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Re: Some serious LanieFace-inducing responses in this post
So, what about punching a punching bag? Several years ago, when we were going through a rough patch, I asked for a heavy bag for Christmas, and I would let my frustrations out on it. It was never actually during an argument or anything, though; I just used it as a tension release.
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My step dad was really violent growing up- he punched holes in just about every wall any time he got mad, would throw things if they stopped working, etc. 3ish years ago he had a big blow up while I was over and threw my lap top through the dining room wall and ripped up a half wall out of the floor and pushed it down the stairs. Because of this I am 100% not ok with my H hitting/punching/throwing anything. But, I guess I can see how people who didnt have to deal with stuff like that wouldn't give their spouse doing it a second thought.
I think a punching bag is a much more sane & controlled way to release tension than getting angry and having to hit something RIGHT NOW while you're mad. "Needing" to punch something during an argument just seems like a total loss of control to me.
Yes. Screaming like a crazy person is in the same category for me too. If you are losing control in any way during arguments, you need to figure that sh*t out.
I grew up in a screaming and hitting and general loss of control household and I still find these things scary and completely unacceptable.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Nestthis. The anger management issues that both of my parents had and the resulting violence only made me more sensitive to that stuff. I think J's tendency towards being destructive to stuff in anger towards the end of my marriage was a huge factor in my decision to end it.
my H has never punched anything, he's pretty laid back and it takes a lot to get him angry. I on the other hand have been known to slam a door or two. I'd probably punch something but I'd be afraid to hurt my hand.
We are friends with a couple who definitely punch and throw things at the wall. Just about every time we go to their house there is a new hole or dent in a door or wall. To my knowledge they have never hit each other. I couldn't live like that.
Mark would never get emotional and ragey and punch anything... he is always calm cool and collected. a'hole. me on the hand? I've been known to slam doors and throw things (small things.. like my keys.. and I throw them on the ground, not AT anyone/thing)
My mom is/was bonkers. I can remember her getting in a fight w/ one of my brothers, he tried to push her off of him, and she dramatically went flying over the couch (and seriously, he barley touched her). then she started crying that he broke her back. She laid there and wimpered and then looked at me and said in this pathetic meek voice, "Mulva, Can you go and get my wine?'
Awesome.