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Re: Age Gap - creepy? ok?
I don't believe this is always true. FH and I are 13 years age difference and we get along just fine and have a lot in common. Age really doesn't determine what you have in common with people. I know people who are 25 and even 37 who are still out partying and doing nothing with their lives and 25 year olds with jobs and LTR.
It really is person by person and not by the group as a whole.
Now, THIS is creepy! Wow.
I have to agree on that one? oh gosh I just got a bad image in my head LMAO
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
My dh was 22 (11 days shy of being 23) and I was 31 when we were married. We started dating when he started his Masters degree at 20 and I was in my PhD program. We get along great but we match each other in interests and goals.
I dated many man my age (plus or minus 2 yrs). Frankly, it was creepy how immature I found them as they could not respect me as a I was pursuing a PhD and would be more educated than them. The age gap is not the thing to focus on. It is how the couple comes together and whether there is respect and compatibility. He is attracted to me for my intelligence and drive and is not intimidated by my education or career plans.
My dh and I support each other as I am looking for postdocs and he is finishing his PhD. I understand the demands and stress he faces in the end stages of the program. Others his age do not understand and frustrate him. Some people are taken aback by our ages (if we tell them) but most do not believe we are 8 years apart.
I dated someone 10 years older than me when I was in grad school- I was 21, he was 31, we actually had a lot in common.?
H and I are 8 years apart, and we met when i was 24, he was 32. I had a lot more education behind me than him when we met, but he had more career experience. We had enough in common to get married
So they are in between my two relationship age differences, so I can't hate. You don't know how much they might actually have in common, maturity wise, lifestyle wise, etc. ?
After my daughter was born I dated a man who was 36 to my 18, it was fine with us in regards to the age difference, yeah people made jokes, but we just ignored them or laughed at them. The relationship did ultimately end, at my hand not his. I wasn't ready to marry him and have another baby and he was pushing me for those things (my daughter was about 5 months old). I sat him down and I explained to him exactly what I felt and why I felt the way I did. He was very understanding. We still run into one another from time to time. We've managed to stay relatively good friends. Its not always matter of he's immature or she's really mature. It is a matter of connection. We had a great connection, at the time we didn't realize that connection was for a solid friendship rather than an intimate relationship. We discovered this and got on with our lives. Shoot the guy still works with my dad.
I don't find this creepy at all. In fact the age difference is right around where my husband and I are.
He is 31 and I am 20.
We started off as great friends first at a coffee shop and then we just clicked.
Our joke is that we are +5 years and -5 years. Sometimes I think I am the older one.
I don't think anyone in your situation is getting hurt and he is definitely not creepy. A lot of people talked about us when we got together wondering what either of us would want with the other one's age difference. Age is only a number, and the only time we notice it is when it comes to music we listen to when I say, "oh I was "x" old" and he has another story of where he was when the song came out.
As long as they are having fun, it should be no worry.
I might also add that when my husband and I were getting married, we found it interesting to see how people responded to age gaps.
If you did't see my last post, I am 20 and my husband is 31.
Elderly folks wished us some of the kindest words and were very encouraging with our plans to be wed and reflected back when they were even younger than I was and now that a bunch of grandkids and happy years together.
Babyboomer generations had an attitude of why would we want to do that? Or we startled by the gap. I think they have had a more selfish upbringing.
And those of my friends were more of a "whatever floats your boat" attitude.
Food for thought.