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Christmas Party Disaster
DH and I were invited to a christmas party hosted by his cousin and wife this weekend. DH and I arrived and it was alot of people there already drinking and talking. DH's cousin and wife drink alot, and I could tell that his cousin was trying to monitor his wife's drinks because she was not drinking as much as she would normally drink (but they were both were very tipsy). I could already tell that there was tension between the cousin and his wife, because they were kind of distant from each other the night mingling with other people. DH and I were the opposite, because when we go out we are always around each other dancing and having a good time.
DH and I sat at the table and was conversating with other couples, and we were drinking and having a good time. The DJ was playing really good music, and we got up and started dancing. We danced the entire night! Other couples started to dance, because they saw how much fun we were having. I guess some people at the party got offended, because perhaps they are not happy in their own situation and they do not like it when other couples express love and affection.
I needed to use the restroom, and I wanted DH to come in the restroom with me. Well some girl at the party went back and told DH's cousin and wife that me and DH was in the restroom having relations in their master bathroom which was completly not true...because DH and I never went in their bedroom to begin with...we used the hallway restroom. I guess the girl saw us go into the restroom together assumed that we were doing something.
Well DH and I didn't know that there was a problem until some of the guess were leaving, and his cousin walked by me and in an upset tone "They're saying that you guys were in the restroom having relations!" DH and I looked at each other and said "WHAT?" I walked over and started to talk with his cousin's wife, and she said that some girl told her that, and she said for us not to worry about it. It frustrated me because I knew that it was a lie. Then the drama started between DH's cousin and wife they begin fighting, and he begin yelling at and calling her out of her name...I thought that they were arguing about what was said about DH & I....so I asked her and she said that it had nothing to do with me and DH. I mean that it nearly got physical between them. This was happening while a few guest was still in the home.
I felt like the entire situation could have been handled privately, and if they did have an issue with DH and I it could have been handled in private. I feel that they are having really bad marital issues, and they are not happy with one another anymore. I just hope that they can work out their issues.
Re: Christmas Party Disaster
Well, were you having relations?
At any rate, if I saw two people at a party duck upstairs together, I would maybe assume they were "having relations."
Also, I think I missed the whole point of this post. But yeah, I hope that they figure their shiit out soon too. Almost physical fights are asinine.
Why in the world did you need your husband in the bathroom? If I saw a couple ducking into the bathroom at a party, I would think that they went in there to have sex.
My preference is to go to parties and socialize with other people, not my partner. If I just wanted to interact with him, I would stay home and talk to him. If we go in different directions to talk to different groups of people, we are not having marital difficulties, we are just different from you.
Unless you are psychic, you have no way of knowing the thoughts or relationship quality of those people who weren't dancing. Perhaps you guys were louder or more raucous than you realized and other people at the party were irritated by your noise. Who knows? But to jump to the conclusion that everybody else is having marital problems because they weren't doing what you were is just ridiculous.
All of this, especially the bolded part. You seem really self absorbed and judgey.
We were not grinding are making a huge scene or anything. I show my husband affection all the time...I guess that is the type of person I am. We don't get out often because of the kids, and we like to have fun. Well, we didn't try to get involved with them fighting I feel like we were left with no other choice because that is how out of control it had gotten.
Thats all we were trying to do was have a good time. I really don't see a problem with my husband coming into the restroom with me, it's not like he is a stranger.
I guess so.
Of COURSE they assumed you were having sex!! and of COURSE it was a hot topic of conversation, if we had a bunch of people over and a couple decided to go into a washroom together we would definitely assume they just did it and it WOULD be talked about, because HELLO, they're having sex in my washroom during a Christmas party in my house! Nothing's going to get a party going like some hot gossip...and they would completely be called out on that fact.
Why else would you go into the washroom together? Did you need help sitting on the toilet?
To be honest I was feeling a little dizzy and he wanted to help me out. We were in and out. It's not like we took a nap and woke up in the bathroom! I just don't see how this is a big deal... I guess we were would be to busy to watch what everyone was doing because we were having so much fun, which is what I thought everyone else would also be doing...apparently not.
haaaa, REALLY?! cuz you said " I could already tell that there was tension between the cousin and his wife, because they were kind of distant from each other the night mingling with other people." which is pretty much doing the exact same thing.
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Not at all. I don't think I'm either to be honest. When I'm at a party I don't sit around watching who's doing what. I try to have a good time...which is why I went to the PARTY in the first place!
Not at all. I don't think I'm either to be honest. When I'm at a party I don't sit around watching who's doing what. I try to have a good time...which is why I went to the PARTY in the first place!
Yet, you're pretty sure that the cousin and his wife were fighting because you read their body language and that people were miffed you were dancing because they were unhappy in their own relationships. Yup, sounds like you never make conclusions without assuming.
Regardless, this post is hysterical. You went in the bathroom with your husband. I would've thought you were having sex, too. ::shrug:: Christmas parties and gossip are like peas and carrots.
LOL, marceneaux... I wasn't refering to DaringMiss being self absorbed and judgey, I was referring to you.
I don't think that I was drawing conclusions, because his cousin would say little things here and there, and I would trying to ignore him.
The reason why I thought they were fighting because of DH & I was because everything was just happening so fast, and right after I found out about the rumor they begin fighting. So I thought they were fighting because of the rumor.
I don't think that I was drawing conclusions, because his cousin would say little things here and there, and I would trying to ignore him.
The reason why I thought they were fighting because of DH & I was because everything was just happening so fast, and right after I found out about the rumor they begin fighting. So I thought they were fighting because of the rumor.
To me, this entire post just sounds like you think you and your H's relationship is so much better than everybody else's. Well.... Good for you....
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Well, that is your opinion and you are entitled to it. It doesn't offend me at all. :-)
Well, that is your opinion and you are entitled to it. It doesn't offend me at all. :-)
Who knows what had been brewing between them that evening? Perhaps they are having money problems, she had caught him flirting with another girl, he might be frustrated at work and snapped at her?
Just because two events occur within a close time proximity does not mean they are causally related.
It is not all about you.
Not at all, because I love to see when couples are happy. Like I told his wife when we were alone talking I said that every relationship has ups and downs and that DH & I argue sometimes, but you have to work through it. I told her that because she was about to pack her bags and leave. I convinced her to stay and work it out with her husband. I don't try to act as if my relationship is "perfect" because it's not...we have issues just like any other couple..it's just that we handle ours in private. It's all about respect. We apologized to them if we did anything to offend them...I'm a cool person and I don't like to see people argue...
Not at all, because I love to see when couples are happy. Like I told his wife when we were alone talking I said that every relationship has ups and downs and that DH & I argue sometimes, but you have to work through it. I told her that because she was about to pack her bags and leave. I convinced her to stay and work it out with her husband. I don't try to act as if my relationship is "perfect" because it's not...we have issues just like any other couple..it's just that we handle ours in private. It's all about respect. We apologized to them if we did anything to offend them...I'm a cool person and I don't like to see people argue...