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Naming bay-bees
First question: Out of curiosity, how many of you have chosen/are choosing/chose your babies names before they were/will be born?
Ugh. Awkward tenses there. Sorry.
I ask, because I always figured I'd just go in with a short list, and that we'd decide when we actually saw the baby and could see what name suited him or her best. (That, and I'm totally, weirdly superstitious and paranoid about naming my kids before they're born.) But, I'm beginning to see that that approach is SO totally not what most people do.
Second Question: Do you feel possessive about your kids' names? Would you care if someone else had them?
Re: Naming bay-bees
I don't know if I count since I am not PG but I have an answer for you.
I have thought about names and we aren't even TTC yet but I don't think we will name a future baby until he or she is born.
Example-My SIL had all kinds of names picked out before her baby was born but once she had the baby she named her something that wasn't even in the running. Brooklyn fit her, she didn't look like an Abrielle or Peyton.
I guess I wouldn't really care if someone else names their baby the same thing but I am picking pretty popular names.
In my case let's just change all this to a magical stork dropping said baby off at my door, because I have less than no intention of birthing my own kids.
First question: Out of curiosity, how many of you have chosen/are choosing/chose your babies names before they were/will be born?
I don't know that Jay and I have ever in-depth discussed it (probably because children are just about as far out of our minds at this stage in our lives as they could possibly be) but of course I have a few names I like and would want for both boy and girl. I think that's totally natural (especially with women).
Second Question: Do you feel possessive about your kids' names? Would you care if someone else had them?
Irrationally, yes. I know, there's so many billions of people that unless I make something up (totally not happening) he/she/it is probably going to share a name with someone it knows at some point, I'm still all "NO! I WANTED THAT NAME DAMMIT!" in situations like this. I canna help it
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I've definitely thought about names even though we aren't TTC yet. I think for us it will totally depend on how many good names we can come up with. It's Jewish tradition to name a baby after someone who has passed away, so we basically already know what letters we have to work with.
That being said, SIL and BIL had picked out the name Ezra for their son before he was born, and upon meeting him, they changed it to Josh. We're all super thankful, and I'm sure Josh will be too once he's old enough to understand the story.
We've always talked about names. I think I've done this with past boyfriends as well. I think it's natural to think of the future and what your kids would be called and such. We have a few picked out for our future little ones that we really like, but I agree that it will probably be a game day decision to make it final.
I'm super possessive about kid's names. It's really only for people I know or are close, too, though. I'm aware that somewhere in the world, my child will have a matching namesake. I keep trying to go really original and keep getting shot down by DH over and over. One time I'll come up with something he loves.
When I first met Phil, he said he wanted to name his first boy Agamemnon. True story.
I've been saying no to that for the past 5 years.
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I get Geronimo ("so I can call him G!") from DH. Yeah....no
Yes, we have a girl's name picked out already (and embarassingly use the name to refer to our future child when speaking in private - i.e. "Oh Baby XXX would love this park/outfit/toy, etc.) We are still undecided on boy names.
I am VERY protective of the name...to the point where I don't want to share it on here. I know it's totally silly, but it's not a very common girls name, and I'm very paranoid that it might at some point become trendy, in which case I probably wouldn't want to use it anymore. (Another confession: I sometimes stalk The Bump baby names board to make sure it's not being mentioned too frequently.)
I think now I'm more possessive about the names I chose for the triplets, but prior to all this I wasn't at all. I think as long as my siblings don't name their children those names I'll be fine.
I have a list of names I like, but it's semi-long so not like I have them all planned out. I have always like a couple names that start with L, but now I feel like I can't use them given the new last name. Bummer.
I only feel possessive over names with close friends/family IRL. clearly, there's some possessive gals on this board *looks down at ringy's "first ultrasound" thread*. sheesh.
We already had certain names in mind. Heck I had baby names picked out since I was a little girl, but we're not using any of those. We decided on Olivia because it's a name we both love, we like the meaning, and we don't know any Olivia's.
I don't feel possesive about the name, but Olivia is getting to be really popular which is the only downside for me. Most of our friends have kids already, and I wouldn't choose a name that any of my close friends kids have. Other than that, I don't really have a claim on it or anything.
I should add that we have couple friends who are expecting a little girl but aren't sharing the name until she's born. I really hope they don't name her Olivia only because we hang out together often and our kids will spend a lot of time together as a result. If they do it's not the end of the world, but it may bug me a little.
I'm hoping to go in with maybe 2 boy names and 2 girl names.
I'm not super possessive of the names especially if they're popular ones, but I will avoid names already used by close friends and family (as in, kids that my kid will encounter regularly). If I was super possessive, I'd choose something more yooneek.
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Is it terrible that I don't think I'd care if a close friend had the same named child as me? Anyone feeling some Romeo and Juliet here? No? No?
Maybe I'm saying that because I have the exact same name as one of my Dad's cousins (first and second names are the same, though with different spelling), and this has not impacted my life in any way, except that I have a hilarious story about my father's forgetfulness to go along with it.
I taught 7 Jerrys last year spread out over 4 classes. I don't think any of them were embittered about the popularity of their name.
