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Unpopular Opinion Thursday
Let's hear them!
Mine is work specific: I don't get the "winter reading" assignments some of our teachers give. Yes, we are a college prep but my god, give the kids a break. They aren't going to go dumb and forget everything over two weeks.
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Re: Unpopular Opinion Thursday
I have a "friend" who is married to my ex. He cheated on me SEVERAL times (I found out after the fact from his brother) while we were dating between the ages of 16 and 20, off and on. When we were dating, on my 20th birthday, he told me he was engaged to this girl. They were married a year and a half later after he cheated on her a few times with someone else- which she told me about via texts and FB because I was "the only one who would understand." Anywho, they have a 3 year old little boy and they've been trying to get pregnant for a few months now after a miscarriage earlier this year. Since they've been married, he's tried to come back to me once, but also had multiple affairs with others.
Well, yesterday she puts out one of those cry-for-help, vague FB status updates that says she's an emotional wreck, she found out too much, and she's been staring at the ceiling all night wondering what to do. I already knew what had happened, but I messaged her anyway. Sure enough, he's been having another affair. And she's devastated. WORSE, she tells me... "It just breaks my heart to see him do this. He is just so lost right now..."
HUH?!
My UO: After the man has spent the last DECADE of his life cheating on women... I no longer think you are allowed to say that he "is lost" or be shocked and devastated when you find out he's cheating.
I've never been one of those women who screams, "Divorce the cheating bast@ard!" But.... "Divorce the cheating bast@ard!" SHEESH! Quit waiting for him to change because..... It's not gonna happen honey.
But he's so scruffy and dirty and HOT. OMG. For real.
JL - I totally agree with you.
I am also in the camp of if you marry someone famous and are "shocked and devastated" that he has cheated on you, then you are retarded. Parker cheated on you when you were dating, Eva. He cheated in your first year of marriage - how the HELL can you be "shocked and devastated" that he is cheating on you NOW?????
I think part of his appeal is the mystery. He's not in the tabloids jumping from woman to woman... You hardly ever hear about him outside of press junkets for upcoming movies. So, women are able to fantasize about him more freely. Personally, I less like looking at him and more like listening to him talk- especially in Chocolat... MMMmmm....
However, I saw the preview for "The Tourist" the other day and I'll just say it. He looks ROUGH. Not sexy scruffy... like he's lookin' old and whoever did his makeup made him look like he had work done-- ala Mickey Rourke. Not good...
Hmmm, I don't know anything I am thinking that is controversial.
I've flown quite a bit within my life, but since the recent plane scares (such as last Christmas Day) I get nervous when I fly abroad. Since the terror alert has been raised in Germany and I am leaving for Europe REALLY soon it makes me nervous. No, I am not one of those that look at Middle Easterners or African people crazy on planes and I know the continent of Europe is fairly large... still makes me a little nervous though.
Yup. I feel the same way about people who stay with someone who cheated before they got married, and are so surprised they did it after they got married. It's not a guarantee they're gonna change just because they took a vow.
Again, I agree. Especially to the bolded - he was gorgeous in that movie.
This reminds me that... I'm curious what your thoughts are on the new scanner and more invasive patdowns.
ETA: I'm pretty much against them for a multitude of reasons, which is probably another unpopular opinion on this board.
Honestly? My emotions range from outrage to a bleak understanding of it. When incidents such as the underwear bomber arise I can only help to wonder if that could have been prevented with a pat down and scan of his body.
In saying that I can understand the outrage that follows too. I am tired of my privacy being interrupted by a rude TSA employee touching every part of my body with the entire airport viewing.
Will these new series of body scanning/pat downs actually help?
I think college is over-hyped and in some cases, a racket. There are those professions where a college education is needed (i.e. medicine, law, etc etc) and there are others that a college education is not necessary - perhaps helpful, but not necessary. I have several adult family members returning to college later in life thinking that ABC degree will mean they are guaranteed a job doing XYZ. I also see a lot of parents wasting tons of money and time trying to get their lazy kids through college when clearly they are not college material or meant for professional jobs. I don't have a problem with people returning to college to advance themselves, but when they are clearly struggling in the most basic classes and their only motivation for learning is just to earn more money, maybe they need to re-think what they want to do for a living. There are a million professions, many of which do not require shelling out $$$$$ just to earn an average salary. There is nothing wrong with trade school and learning a vocation that is more suitable to your skills and abilities. Self-study and some experience can get you far if you are motivated and disciplined enough to do it. It worked for Abraham Lincoln.
I don't know if your question was supposed to be rhetorical, but I'll answer it anyway.
The TSA isn't releasing the results of test of effectiveness they conducted. If those tests had been successful, I would imagine they'd be shouting from the rooftops. http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-31727_162-20023079-10391695.html
There are some experts who say they are pointless. http://www.vancouversun.com/travel/Full+body+scanners+waste+money+Israeli+expert+says/2941610/story.html
Michael Chertoff, who is the former head of Homeland Security and is promoting the heck out of these things, is working for one of the manufacturers of them. Hello, conflict of interest.
Also, I think it's bordering on a Fourth Amedment violation.
