August 2010 Weddings
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Re: When are you planning to have babies?
Yeah, I didn't think you could elect to have one in the States. I'd never elect for one and I'd probably bawl my eyes out if I had to have an emergency c-section, but it'd be an emergency for a reason. If I have a healthy pregnancy with no complications, I am doing everything naturally, sans pain management/anything. I always think natural is best for baby. And that's what matters.
From all the research I've done, for an otherwise healthy birth, there are a lot more complications and side effects to c-sections than to vaginal birth. And the pervasive idea that a woman's vagina is just flapping in the wind because she gave birth naturally is pretty false. It's supposed to stretch and yeah, while it won't be the same as pre-pregnancy, it's not a real noticeable difference with most women.
Do the creep.
Epidural for me too..haha
I used to want to do it all natural..but these days I know and like the anesthesiologists at my hospital..so I feel alot safer about it.
It is true that c-sections have a much longer recovery time..and if you're planning on having many kids..it's not smart..they get more dangerous the more kids you have.There are quite a few changes down there after birth..but the serious ones rarely happen and most people end up pretty much back to normal within months of having a baby.
I guess I should say in a perfect world I would go completely natural. But I'd probably at least want the option of an epidural in case the pain was so severe that I really couldn't handle it. I'm not naive to the fact that childbirth hurts like all-get-out and I probably (hopefully) won't experience worse pain than that, but I feel like I could do it without pain meds and I have a seriously high pain tolerance.
But that's in a perfect world.
The thing that I would most want to avoid would be pitocin. All the women I have talked to who had to be induced said that pitocin actually made the contractions worse. That freaks me out a little, to be honest. But I still have a lot of time to learn about pregnancy before actually getting pregnant!
Do the creep.
DH and I have agreed to wait till at least our 2 year anniversary. We have a few things we would like to get done b4 we have a baby ie I needed to get a job (CHECK) and we need to have a plan for a different living situation, our house isn't exactly the best for having a baby in so hopefully we can work on that!
Basically just gives us a little time to just be a couple since our first 3 years of our relationship were all long distance and let ourselves become a little more financially stable and prepared to have a child!
This is exactly why I fear natural childbirth. My pain tolerance is non-existent. I had a friend who read about giving birth in water and how it helps with the pain and all. Mid-way she was screaming: "get me outta this pool and give me some drugs" haha, she was laughing about this later, but she also told everyone around to not kid themselves and get the shot.
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Yeah, my pain tolerance is like this: I shut my hand in a car door and just said "F*ck."
But I have surgery every other month that involves a long, thick needle being shoved into my eye ball. No, it's not childbirth, but frankly, I feel like that's only something you'd see in a Saw movie. It hurts like hell and frankly, at this point in my life, after almost 3 dozen surgeries, I would much rather a baby come down the birth canal and feel that than see a jumbo needle headed straight for my iris. Yeeshhhhh. Gives me the heebie-jeebies just thinking about it.
Needles are the one thing that make me scream like a girl. I am deathly afraid of them and that's half my thinking when I say 'Nooo pain meds please!'
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Oh goodness, why do you need that done?
Blurgh. I have Ocular Histoplasmosis -- long and drawn out explanation is difficult, so let's just say that I have deep scarring inside my retina and whenever a blood vessel bursts in my eye, the scarring turns into pockets of liquid (blood) that distort my vision. The blood vessels in my eyes are abnormally weak, so this happens all. the. time. I used to have laser surgery to burn all the blood out of the scars, but that obviously 'burned' away my vision too. Then when I turned 19, doctors found that using Avastin (a drug used for cancer patients) worked to temporarily clear the eye of the leakage. Avastin is injected into my eye and I'm out of commission for a few days with my eye(s) welded shut. They put a few drops of numbing drops in my eye, but other than that, I can totally feel the injection. And this isn't a little butterfly needle either. I wish it was! It hurts, but it's mostly the pressure of the doctor bearing down on my eye that makes me sick and puke-y.
....Anyway.... I've told my parents that having the injections bi monthly sucks enough that I'm not really scared of anything else medical.
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Thought I'd throw in my two cents:
We're in no rush. At this moment, I am too selfish to share my H with anyone (honestly, it's true) and I like my freedom. I'd say we're not even in the discussion stages yet. But we know we want to wait, and that could mean 4 years?
I'm 26 and H is almost 30.
FYI, my mom had an emergency c-section with my littlest sis, and they both almost died :-( Her placenta ruptured, and my sis was breach to boot. Not fun stuff sometimes, and I wonder how many people out there even know what they're getting into when they get pregnant.
It seems to me that (as usual) the August Brides are wise, and informed, and keeping things classy out there :-) GL with anyone TTC.