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I like Olivia. It's a really pretty one.
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For a couple that can't decide whether or not we want kids, we sure have the boy names down. James Salvador is our first choice for a boy; it honors both our grandfathers, and given our last name, it really, really fits. We also like Dominick for a boy.
For a girl, we have no clue at all, and don't really discuss it. The boy names were easy enough, but we figure we won't discuss a girl's name until we decide on kids and actually know we're having girl.
Not really possessive of the names, honestly.
I'm possessive of our boy name only within DH's family, because it's DH's middle name, his Mom's maiden name. Each one of the kids in his family was given a family name, and I'd be mad if we didn't get the chance to use his because we're the youngest... His brother's wife tried to use it, but MIL told her no. (Thank Goodness.) If our future child is a boy, he'll be "Graham Michael." Michael is my dad's name.
I kind of have this feeling we'll have boys, and I don't really have a girl name I like. I always liked "Bristol," it's my paternal grandfather's middle name, but I'm so annoyed by the Palins that I don't know that I could use that name. I also like "Charlotte," but we would call her "Charlie."
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Charlotte is my way of talking Josh into Charlie. Shhh! He thinks he won.
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We have a boys name picked out. I've loved it since I was a kid and DH agrees with it. DH has 2 kids from previous encounters, and did not get to help in chosing the names and he doesn't like them (though he'd never tell the kids that.) So it's super important to me, that he love the the name.
Haha I am also annoyed by the Palins, because we both love the name Willow, it holds a dear place in our heart, since our family cabin is in Willow, but being from Alaska and the Palin's I don't know that I'd ever be able to go through with the name.
My SIL's fought over names like cats and dogs, it was hilarious.
I know right?!
I do come around and lurky-loo, I swear it. I just neglect to post so I'm kicking that habit and actually posting now. A pre-Christmas resolution...
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At least Willow isn't the pregnant teenager with scandals. Haha! I also like Piper, go figure. We kept hoping that the Palins would just creep back into a hole and out of the spotlight so people would forget about them, but no such luck.
I also like Scout for a girl, but I don't know if I could commit to it.
Prior to pregnancy the only name I had was Zachary. I have loved the name since I was a kid. Thank goodness DH liked it as well. We never could decide on girls names.
I don't care if friends name their children the same. The only time I would care is if it was one of my REALLY close friends. (this is only because our kids will grow up together) For example we really liked the name Lilly, but knew that one of good friends is naming her girl that if she ever has a girl, so we would have never used the name.
we have a few choices of names for either boy/girl babies. we are pretty set on using family names as middle names, and more unique names as first names. for instance, for a boy, we want Ronin Patrick... Ronin is a traditional Irish name and Patrick is my dad and brother's middle name. for a girl, I want Mary as a middle name, because that was my mom's name.
eh, I wouldn't say I'm too possessive over names, but I would probably be upset if someone I knew (meaning close family or friends) named their kid Ronin, honestly. that's only because I've only ever heard of one person with that name, and none of my friends have ever really even responded well to it, haha.
there are a bunch of girl names that I've tossed around in my head and then boom, someone name their kid the same name, so I feel like I can't use it. I feel like the whole name your baby game can be taken a bit too personally sometimes.
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This word for word.
whew late to this thread.
We had a few names discussed prior to the preg. Now we are pretty much settled, but still have names we like.
I'm a little possessive over my girl's name. I like mostly "normal" names for boys and "different, but not weird" for girls. I def don't want a Top 10 name,plus we aren't italian so Sophia or Isabella would just sound weird. But for some reason the boy doesn't bother me as much, I'd rather his name be classic than something overly trendy.
Girl - Ashlynn (still deciding on the middle, but Ava is the front runner bc it flows well into our last name)
Boy - Ryan Graeme, we also like Andrew, but I like Andy and P likes Drew. So will prob go with Ryan instead.
I'd love to use my Maiden name, since my dad is the last H son to have children (highly unlikely my brother does), however my cousin used it on his son 4 yrs ago as a tribute to our grandfather... I'm a still a little bitter bc I feel I should have had "rights" since it was my maiden name... Maybe this is why I want Ashlynn and don't want anyone to have it, I don't know, but I've gotten clingy...
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Thank you, I think so too.
We must have very similar taste in names (for babies and pets)! I love the name Olivia, it's currently my top pick for a girl!
We've talked about names but can't seem to agree on any. I have a family name that I would love to use, but even my Dad says it would be mean to give a poor kid Gertrude Bridget. His mom and sister both had the name and my grandma really wanted the name to be passed on. Not sure if I can get DH to agree though.
I'm not possessive of our names at all. Maybe I would be if we were actually pregnant and had names picked out. I wouldn't name my kid the same as a close relative or friend but wouldn't be really upset if someone "stole" the names we picked out.
Derek has been pushing for Khendon. Or Brogan. No dear.
I like the name Isobel a lot (yes, after Izzie Stevens) but I don't think Derek's nuts about it. I know he's also going to want our kids to have 2 middle names (and both of them after us/our parents) but I don't know how keen I am on that.
I agree with the feeling of only being possessive with close friends/family, but at the same time, I don't really see it as a huge deal.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
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