I think a majority of TSA agents are rude, crass and need to be sat down and taught proper manners. I'm not looking forward to these new procedures or whatever because the first one who does something I think is rude, and I'm gonna snap. I hate dealing with them. I understand they have to be sort of a hardass in their job, but come on now.
My own UO: I hate pumpkin pie. I think this had been established earlier in some other post, but I just can't handle pumpkin pie. It tastes gross to me. But sweet potato pie...I'll devour a whole one on my own.
I do agree with your assessment. That is why I have to say I am bordering on it all. I definitely agree that the experts aren't expressing the effectiveness of these new methods because they may in fact not be effective at all.
In the end, people are nervous on both sides. Those emotions are real. This is why it is so controversial and I must admit, when emotions run high we are more than likely agreeable to way more than when we are not.
I agree with this for the most part. For example, I will never understand Business Administration degrees (no offense to those who have them, this is JMO) but if you know how to type, enter in data, file data, etc. Then you don't need to pay big bucks to have a degree that says you can do those things. Now if you want to take a few classes to learn payroll or further your Excel knowledge (which honestly, most of it can be learned if you just play with the program) I can understand, but all that money going to a freaking degree? It's a waste really.
In fact, my cousin has a bachelor's in Business Administration and she is having a hard time finding a job.
What do you think they teach in Business classes in college? It's sure as hell not typing.
With that said, I don't think everyone should go to college and I think it's possible to be successful without going to college. But my Business classes didn't teach me how to type. Or file.
I don't get business administration degrees at all. In today's job market, especially business, specialization is valued, not a general business degree. They teach you just enough in business school to have a basic theoretical understanding of finance, economics, accounting, marketing and communications, but not enough to make you more qualified for a job in the real world compared to someone who specialized in one of those fields. I always advise people to avoid business administration and figure out what you really want to do or know.
My husband's cousin, who I adore, got her degree in "General Education." Truly, I had no idea this type of degree existed. And then everyone felt sorry for her when she only made $9 an hour after she graduated college. One time I made a somewhat nasty comment about her being married and her parents still supporting her and the retort was "Well, not everyone has jobs like YOU have, stripes." Um, this isn't Korea or Russia. In the US of A, you are allowed to CHOOSE what your major is in college. I didn't just LUCK INTO my job, I worked hard in college and worked hard to get it. If you are going to eff around in college, you are going to get a sh!tty job, period.
I'm willing to bet that this isn't true more times than it is. After college, the most I made was 29,000, and I killed myself in college, especially in graduate school. I never had to go to my parents for help because I was able to make that work, but if I were having to pay off student loans had a kid or something, it would have been really, really tight.
There are just too many shades of grey in situations like this. Sometimes you can find a good job, and sometimes you can't.
I was generalizing when I said filing, etc. but can you honestly say the things you learned in business class aren't things you couldn't have learned just having a basic office job? As a pp stated, you learn the basics in just about everything, management, accounting, etc, but not enough to really get a good paying position. All I'm saying is, choosing to get a Business Administration degree in hopes to make more money is a bit of a joke really. If you want to work in an office AND make more money, go for Accounting or Legal or Finance or Health Administration....
I pretty much agree with you.
Okay, that I can agree with. I also think internships, jobs in college, networking, etc. making a HUGE difference to your job prospects.
I can too, but I'm still pi$$ed at the idea that making less money = not working hard in college. No dice.
Me neither. I read the first Harry Potter book before it became famous, and thought it was just average for the genre. It didn't make me want to read any of the other books when they came out. As for Twilight, my teeny-bopper cousin loves it. I have not a clue why besides the shirtless guy (werewolf?) running around in the movie.
Bluekid, I feel like you are taking my statements personally and they were not in anyway directed toward you. I was refering to my husband's cousin. I don't appreciate that I am expected to feel sorry for someone who got a random bullsh!t degree and as a result, can't pay their own bills.
Naw, I know you don't mean me, I promise promise promise. And just to be clear, it's only the idea that I'm not crazy about here. I just think it's very difficult sometimes to be able to pick a degree that we like and that will also make us marketable in the real world at 20 years old. I just can't hold it against someone for not completely succeeding at that, I guess. Now, if someone is just being a giant moron and blowing through their money and having to borrow from mom and dad - I completely get that that's really lame and dumb - I don't know if that's your husband's cousin's case or not. If it is, then I might be preaching to the choir here. But I DO feel some compassion for people that got a degree in something they thought they'd really love and then are struggling to find a job that pays. I think it happens a lot, and it's rough and disheartening. At least they're trying, is the way I figure it.
I don't think anyone said college is a waste for most people. It may be a waste for some, but I think saying "most" is going too far.
In my experience, once you get past entry level positions, companies look more at experience than your college degree. If I was hiring someone, I care more about what they know and their ability to learn than their degree. There are always those with degrees who have problems applying themselves and learning new concepts. It's sad, but true.
DH has been really into economics lately and he was actually telling me the other day about statistics he saw on an economist's blog about how much higher unemployment rates are for people without a college degree.
We also were talking about a friend who has been looking for a job. She found a listing for a job doing administrative work for a staffing agency, which is what she did at her prior job for several years. They wouldn't even give her an interview, though, because the company requires any kind of college degree, which she doesn't have.
I don't think that a college degree in any way guarantees you a job in your field of study, but it certainly gives you a leg up in the job market generally.