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Re: Fenton_von fentonsack
Holy eff, man! Are you all friends with Zane or something? I feel absolutely sick over all these goings on (and not in a Chop way).
Vicki, honey, that is terrible. Do you think this is part of some sick self preservation mechanism he's doing because he's terrified you're going to leave him now that you're losing weight and feeling better about yourself? Sort of a, "It's okay if she leaves me because I've got Slutty McSlutface waiting in the wings," kind of thing? Please kick him in his stretchy ***. Hard. I'm so sorry.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Fent, I am so so sorry. I was holding out hope. Ain't no shame in medicating.
Vicki, ugh! I had an ex boyfriend like that and it drove me nuts. I hope he can work it out.
The hair grows in thick where the horn used to be.
I think it's definitely based in some sort of insecurity. I don't think it's necessarily lining someone up, because the girl is both married and hideous. I think the most frustrating part of all of it is that there is no WHY.
He talks about how his father always messes up every relationship he has ever been in because he is never happy and always looking for something else. I can't help but wonder if that is what is going on here. But at the same time, he tells me that is he completely happy and doesn't know why he is doing this. It's driving me out of my mind.
Holy crap, girls. I am so, so sorry.
I just want to hug you both. I really don't know what to say other than both your husbands are idiots. Vicki, I don't know if this means it's the end end end... but I hope he wakes the eff up and you guys can work it out. If not, then, I hope you know what an amazing person you are that is deserving of someone who realizes it and cherishes it. You are already on the road to such an amazing personal change and I would hate for someone (idiot husband!) to slow your roll mentally. I'm sending you love and postive vibes, roomie.
Fenton, I want to take you away from there and cradle you like a baby. Maybe breastfeed you? He's such a moron and I hope sometimes soon he realizes what a tragic mistake he's made by letting you go. And I hope he never gets over it and I hope you never look back. To list all the ways you're awesome would take forever. Mourn the loss of your marriage but don't wallow in it. You are far too valuable of a gem to let yourself be burried in the coal of black thoughts.
Pleased to be seeing your vagina real soon. I love you, sister.
Cheer up, Charlie. love love love.
Do you think he'd go to therapy to deal with his insecurity so he stops doing and saying stupid shiit? Because losing someone as awesome as you would be pretty effing stupid.
I am so pissed about all of this that I can barely type. I think I need therapy too.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Oh Vicki. That sucks and I'm so sorry you have to deal with it.
This post is making me ragey. NOBODY HURTS MY INTERNET FRIENDS. ROAR.
That's what I'm thinking Cali. If he is not willing to go to therapy and do the work to figure out why, then I can't imagine anything is ever going to change. Will he go?...I don't know. He is really shy with strangers so I can't picture it happening. We'll see. I just can't comprehend how you can love someone and be completely happy with them, yet do stupid *** without knowing why.
Not having a reason if the most frustrating part of all of it.
Oh Vicki. I'm so sorry. He is making a huge mistake messing things up with you.I know we aren't super tight but you are a kind, funny, warm person and I hope he takes steps to make things right.
If he wants some female attention I suspect we could drum some up for him around here, though it might not be the kind he desires.
WTF IS WRONG WITH ALL THESE MEN?????????
Vicki your husband sounds like a perfect candidate for therapy. I hope everything works out for you.
This is just a giant thread of suckiness.
Vicki, I'm sorry you're going through this. And Fent, I am sorry how everything panned out for you. I hope you both find some comfort soon.
I concur. *polishes shank collection*
Holy crap, I am just heartbroken for you ladies.
Vicki, you keep your chin up lady. You are an amazing, good hearted, STRONG, funny, awesome person. He can choose to work through this stuff or not (and I so hope he does and starts contributing to your relationship the way you deserve), but you keep your feet planted. Hang in there, lady friend.
I have to admit, this is the first place my brain went. Not suggesting that you jump to any conclusions, but I would flesh out any possibility that this is some sort of sabotage? Gah, I even feel funny typing that out - and I probably wouldn't if what you are accomplishing right now weren't such a big, important deal. I just feel like the stakes are high, make sure he's totally honest about what's going on with him and where it's coming from. You hang in there, lady....
Oh Vicki, I am so sorry honey. I adore you and am so sad you are struggling with this.
I really hope he is open to getting help from a therapist.
Fenton, I am so sorry. YOu are a great, wonderful, smart and loving person. He is a moron for throwing itall away.
Vicki, I have no words. I am in shock. I am going agree with Hezz and Fitty. Don't let his insecurities slow you down. You are also smart, wonderful, great and loving. Hopefully therapy can help him.
I wish I could either hug both of you or get you drunk. I am so sorry.
Well if I could have a drink for both of these sad, heart breaking situations I would do it. Although I haven't been through this I can remember being heart broken crying in bed, and that feeling is devastating.
On the plus side Fent you can now re-experience those tingly butterflies when you kiss a new man for the first time, or be taken out for dinner. I'm sure it's going to take some time to get there, but you eventually will and life will be fun again.
Vicki don't let this little speed bump hold you back from the success you are already starting to obtain personally. He'll smarten up if he means what he's saying, technically you shouldn't even have to ask him to stop he just will.
Good luck gals and keep your heads up high!
oh my gosh. :'(
to both of you, i am so sorry. really.
I don't know what else to say except that you ladies are in my thoughts.
Fenton, you win. Twan is way more gay than Mr M.
I'm sorry you and Vicks are going through this. You both deserve much better.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman