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Wedding horror stories? share them!
What went wrong with mine? Lots of little things, but I didn'treally care, I enjoyed it to the max, the happiest day so far 
but here iswhat went wrong:
-priest said the wrong names at the ceremony- we all laughed andwe corrected the priest, the priest made a funny comment like "that was atest to make sure you were all paying attention"
-the hotel miscounted so they didn't have enough ribbons for thechairs (around 7 chairs were ribbon-less) - we put those chairs way in the backwere we had set up a table for the band to eat dinner, no big deal
-one of my BM lost the ribbon to her dress (if she didn't have it,you would be able to tell, it was a black ribbon over a light colored dress) thehostess we had went to the hotel's storage room and found a black ribbon,it worked perfect, you couldn?t even tell the difference
-we didn't have the engraved knifes to cut the cake- the hotel gave usa whatever knife, we used that one, we took pictures and went back out to thedance floor to dance the night away
so, yes things went wrong, but it was the perfect day for me, I lovedevery minute of it! I know there are some great stories out there, sharethem J
Re: Wedding horror stories? share them!
We were having our ceremony and reception at the same place, (ceremony in the courtyard and reception in the hall) The facility coordinator forgot we were getting married in the courtyard and did not have anything set up. I had to wait in the kitchen while our guests waited in the reception area. I was so mad and our ceremony started an hour late, But the good thing out of all this was that our guests who were running late arrived in time to see me walk down the aisle.
Two of my H's grandparents didn't even show. One has dementia, so that was understandable, but his grandmother just didn't want to come. She gave me the excuse that her ankles were too swollen to put on shoes and that she didn't think that we would want her to show up in slippers.That meant he only had his one grandpa there as his other grandmother has passed.
The photographer lost our list of set shots, and was horrible and trying to place everyone for photos. It was just a mess, and I am still a bit upset about our pictures, even though we did get a few good shots.
The church had a video set up that we were going to use to tape the ceremony and a friend of mine was going to edit it, but they forgot to even record the ceremony. So, I don't have that either.
We had our reception at a resort with a water park. One of my H's aunt was running around during cocktail hour trying to find people with extra water park passes. (You got free admission when you were staying at the hotel, which a lot of our guests did) She even asked my H for ours, which he was confused about. Later, while I was waiting in line for the bathroom with my SIL and best friend, one of his cousin's came out in a swim suit. A bunch of his cousin's and his aunt and uncle ditched right after dinner. (BTW the "kids" are 13, 16, 17, 17, & 18) She never did get park passes, and snuck them into the park. Which, btw, closed an hour after we were done with dinner, so they didn't even get to swim that long. Came back in Team Jersey's, tattered t-shirts and shorts, to leave and go home.
From my side, my 2 of my uncles got completely smashed and started screaming on the dance floor. One of my uncles later passed out on the back lawn and my brother had to try to coax him to go back to his room.
Despite all of this, I'm still really happy with our day. I married the love of my life, and at least we have some good stories to tell our kids some day.
Our photographer (my sister's SIL) came up to us as we were eating dinner at our reception and told us she was leaving. No reason. Didn't say anything to us prior to the wedding. Thank God my dad's a photographer and he would've taken pictures regardless. Lesson learned: hire a professional for the stuff that matters.
I think that's it. Really even that's water under the bridge. I married the man I love and everything else was less important.
our wedding went pretty smoothly except:
my SIL's somehow didn't get the message that they were supposed to do the gift table guest book...so the little kids didn't get the goodie bags we made for them to stay entertained, our guest book was barely signed, and no one knew what table to place gifts....good thing none of that was a big deal though.
my MIL saw me for the first time coming up the stairs after pictures as she was coming down, i exclaimed how great she looked and she barely looked at me and said thanks. ( i think she forgot it was wedding day...haha not....later found out she was pissed about something really stupid)
i purposefully did not do seating arrangements, but apparently that was horrifying to some people.
