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It is a real shame..

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Re: It is a real shame..

  • Wow, that is really horrible. This makes me feel very sad.

    Jamie, how did you find out what they were saying about you? 

    Shelli, what was the original purpose of the secret board? Do you still have access to it? 

    Any chance a girl can get some names here so she knows who to distance herself from?  I'm with Jamie - if that kind of crap makes its way over to this board, I'm done too. 

    And what the hell is the Land of Placenta?  

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  • That's just plain pitiful.  As difficult as it may be, ignore the childish behavior and it will disappear... unless fueled by others who egg-on the childish behavior. 
  • How sad to see that the DW is moving in that direction. That board was one of the few boards where the girls weren't snarky or hurtful and actually offered real support. Sure we had some drama now and then, but it was never from those of us who were "regulars". I'm sure there are still a number of girls over there that are sweet and friendly, but it upsets me to think that it's starting to be like every other board on TK, where a central group of ladies run the damn thing and flame anyone they don't like.

    I'm incredibly disappointed that the DW board isn't the place it used to be, but I guess it was one of those things that was just too good to last. Shame on those ladies who are participating in the "secret board" just to make fun on others behind their back. You are grown women for God's sake, act like it. Women face enough criticism in everyday life without turning against one another. Whoever you are I hope you're reading this and let me tell you something....Karma is a b!tch. If you have the time and energy to create a "secret board" to make fun of others who are just trying to share their wedding planning and find help and support then you are a sad and bitter person who needs to concentrate on yourself and your issues instead of picking on others.

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  • imagenatalie115:

    How sad to see that the DW is moving in that direction. That board was one of the few boards where the girls weren't snarky or hurtful and actually offered real support. Sure we had some drama now and then, but it was never from those of us who were "regulars". I'm sure there are still a number of girls over there that are sweet and friendly, but it upsets me to think that it's starting to be like every other board on TK, where a central group of ladies run the damn thing and flame anyone they don't like.

    I'm incredibly disappointed that the DW board isn't the place it used to be, but I guess it was one of those things that was just too good to last. Shame on those ladies who are participating in the "secret board" just to make fun on others behind their back. You are grown women for God's sake, act like it. Women face enough criticism in everyday life without turning against one another. Whoever you are I hope you're reading this and let me tell you something....Karma is a b!tch. If you have the time and energy to create a "secret board" to make fun of others who are just trying to share their wedding planning and find help and support then you are a sad and bitter person who needs to concentrate on yourself and your issues instead of picking on others.

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    Perfectly said.

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  • imagemishy112:

    Shelli, what was the original purpose of the secret board? Do you still have access to it? 

    Any chance a girl can get some names here so she knows who to distance herself from?  I'm with Jamie - if that kind of crap makes its way over to this board, I'm done too. 

    And what the hell is the Land of Placenta?  

    I've since been banned from the Naughty Knottie Board.  Meghan had tried several times to 'join' but her requests were denied.  I know a few other tried as well, but oh well.  

    Lol @ Land of Placenta!!  It went from Squirrels to Placenta.  Interesting! 

  • imageSimplyMistaken:
    imagenatalie115:

    How sad to see that the DW is moving in that direction. That board was one of the few boards where the girls weren't snarky or hurtful and actually offered real support. Sure we had some drama now and then, but it was never from those of us who were "regulars". I'm sure there are still a number of girls over there that are sweet and friendly, but it upsets me to think that it's starting to be like every other board on TK, where a central group of ladies run the damn thing and flame anyone they don't like.

    I'm incredibly disappointed that the DW board isn't the place it used to be, but I guess it was one of those things that was just too good to last. Shame on those ladies who are participating in the "secret board" just to make fun on others behind their back. You are grown women for God's sake, act like it. Women face enough criticism in everyday life without turning against one another. Whoever you are I hope you're reading this and let me tell you something....Karma is a b!tch. If you have the time and energy to create a "secret board" to make fun of others who are just trying to share their wedding planning and find help and support then you are a sad and bitter person who needs to concentrate on yourself and your issues instead of picking on others.

