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Can I vent for a second?
What would you do if a male co-worker was making inappropriate comments? He is the only male in a large group of women. Unfortuantely, as some of you may remember, there are a couple girls who are getting breast implants and my co-worker cannot help but put his two cents in about it. Every time he sees or talks about a girl with big breasts he will do a "motor boat" sound like he's motor-boating on her boobs. It makes me want to vomit. He and I are not on great terms and I don't feel like I can talk to him about it. I also don't want to file sexual harrassment on him because I'm afraid some of our other co-workers would take his side and I would get the repurcussions. It doesn't seem to bother many of them, or at least they don't say anything. I just don't know what to do. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Re: Can I vent for a second?
I think you have two options:
1) Next time he makes an inappropriate comment, just say, "Not appropriate" or something like that. Perhaps he'd get the message.
2) Go speak with someone in HR, tell them your concerns and ask that someone speak to him about his comments. And ask that they keep your complaint anonymous because you don't want to create animosity in your department.
Good luck! That sounds like a crummy situation.
Unfortunately, I'd guess some sort of confrontation is almost always necessary in these sort of situations. I agree that it's no fun, but the alternative (not speaking up and having to keep enduring it) is probably worse.
I had a situation like this at work a while back. I tried confronting the person, and that just made it worse.
In my case, ignoring it was the best thing. The girl eventually realized she couldn't get a rise out of me, and went on to some different immature tactic with a different person.
I'm sorry you're dealing with it - Sometimes I wonder how people get so far in life thinking those types of activities are appropriate.