October 2010 Weddings
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A few thoughts

How about we all start over? After all we are all newbies to the nest....

I don't expect "puppies and rainbows" but the backhanded digs are getting old.  I keep hearing how this board is boring and how no one recognizes anyone and that the same things keep get posted over and over.

I recognize almost every single screen name that posts on here and I am def not part of the original group. I am also not sure what makes you an original but  there are new girls coming to this board every day and for people to make them feel unwelcome is not cool.  

Its an online board, its not some secret society. You can post when you feel like or not but when you do so please respect others feelings. Just because you are online doesn't give anyone the right to make others feel bad. There are many opinions and I personally like to hear them all, even if they differ from my own but there is a respectful way to go about it. 

I am in no way trying to set rules, I would just like the snarky crap to stop. So take it for what its worth.  

You may now go to back to your regularly scheduled programming. :-) 

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  • I think I may have missed something Montana but I agree if it is a problem that I missed.  Well said :-)
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  • Well said. We're all at different places in our lives now and the common ground that was our weddings has kind of dissappated. We all have to accept that not everything on here is what we want to read about on a given day. We also have to accept that we all have different opinions, I for one, don't find the board boring at all... it's slow at times, but it's also Jan. 2, the holidays are just over and we're all just resuming our normal lives.

    And if I wanted to see the ideas and opinions of others, or myself, attacked, I'd go back to high school. 

  • But MoOOooOoOooooooOOOoom! (in my best 8ish year old's voice)

    You're right of course, and I haven't done my part to help matters.  It's hard to ignore something that is directly or sneakily insulting, but I'll do my best. 

  • Well said and I think the key is to respect each others differing opinions and places in life. No one should take offense if a post is a topic they are not partaking in, etc..just don't reply.   I agree with Annabeth - the common thread was our weddings and now we are all doing separate things, but I believe we could all learn from one another!  :)
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  • Ok I definitely am missing something...am I that oblivious to the digs?
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  • Oops nevermind,.....I had skipped the book club post simply because I didn't have time to participate.  Now I can see the reason for this post.  Confusion cleared up
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  • imagemaheard:

    I recognize almost every single screen name that posts on here and I am def not part of the original group. I am also not sure what makes you an original but  there are new girls coming to this board every day and for people to make them feel unwelcome is not cool.  

    Its an online board, its not some secret society. You can post when you feel like or not but when you do so please respect others feelings. Just because you are online doesn't give anyone the right to make others feel bad. There are many opinions and I personally like to hear them all, even if they differ from my own but there is a respectful way to go about it. 

    I am in no way trying to set rules, I would just like the snarky crap to stop. So take it for what its worth.  

    You may now go to back to your regularly scheduled programming. :-) 

    What did I miss??  Who was being unwelcoming??  One snarky post about the book club lead to this post?? 

    Noone cares who is part of the "original" posters...Its just a new influx of girls here and "we" miss alot of the gals that posted and made things more fun...Just as much as everyone has the "right" to say how much they love this board, they have the right to say it sucks...

    Thats just my opinion though...

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  • there were some other snarky posts a while ago. it happens though...not that it's pleasant.

    my point of view, if you don't want to read it...don't. also being behind a computer doesn't give you a higher power that makes you better than people so why not keep the good old saying "if you don't have anything nice, don't say anything at all" rule around.

    heck...that might even come across as snarky, but I hate seeing people being talked down to or the board being put down because people feel safe here or are nice here. everyone has an opinion and there's nothing wrong with sharing it...just don't be snarky about it.

    just my 2 cents. and that wasn't directed at anyone in particular.

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  • imagelizzonyc:

    ...Just as much as everyone has the "right" to say how much they love this board, they have the right to say it sucks...

    And I don't mean any disrespect here, but I don't understand why someone would do this.  It seems like a huge waste of time.  Why would you spend time somewhere you didn't like?  It's like me hanging out at Hollister so I can tell people I think their store/clothes are dumb/pretentious.   Or hanging out at McDonald's so I can tell people their food sucks.  Why be somewhere you think sucks? 

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    imagelizzonyc:

    ...Just as much as everyone has the "right" to say how much they love this board, they have the right to say it sucks...

    And I don't mean any disrespect here, but I don't understand why someone would do this.  It seems like a huge waste of time.  Why would you spend time somewhere you didn't like?  It's like me hanging out at Hollister so I can tell people I think their store/clothes are dumb/pretentious.   Or hanging out at McDonald's so I can tell people their food sucks.  Why be somewhere you think sucks? 

     

    Ok, it was all fun and games until you started attacking brand names! Super Angry

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    Ok, it was all fun and games until you started attacking brand names! Super Angry

    LOL, I knew I should have added a disclaimer :P  I've been in a Hollister store exactly once in my life, and wished I'd brought a flash light with me. 

