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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: What are the reasons you do or don't want kids?
I am glad to hear there is someone out there who has/had the same feelings as I do. Thank you for sharing with me.
By the way the picture of your children melt my heart! Too cute! Also I noticed that you are high school sweeties with your husband, me too! YAY for high school sweet hearts!!!!
DH and I wanted kids because we enjoy our families and wanted to grow our own. It was important to us to have at least one child that we could love, teach, and make part of our families and traditions.
I was really on the fence about having more than one kid, but God/nature/whatever obviously had a plan for us.
I am TERRIFIED of what's ahead for us in terms of costs, life changes and, well, raising twin girls! But I have faith because we have a wonderful support system, and with that help we can raise them well.
Diving into the unknown realm of parenthood is both terrifying and exciting at the same time. Part of me wonders if we should have just adopted another dog sometimes, but I get a little more excited every time I have an ultrasound and see those girls on the screen. Every time they kick the crap out of my ribs and stomach, I grow a little more attached to them. It has made all of the worry and puking and sleepless nights through this pregnancy a little less painful. They scare me, but I love them for scaring me.
Parenthood is probably the one thing in this world that truly intimidates the hell out of me. I'm still not used to the idea of being called "mom."
Two years ago this was me:
"Ummm, I think I might be pregnant."
"Yep, I am. Holy CR@P!" (in a terrified excited way)
If you had asked me before that if I wanted kids I'd have said yes, in 3-5 years. I loved playing with my nieces, but always enjoyed giving them back to our sisters. And I have 6 nieces now. I never had an overwhelming urge to have babies and frankly never understood the women in my life that were just itching to have babies. My sister was on FIRE to have a baby shortly after she got married and I just never really understood it. It just wasn't me. I was always more focused on my career than the family side, but yes, I always did want kinds. I just wasnt' sure when. I used to say "I like kids. Other people's kids, then I can give them back" and people would tell tell me that would change when I had my own. I scoffed at that. In my case, turns out they were right.
Then I got pregnant. Definately the 'oopsie' that Kiz mentioned. It wasn't planned, definitely not the right timing.
But now... OMG. I revel in her little moments and just love those wet baby kisses and her little hugs and can't imagine life without her now. And yes, I want another one, but this one will (hopefully) be more planned. There is also nothing wrong with not wanting kids or not being sure if you do want them. Its all a very personal decision. It's still weird for me to think that I am a mommy now. She's over a year old and its still surreal.
In my case, I basically got my body back (I admit, I was worried about that) and I had a GREAT pregnancy. I didn't think I'd like being pregnant, but it was actually pretty awesome. I'd do it again. yeah, childbirth is NOT sexy or pretty and it is messy. But the medical staff takes care of that. And I didn't care, I had this beautiful little baby to hold and my endorphines were on overdrive after she was born, so it was awesome.
But yeah, no lie, it is work. And it doesn't get easier as they get older. But I'm Ok with that. I am a work-a-holic, so I'm OK with that.
The bolded part gives me warm fuzzies, and I agree with everything except that I had a feeling I would enjoy being pregnant, and I did!
My Bio
Married Bio
I want kids soooo bad. I have always been a kid person, and have spent many years babysitting and caring for kids.
We currently have two "nieces" a "nephew" and a Godson. They bring the biggest joy to our lives. Each child is unique and special in their own way, and that is what we love so much about them!
I desire to be a mommy so badly..I want to watch my child react to new things, smile, laugh, and sleep. I want to observe them when a challenge comes, just to see how they handle it. I want to learn from them and teach them ways to learn.
Sadly, this is not a option...biologically anyway.
So for now, we fill our lives with the four kids that are in our life, and secretly I wonder what it would be like to be able to have a baby...secretly, I hate those around me because they have beautiful babies..but I know in the end that when we find that special child(ren) to take into our home and call ours legally, it will be worth all the years of pain and heartbreak.