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Re: Christmas Party Disaster
Maybe you are right. I just didn't want to feel like what happened was added to what was already going on. I know it's not all about me, and trust me I wish that this would have never happened.
It was FREEZING outside girl! We did not bump anything. Others may think its "wierd" but my DH comes in the restroom with me while we are at home...he shaves while I take a bubble bath...we talk and have quiet time in the bathroom...We have been doing that since forever, it's kinda like we do it even without thinking about it...it's not a big deal to us...but I'm beginning to see how others view it as "wierd" or uncommon.
My DH and I do lots of things at home we don't do with other people around.
I'm willing to bet you guys made asses out of yourselves at the party.
It wasn't like that...we were not dirty dancing...it was a party for crying out loud. Why do people automatically think the worst about things. I'm not at all self absorbed...if I were I would have thought to proud of myself and left them fighting like cats and dogs...but no...we stayed and helped them calm things down. I don't like to see people fighting over something so stupid...thats all.
It wasn't like that...we were not dirty dancing...it was a party for crying out loud. Why do people automatically think the worst about things. I'm not at all self absorbed...if I was so self aborbed we would left them fighting like cats and dogs...but no...we stayed to help them calm things down. Anyone who knows me could tell you I'm down to earth and I don't walk around with a huge ego...
It is unlikely that he was shaving or you were taking a bubble bath in the hallway bathroom at the party. My partner and I use the bathroom at the same time as well, just not out in public.
Seriously, I think you can admit that when you and your husband (with whom you were being publicly affectionate all evening) disappeared into the bathroom together, the thought that you guys might be having sex is not the most unreasonable conclusion. Every poster here has told you that they would have thought the same thing.
It wasn't like that...we were not dirty dancing...it was a party for crying out loud. Why do people automatically think the worst about things. I'm not at all self absorbed...if I was so self aborbed we would left them fighting like cats and dogs...but no...we stayed to help them calm things down. Anyone who knows me could tell you I'm down to earth and I don't walk around with a huge ego...
Well people can think what they want, but why make a huge deal about it? I just think it was very "messy" for the person who went back to spread the rumor...I mean she should have found something else to do with her time besides spy on us. We like everyone else at the party was dancing and having fun....I just think it's very lame for someone to go and tattle tell like we are kids...we are adults and married adults.... That's like my kids at home who tattle tell on each other all day.
I don't mean to sound overly harsh with what I have said/are about to say but the fact that you responded to your own post several times trying to defend your position on every little point speaks volumes about your character and the fact that you really do think that it's all about you. Go back and read...the things you say while doing so definitely solidify that. Self-confidence is wonderful but you need to work on how you express humility (or a lack thereof).
On that note, I'm also gonna throw out there the possibility that those who were offended by you probably disliked something else about you as well. That's usually how it goes.
How old are you that you needed to have your DH come to the bathroom with you? Two? Seriously - you don't leave your DH's side? You think other people do things just because you're doing them? You're making judgments about people when you have no idea what their circumstances are (bolded).
I agree, this has to be MUD.
We do that too, at HOME but in someone elses house during a party I RARELY take bubble baths and he'll rarely do his shaving at the party. both of you doing your stuff in your bathroom at the same time at home=normal. In someone elses house when there's a bunch of people over it just doesn't happen in the norm unless the two people going in are going to make out or if one of them is sick (and if one of them is sick it's really weird that nobody else would have noticed that).
Honestly do you not see how that MIGHT look a little odd? are you really that upset that they'd jump to a pretty obvious conclusion? If it bothers you so much then take this as a lesson. Now you know that when you and your husband goes into a hosts single bathroom together that it tends to look like you're probably knocking boots.
Like I said I wanted for DH to come into the restroom with me because I was feeling dizzy. I'm not a selfish person at all....I care about others feelings. I just feel that it could have been handled differently thats all. This to me is a lesson learned.... :-)
Like I said I wanted for DH to come into the restroom with me because I was feeling dizzy. I'm not a selfish person at all....I care about others feelings. I just feel that it could have been handled differently thats all. This to me is a lesson learned.... :-)
Define 'showing affection' for your husband on the dance floor.