There was never clear instruction between the event coordinator and the string quartet as to when my father and I would walk down the aisle after the wedding party because they never changed the music! haha so everyone was waiting and there is a great picture of my husband that looks like he thinks i no-showed! haha best part.
my little sister/maid of honor spent 3 hours the morning of the wedding at an urgent care center, she said she felt like she was dying...they ran tests for all kinds of things, but nothing came back positive...she trooped through, and you can't tell in the pictures she was feeling pretty rough.
the coordinator at our venue hounded us for A YEAR for a diagram of where the reception tables needed to be, and the ceremony chairs, and exactly what time everything needed to be set up.
when we arrived about 30 minutes AFTER the time we told her everything needed to be done...there was literally nothing set up. the chairs and tables were still in the venue's storage area. my bridesmaids and mom set up chairs for the ceremony, and my husband, groomsmen, and father put EVERYTHING up in our reception space. all the table linens, all the decorations, everything.
my MIL didn't smile in a single photo, had to be told flat out she'd never see any grandchildren if she didn't show up, she wore black pants and a leather jacket, and left, with DH's brother/best man before we were even introduced.
oh, and my aunt died a month before my wedding, so my mom and grandmother were kind of in a daze the whole day...we didn't even get a picture of that grandmother with me and my parents, because my mom told her to go ahead and go to the reception and eat, and i was too preoccupied with just getting married to even realize until later.
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My niece/flower girl gave herself a haircut about a week before the wedding...she cut her bangs really jaggedly in some spots and to the skin in other spots. My SIL called me SOBBING because she felt so badly. Not a whole lot could be done to make her look right, but I found a darling little crocheted white hat and she wore that. She looked adorable and sort of rakish and I loved it.
Forgot to wear my crinoline so my dress was too long...I remembered to put it on after the pictures were taken...so in the pics, my dress looks totally flat.
My idiot brother insisted on wearing cowboy boots and a cowboy hat.
One of DH's friends was eyeing our niece...he was like "Who is THAT?" and DH was horrified. Our niece was 14 at the time and had just gotten her braces off. To be fair to DH's friend, she's gorgeous and tall and she did NOT look 14...and when he found out, Friend was suitably horrified LOL
None of this was an issue on the actual day...and it's funny to think of it now.
I didn't think FMIL's were usually invited to bachlorette parties. That would definitely put a damper on things.
I was recovering from mono so I was kind of out of it that day... but I got through it pretty well considering, and my overall tiredness prevented me from obsessing over the little details.
We made programs the morning of but no one had been assigned to pass them out. The words to the hymn being sung were on them, so my mother rushed down the aisle to pass them out (during the ceremony) when it was discovered that no one had a program.
Unbeknownst to us, two of my relatives were in the beginning stages of getting a divorce. Awkward times.
The table decorations weren't really set up the way I had envisioned them, but I didn't get a chance to stop by the site to check them out beforehand, so that's really my fault.
The best man was arrested the day before the wedding. DH's brother stood in for him (luckily they're about the same size so the suit fit).
The photographer was kind of wacky and managed to insult both my father (asking him if he had a disability because he didn't want to kneel in the dirt for a picture) and maid of honor (asking if she was pregnant - she wasn't). She also made my bridesmaids sit in strange poses.
The cake had the wrong filling (probably my mom's fault since she confirmed the cake order).
I lost my wallet and could not find it, so we just left for the honeymoon without it (it was found a few days later).
Overall, though, I survived the day and married my DH, and that's what matters!
My MOH ordered her dress a size to small to encourage her to lose weight. She gained weight. The dress took 4 months to come in and arrived 4 weeks before the wedding. I had to buy the sample off the shop and have it taken in. The original dress is currently hanging in my closet.
I got married abroad so had to pack my dress. I had to Iron it the night before the wedding as the creases did not fall out like the shop told me they would.
I was very particular about my flowers, turns out the shop could not source the blush pink roses and opted for fakes. I fvcking hate fake flowers.