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    Perfectly said.

    I agree 100%, Natalie.

    We have our fair share of drama every now and then (duh-we're a board full of opinionated women!) but to have a "secret board" just to talk about others is plain childish. 

    I hope these ladies don't even think about becoming a part of our ND boards!

  • Tell me about it! I dont need this drama in my life... I've got real issues in real life that I dont need to worry about girls talking sh*t in a virtual reality. Its stupid and petty and there are no real "reasons" given to these people to make them act this way other than they have nothing better to do.... It's sad that grown women resort to such stupid hurtful things. It ruins the whole community of the DW board that we have/had all grown to love. I'm glad that there are some good ones left! :) 
  • I really hope that she is no longer allowed to be a moderator on TK
  • imagesarlah:

    I went to an all-girls high school, and in some ways I think that taught me how to deal with different kinds of women... because I had to.

     

    Me too! 8th grade - college and it made me prefer men over women as friends.

  • imagenatalie115:

    How sad to see that the DW is moving in that direction. That board was one of the few boards where the girls weren't snarky or hurtful and actually offered real support. Sure we had some drama now and then, but it was never from those of us who were "regulars". I'm sure there are still a number of girls over there that are sweet and friendly, but it upsets me to think that it's starting to be like every other board on TK, where a central group of ladies run the damn thing and flame anyone they don't like.

    I'm incredibly disappointed that the DW board isn't the place it used to be, but I guess it was one of those things that was just too good to last. Shame on those ladies who are participating in the "secret board" just to make fun on others behind their back. You are grown women for God's sake, act like it. Women face enough criticism in everyday life without turning against one another. Whoever you are I hope you're reading this and let me tell you something....Karma is a b!tch. If you have the time and energy to create a "secret board" to make fun of others who are just trying to share their wedding planning and find help and support then you are a sad and bitter person who needs to concentrate on yourself and your issues instead of picking on others.

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    This! 

    And to those of you wondering who to avoid, she's probably done it for you. I know she defriended me and some others on FB. 

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  • imagemrsquetee09:
    imagesarlah:

    I went to an all-girls high school, and in some ways I think that taught me how to deal with different kinds of women... because I had to.

     

    Me too! 8th grade - college and it made me prefer men over women as friends.

    Same here. I attribute my preference to being friends with men over women because I dealt with like... every kind of woman when I was in high school, and I just figured out pretty quickly what kind of women I get along with.

     

    All this BS going on it so sad! Like Natalie said, women are torn down every.single.day in real life without us doing it to each other in virtual reality. I actually feel bad for those girls. Their lives must be very sad & empty if this is how they have to fill their time and make themselves feel good.

  • imagebeachybride10:
    imagenatalie115:

    How sad to see that the DW is moving in that direction. That board was one of the few boards where the girls weren't snarky or hurtful and actually offered real support. Sure we had some drama now and then, but it was never from those of us who were "regulars". I'm sure there are still a number of girls over there that are sweet and friendly, but it upsets me to think that it's starting to be like every other board on TK, where a central group of ladies run the damn thing and flame anyone they don't like.

    I'm incredibly disappointed that the DW board isn't the place it used to be, but I guess it was one of those things that was just too good to last. Shame on those ladies who are participating in the "secret board" just to make fun on others behind their back. You are grown women for God's sake, act like it. Women face enough criticism in everyday life without turning against one another. Whoever you are I hope you're reading this and let me tell you something....Karma is a b!tch. If you have the time and energy to create a "secret board" to make fun of others who are just trying to share their wedding planning and find help and support then you are a sad and bitter person who needs to concentrate on yourself and your issues instead of picking on others.

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    This! 

    And to those of you wondering who to avoid, she's probably done it for you. I know she defriended me and some others on FB. 

    Well said, Natalie!

    Ah, I did notice a few DW women who are no longer my FB friends. Good!

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  • I haven't been over to TK in ages but it's very unfortunate there seems to be some "bad eggs" over there (to say it nicely)...especially one that is a mod. 

