September 2010 Weddings
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Wedding Regrets
Do you have any?
One of our editors, Sharon, just got married a few weeks ago. Looking back, she wishes she had figured out the vendor tips before the morning of the wedding. It was too much to deal with while getting ready!
So what are yours?
Re: Wedding Regrets
I wish we had added an extra hour to our reception ahead of time. Before we knew it the DJ was announcing the final song and we weren't quite ready for the night to end.
I also wish I had taken the time to talk to my mom about portraits. I found out after that she wanted a picture of me with some of our family friends.
I don't have any regrets persay, but I do wish DH would have danced more the reception. He was mingling with guests at the tables, while I was on the floor the whole night mingling with the dancing guests. After the tosses & cake cutting, we didn't see much of eachother until the night ended!
I also wish I had planned for more group shots, but then again, there's only so much you can fit into a ten hour span.
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I wish we had made more of a conscious effort to work our way around the room together and do table visits. My husband and I kept getting separated from one another and sucked into conversations - we barely saw each other once dinner ended (SO glad we did a sweetheart table, or we wouldn't have gotten to talk at all!) and I know there are people I didn't get to talk to.
I should have been much more proactive contacting our DJ rather than trying to be relaxed and assuming that he would do his job. He didn't play most of the songs on my list, and it really makes me sad if I think about it too much.
I should have asked some friends to help me get ready, since I didn't have a wedding party, rather than my mom. I would also have asked my photographer to stage our first look somewhere removed from the ceremony site, so the early-arriving guests didn't see it, and kept myself away from the guests before the ceremony because it was really overwhelming getting bombarded with questions and comments at that time.
Overall, I'm really happy with how the day turned out, and it's not like I was miserable about any of this!
Somehow, I ended up not eating a slice of my wedding cake. We had a dessert hour and the cake kind of got lost in it. That's pretty much it.
Oh, and I regret stressing out so much about the whole thing. The day ended up being perfect!
I reaaaaally wish that I hadn't been sick! Not that there's anything I could have done about it, but I was horribly sick the day before, the day of, and the 3 days after the wedding. I'm sure it was just all the stress taking its toll on my immune system, which allowed the kid germs from school to sneak in, but it was SUCH a bummer.
Also, I would have asked our photographer to take more pictures of just DH and I. I kind of assumed he would go crazy with these, so I wasn't specific, but now I wish I had been. The pictures we have are gorgeous, and he did exactly what I asked for everything else, so I wish I hadn't been so lax about the most important pictures!
Despite being sick, we really did have a great day, and our friends and family had a blast, so I'm happy.
Me too! And I got DH sick on the honeymoon. I'm positive it was just stress catching up to me. Luckily, I made it through the day of without many symptoms (except when I had to choke my way through my vows because I didn't want to cough - everyone thought I was holding back tears, so it could've been worse).
Glad I'm not the only one! I wish mine had been a cold--unfortunately it was a stomach bug, so I didn't get to eat any of our delicious wedding food (although I think lots of healthy brides don't even get to do this because they're so busy at their weddings!) and it was torture to even think about cutting the cake and eating it. (I'm pretty sure DH and I cut the world's smallest piece of cake for that endeavor!)
Oh well, I'm sure one day it will be a good story....maybe?
I wish I hadn't have been so relaxed about my vendors as far as just assuming I would let them do their jobs and not be a bridezilla. Our DJ messed up our entrance song and DH (since he picked it) was NOT happy, the string trio stopped playing for about 5 minutes before my BM's came out (again, DH specifically requested she play something in it's entirety and she didn't)
I also really wished we were able to get to cocktail hour sooner so we could have spent time with everyone before dinner (horrible traffic in Newport the day of our wedding - totally unanticipated) and I also wish I would have asked someone to help us after the reception was over - I had to leave my bouquet at the reception venue and someone ended up stealing it on me, which nearly brought me to tears.
Even with all that - people are still telling me it's the best wedding they have ever been to so I guess we did something right!
I regret not taking a sleeping pill the night before, I woke up at 4 am and couldn't get back to sleep because I was so excited!
I also regret not looking at myself carefully before pictures, my dress didn't fit quite right because it wasn't pulled down enough and I can see this wrinkle in all of our pictures
Me too. Overall, I was pretty disappointed in my photographer as a whole. I feel like we have some good pictures, but really no variety of poses, and no real creative photos of H and I.
I also wish we hadn't spent so much time making the rounds, not on the dance floor. H and I kept getting pulled into conversations and didn't get around to everyone as quickly as we would have liked. I look at all the pics of our guests having a great time on the dance floor and wish we'd been out there instead of sitting at tables talking most of the night.
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I regret realizing a lil' too late that my dress was laced up too tight. Once we got to the recep I could barely breathe and because of that I didn't eat one bite all night and drank nothing but water. We paid sooo much for the cake and food and I heard it was so good. I'm bummed I didn't get to eat (but it was my own fault)!
I reaaaaaally regret getting into a little tiff with my mom the night before (it was so stupid) but of course since it was the night before my wedding I got SUPER worked up and emotional and I think that was a big reason why I didn't get ANY--maybe one hour of--sleep the night before. I felt like DEATH all morning, but as soon as I got to the church I was so pumped and ready to go. By 10 p.m. though I was a zombie again.
I wish I had done a few more photos.
I also wish for more time even though it wasn't possible at our venue.
this! i didnt even remember that we ordered loads and loads of aps until about 3 days later. i was like "oh yeah, we had a cocktail hour and we didnt get to try any of the food!"
it was the best day of my life, i would not have changed a thing
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I thought I was going to miss out on my cake too, but towards the end of the night, I went back to my table, and the waiters had left my piece out for me
I regret not having the wedding and reception video taped. I was so set on not having it done.
I also regret not trying harder to loose weight. I'm not very happy with how I look in most of my pictures. On that note, I wish I ate (or took home) more cookies. I had the most amazing cookie spread and only got two.
I regret regretting anything. Everyone has told me it was the best wedding they have ever been too. While I feel it was mostly perfect, I feel sad that I don't see it quite like that.