And please tell me if someone actually asked if your dh and you were having relations in the bathroom, or if they asked you if you were fuccking in there; what precisely was said?
I'm interested in the exact precise wording of this.
And yes, it's odd to have your dh come into the bathroom with you to watch you pee or poop at a party. It's even more odd to have him come in there for sex; but just having him there while you do your business, or he does his, is odd at a party.
Like I said I wanted for DH to come into the restroom with me because I was feeling dizzy. I'm not a selfish person at all....I care about others feelings. I just feel that it could have been handled differently thats all. This to me is a lesson learned.... :-)
Whether it's among friends or strangers, people talk. You're at a party, you and your H disappear into the restroom and people see it. Of course some are going to think the two of you are going in there to "get it on," and some are going to talk.
The best way to avoid this situation in future instances is, the next time you go to a party, detach yourself from your husband for 2 minutes while you use the restroom [for whatever reason] and let him wait for you outside the door. He'll still be there when you get back.
Like I said I wanted for DH to come into the restroom with me because I was feeling dizzy. I'm not a selfish person at all....I care about others feelings. I just feel that it could have been handled differently thats all. This to me is a lesson learned.... :
If you were so dizzy that you couldn't go to the bathroom without your husband, then you should have left the party.
I'm curious - did you continue dancing after you went to the bathroom? Did your dizziness magically disappear?
Honestly, from the way you come across in this post, I'm shocked anyone invited you to a party in the first place.
You seem to think so highly of yourself & so little of others. How in the hell does not dancing = not happy? You say that you're too busy having fun to notice what other people are doing, but you passed judgment on plenty of other couples there, not just the cousin.
Based on everything you've posted here and in this post- http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44890751.aspx I think you're trying to convince yourself that you're happier than everyone else.
Grow up, stop being so judgmental & realize that when a couple go to the bathroom together people are going to assume they were totally doing it.
Oh, BTW I knew a couple who were ?affectionate? with each other in public situations (parties, restaurants, parks, etc.) What they thought was affectionate was actually lewd to 99.9% of the rest of the world. It does not mean that the rest of the world is unhappy or insecure with their marriage. Keep that in mind because your probably just like that couple.
Showing affection for your husband on the dance floor? So you were grinding all over him, went to finish the job in the privacy of the bathroom, people talked because, quite frankly, if I had a house party and two people went into the bathroom together people would say something as well. It sounds like you're probably just pissed that they weren't fighting about you, because you wanted the attention.
And really? Talking about others relationships? Weren't you posting on here last month about being in counseling with your husband?
He had to go with you because you were "dizzy"? I am on the mud train.
But if it isn't, you need some therapy, girl. And a spell check. You sound like the creepy couple that is always trying to devour each other in front of a live audience. Then on top of that, you seem like a hypocrite, judge me not, but I will judge you. That isn't right. Learn to get out of people's business, and go to the bathroom by yourself.
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I've read some self-absorbed crap in my time, but this one is quite impressive.
Let me get this straight, in the course of an evening you and your DH:
- Got the dancing started because of how much fun you were having.
- Made others unhappy because of how in love and happy you are.
- Started a huge fight between the hosts because you NEEDED DH in the bathroom with you.
Not to mention that later you stayed because you were able to help them calm down and solve all their marital woes.
What was the point of this post? Your last paragraph suggests that you're worried about your friends, but really there's a whole lot of pointless crap about how in love you and DH are, and how much fun you have at parties.
Am I the only one frightened that OP has children at home she is responsible for?
And honestly, I am far less weirded out by the idea you "having relations" in the bathroom than I am about you needing your DH in the room in order to pee/poop.
I love how she says that she doesn't worry about what other people do at parties - she's there to PARTY!
Yet she knew exactly who wasn't grinding on the dancefloor and who is soooooo miserable in their relationship because they chose to spend parties with people they don't see every day.
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Two questions:
1. Please clarify: Were you dizzy or drunk? I ask because you mentioned others' drinking problems. Did you perhaps have too much to drink yourself?
2. What is the lesson you speak of? What did you learn from this?