice/have something you can't talk about to anyone else!!!
I agree normal is based on your normal not average what other people do. We are typically 3 times a week atleast. I fall asleep to early a lot of days or it would probibly be more.
I am really open with that kinda thing to. I think that its better to be open. Although I think Bernie who is so freakin reserved would like me to be more hush hush about it.
Or just do it IN the shower. One of my favorites. Haha no you aren't the only one for suuure.