    Plain and simple there are just some people in this world that suck.....suck the big one.  I've found that these people are better left to their own doings in their sad little world.  Don't fuel their fire, they will eventually get burned.

     Check out this book that was ordered for me for Christmas;

    http://www.amazon.ca/Hate-People-Loose-Overbearing-Underhanded/dp/0316032298

    It's geared more towards the workplace but should be a good read.  A friend ordered this for me because this is one of my sayings "I hate people".  Smile

     

    Tracy & John, December 11, 2008 - Melia Caribe Tropical - Punta Cana
  • So there was a post over on the DW board bringing this up and someone CLOSED the conversation.  BTW they did this with meghans the other day.  Hmmmm...too much power anyone??
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  • hoping over from the TK...

    it is a real shame...I now genuinely feel like I need to delete a lot of knotties of my Facebook because of this whole situation.

    I had always heard about how great the DW girls were and I feel like...I missed out.

    Oh well...won't be posting much anymore over there...

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  • imagebeckerz03:

    I had always heard about how great the DW girls were and I feel like...I missed out.

    Oh well...won't be posting much anymore over there...

    I think most of us on ND would say that the DW girls are always welcome over here.  It's sad that this kind of drama has to happen when you're already dealing with the drama of wedding planning, but you can always pop over here when you need a break from the craziness!

    My only advice to the current Knotties is to move past the drama and ignore the haters.  Continue to share your planning adventures with each other and be an example of what a great community the DW board can be for the new girls.  

     

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  • imageMistym05:
    This is just sad and disappointing! :-(

     

    agreed. geez. I know I never pop in over here anymore, but I think I should. I miss you girls. I was just bored sitting around waiting to go into labor and thought I'd check out what my DW nesties were up to...and I found this thread.

    Why be snarky to people you don't even know IRL? That crap does not fly here or on our bump board. Sorry people were so tacky and rude. And really, if it's spelling they want to make fun of, they should check out some of my posts, because I'm a chronic misspeller and have terrible grammar.  And no one really cares on these boards, which I appreciate.

  • I experienced something similar with the September 09 board when I was a member of that board.  I found out that a few of the girls were going to a different board on TK to discuss members of the Sept. board.  I called them out on it and it didn't go over very well.

    You have to put yourself first and move past the people that are immature.   

  • imagemrybrwn9:

    I experienced something similar with the September 09 board when I was a member of that board.  I found out that a few of the girls were going to a different board on TK to discuss members of the Sept. board.  I called them out on it and it didn't go over very well.

    You have to put yourself first and move past the people that are immature.   

    This is basically exactly what happened. 

  • imagemrybrwn9:

    You have to put yourself first and move past the people that are immature.   

    Exactly.

  • imageelectracity:
    ....A friend ordered this for me because this is one of my sayings "I hate people".  Smile

     

     

    That's one of my favorite too! I say it all the time!

    I hate people! Ironic b/c I work with them every day!

  • imagealisonpilgrim610:
    imageelectracity:
    ....A friend ordered this for me because this is one of my sayings "I hate people".  Smile

     

     

    That's one of my favorite too! I say it all the time!

    I hate people! Ironic b/c I work with them every day!

    So glad that I'm not the only one that says this all.the.time!  I'm going to let DH know this because he's convinced I'm the only one that says it!  LOL!

    Tracy & John, December 11, 2008 - Melia Caribe Tropical - Punta Cana
  • i hate people too!  lol.  (except for all you girls!)

    this is so super lame. 

  • imagenatalee215:

    I guess we were about due for some drama around here.  Something always seems to happen about once every 6 months or so.

    True.  Correct me if I'm wrong, but it's usually drama that is brought over here from other places (usually blogs, fb or TK).  I personally would prefer if people left their drama where it belongs (which is NOT on TN or TB).  If you're truly over the situation, then stop bringing it up and certainly don't be vague about it which makes everyone more curious and then it gets rehashed all over again.

  • Now I remember why I haven't looked at DW in nearly a year...  Won't be going back any time soon. 

    And who the frack has time for 823 thousand secret boards anyway?!?!?  I wish...

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