The 'hair dresser' I hired confessed she was not qualified and made a mess of my MOH and BM hair. I said 'hell no' and had to draft in my SIL to do both of their hair.
On the day of the wedding, after my father walked me up the isle, my MIL instructed him to sit across from her, beside my mother, he did as he was told leaving my step mother on her own behind them - she was far from delighted.
The priest was Spanish and although mine and DH names beging with the same letter and have a ring to them, he called both of us the same name lol.
I am sure there are things I'm forgetting but whatever, it truly was a great day and everyone had a ball.
- My MIL would not allow her mother to attend because it was going to be "too much hassle" to get her there
- My MIL wore a leopard print halter top to my formal church wedding
- My MIL grinded on the dance floor with her niece's husband, then just his tie.
- The woman doing my hair thought that when I said "curly" it was just a suggestion b/c she didn't like doing curls.
- We had a Superbowl themed reception (wedding was the day before the Superbowl). Our entrance included custom designed break away paper for us to run through. The two friends we had hold up the paper went too far into the room and we ended up falling on top of my cousin and her son because we were too close to the crowd!
We had an amazing wedding day! Aside from ignoring my MIL and her actions, we loved every second.
- My MIL grinded on the dance floor with her niece's husband, then just his tie.
- The woman doing my hair thought that when I said "curly" it was just a suggestion b/c she didn't like doing curls.
haha. these made me laughnot at my wedding but at my cousins wedding, her dad, my uncle got sloppy drunk (he is an alcoholic). He tried to drive home at the end of the wedding, my dad (his brother) tried to stop him and a fist fight ensued in the parking lot of the catering hall....
that was such a devistating story
Here's a real horror story for you:
At my cousin's wedding, just as the best man was finishing his toast, we were in mid "Salute!" when BAM a drunken bridesmaid hit the floor! Her knees buckled and she hit the dance floor like a board, with her champagne glass between her face and the floor. The glass shattered, cut up her face horribly, blood everywhere...oh, and her two young children were there to witness this. This is what happens when trashtastic bridesmaids drink for 5 hours straight on an empty stomach.
What's really scary is I didn't make any of that up.
My mom called me a bridezilla because my pregnant friend who was supposed to read called me and told me she sick and wasn't going to be able to make it to the wedding until 30 minutes after it was supposed to start. I asked my mom what we should do and she told me not to be a bridezilla about it....
Our uber expensive DJ set up his RV right along the deck where the dinner was served-- all our guests had to walk around it, he parked behind my disabled grandmother (and didn't move until 1 am).
Right before my father-daughter dance the DJ pulled me aside and told me that he didn't have the song I picked for the dance and I needed to choose a different one (I gave him the song list two months in advance).
He yelled at my husband and I at the end of the night because someone has stolen his three hundred dollar cowboy hat out of the RV. He also called me every day after the wedding for a week chewing me out about the hat. The hat finally turned up and the true story was: 1. He had given it to a drunk guy to wear around the dance floor and 2. It still had a price tag for $79.99 attached to it. The hat was mailed back, along with a copy of the price tag (go groomsman!)
But, all of those things were pretty minor. It was a great day and I'm married to my best friend!
We had a destination wedding w/ just immediate family invited. My future in-laws insisted on staying at our apartment's "guest room" the night before our flight left. We live 20 min from airport. Here is the list of things that went wrong on the way to our wedding.
I will never forget that day. I have never received one apology for their actions. Not even an acknowlegement of the fact that we almost missed our flight, which would have ruined everything. We have been married for 18 months, and I still have not fully forgiven them (in my head of course, because they think they did nothing wrong).
But, the beach wedding was beautiful and I married my best friend. In the end, it all worked out.
I had a destination wedding. My grandparents are divorced and my grandmother has never really gotten over it. My wedding would be the first time my grandfather, his wife and my grandmother would be in the same room in 27 years. We saw my bitter grandmother a total of 5 times in 6 days. She didn't even come to the dinner after my wedding.
We had a reception at home a month after we got back from the wedding. About 10 minutes after my new hubby and I walked in, my mother spilled wine down my wedding dress.
All in all, it was an amazing time in my life. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship and I'm looking forward to spending our lives together.
If I included everything, this would be a long post, so I'll just included some of the things that happened on the day.
-My expensive nails broke on the morning.
- My expensive hairdresser was on a go slow and took and hour to do Nothing with my hair.
- My expensive make-up artist 'couldn't find my number' so cancelled two days before the wedding.
We managed to find a cheaper lady who fixed all of the above in record time and did a brilliant job, but it meantv I didn't get lunch, which meant I was later unable to eat at the reception (due to a stomach problem I have).
MOH was late getting ready and made us half an hour late to the church. Someone had parked in the no parking zone at the church designated for the bridal car.
Ceremony was beautiful, apart for the lady standing up videoing it, when we hadn't wanted a video. She then got right in my face while we were walking up to cut the cake at the reception and when asked by our DOC refused to stop videoing or delete the tape.
Young SIL spent much of the reception crying to Big SIL who got totally drunk, verbally confonted me during dinner, practically got naked on the dance floor and made many people she didn't know uncomfortable by talking to them about how much she loves her brother and tried to drag them up on the dance floor. Yelled out during the speechs about how wonderful Her husband is. Cried in the hallway with her sister. Then went outside infront of the bay window and vomited all over the verandah.
DH and I are happily married, but I'm excusing myself from family functions for a little while.We had sent our DJ a list of songs we wanted months in advance. He didn't get any of them, including the songs for the ceremony processional and recessional. We had to wing it with another song. Nobody noticed except for us, but it was disappointing since we'd planned it so hard.
I had ordered orchids to put on top of the cake, but they never showed. We used roses instead, and it still looked great!
Other than that, everything was awesome!!!
omg I could go on for days
My dog died the morning after my wedding
My SIL freaked out and refused to let her daughters walk down the aisle without her
I'm a late person, determined to be on time that, and I was until the limo missed the turn. As I directed him to turn in the next driveway (at the chapel of my alma mater) my punk a$$ put their hand in my face, told me to be quiet, and directed him down a series of back roads...we went from 11 minutes early 7 minutes late
They ran out of filet mignon's, despite the fact that we preordered everyone's dinner request weeks before
That's terrible!!! Big hugs.
Our dog was put it hospital a couple of days before the wedding and was knocking on deaths door. While we were 'celebrating' we didn't even know if she was still alive. Took weeks and 3/4 of our honeymoon money to get her back home.
Let me begin by saying I would, now, change nothing because it all made for a beautiful wedding day. (But, at the time... no bueno.)
Regardless.... our wedding was an amazing day. It was a day, between us, full of love & laughter & amazing memories.
hugs to you too!
preface: our wedding being filmed was SUPER important to me b/c dh and i had watched my parents wedding video with them before our wedding and i thought we would do the same with our children one day...make it a sweet tradition.
so, dh's uncle has really nice film equipment and wanted to get into the film business. the uncle INSISTED that he film the wedding...he would make it so amazing, blahblah. we said great...we would love for you to film it. right before the wedding something happened with the camera so he asked if we had another one he could use. my aunt has a video camera so we were set...nothing fancy...just a video camera. no biggie.
fastforward to the wedding: he stood there the entire time and looked as if he was filming. same for the reception. we get the tape from my aunt, who took it to a professional to put in video format, and he filmed NOTHING. there is a small part of me walking down but even that is really shaky. filming of the reception consisted of the camera pointed at the ceiling (well, the top of the tent) while he ranted about the dumb tea party.
this may seem dumb because i have beautiful pictures but i seriously cried and cried and cried when i found out we had no video. i barely talk to the uncle now...even though i know i should get over it.
When was this? Luggage flying without passengers is a major security risk!