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    imagemelissamc2:

    Ok, it was all fun and games until you started attacking brand names! Super Angry

    LOL, I knew I should have added a disclaimer :P  I've been in a Hollister store exactly once in my life, and wished I'd brought a flash light with me. 

    LMAO!  It literally looks like a jungle to just walk in there.  My sister always says that she feels she needs a machete to enter the doors lol

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  • Funnily enough, my husband just walked in and I told him to point at his hoodie so I could take a photo:

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  • Haha....too funny

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  • LOL Melissa :)  Tell your hubby I mean no offense, and he is single handedly (or single hoodiedly) changing the face of Hollister in my head. :) 

  • imagelizzonyc:
    imagemaheard:

    I am in no way trying to set rules, I would just like the snarky crap to stop.  

    What did I miss??  Who was being unwelcoming??  One snarky post about the book club lead to this post?? 

    Noone cares who is part of the "original" posters...Its just a new influx of girls here and "we" miss alot of the gals that posted and made things more fun...Just as much as everyone has the "right" to say how much they love this board, they have the right to say it sucks...

    Thats just my opinion though...

    Not to be snarky myself or anything, but was it really necessary to respond to Montana's well-written, mature request with a bad attitude? I'm one who loves with board & I enjoy spending time reading what the other girls have to say, regardless of it pertains to my life at that moment. I love the girls on this board & I'm absolutely not taking a shot at you here Liz. But if you think it sucks, no one is forcing you to stay & read & have an attitude about it. If you don't like it, don't read it. I apologize if the post-wedding conversation isn't what YOU wanted it to be, but there's no point on people sh!tting all over a board that the rest of us enjoy being a part of.

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  • Hollister discussion aside.....

    I agree with what Montana originally posted.  There are times I cringe when I read what was posted in response to what started as an innocent question or story.  Just do what your mom always told you, "If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all."  Well at least to other girls on the board.  I think we all need this as a somewhat anonymous place to vent about our husbands, friends and family members (I have a MIL vent brewing right now.....)

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  • imagemaheard:

    Its an online board, its not some secret society. You can post when you feel like or not but when you do so please respect others feelings. Just because you are online doesn't give anyone the right to make others feel bad. There are many opinions and I personally like to hear them all, even if they differ from my own but there is a respectful way to go about it.

     

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    imagelizzonyc:
    imagemaheard:

    I am in no way trying to set rules, I would just like the snarky crap to stop.  

    What did I miss??  Who was being unwelcoming??  One snarky post about the book club lead to this post?? 

    Noone cares who is part of the "original" posters...Its just a new influx of girls here and "we" miss alot of the gals that posted and made things more fun...Just as much as everyone has the "right" to say how much they love this board, they have the right to say it sucks...

    Thats just my opinion though...

    Not to be snarky myself or anything, but was it really necessary to respond to Montana's well-written, mature request with a bad attitude? I'm one who loves with board & I enjoy spending time reading what the other girls have to say, regardless of it pertains to my life at that moment. I love the girls on this board & I'm absolutely not taking a shot at you here Liz. But if you think it sucks, no one is forcing you to stay & read & have an attitude about it. If you don't like it, don't read it. I apologize if the post-wedding conversation isn't what YOU wanted it to be, but there's no point on people sh!tting all over a board that the rest of us enjoy being a part of.

    Thank you Sara! I was trying to figure out how to respond to that and coudn't think of a way to say it!

    Well said Montana, I haven't noticed the snarkiness but I have been somewhat MIA for the last week. I am not an "original" member but the whole point of this boad is our common wedding month and there is no specific topic that is to be discussed on this board. So, IMO that means that anything can be posted not just specific topics. I agree with the other girls, if it doesn't interest you, don't read it, that simple.

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  • My gossip loving self must join in :)

    Okay, I'm on board with many of the thoughts discussed here (be smart, be welcoming, have fun, etc).

    However, stumbling upon the book exchange post and Aimee's comment (I'm assuming that is where this is mostly rooted from, save a few minor snarky moments of seen in the past few weeks), I'm fairly certain Aimee didn't posted with the best intentions.   She is an October bride, but she is not new to the Nest.  In her bio she describes her self as having a smart mouth.  It was evident to me that she's apart of a nest book club, but lurks here, and decided to show off her self-described smart mouth. 

    I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm just saying Aimee tried to stir the pot on the book-exchange post, and it worked.  Everyone got riled up. 

    Generally, the active 10-10ers here are good contributors, and it's easy for any newbies/lurkers who consider posting to see the general 'well-being' of the board.  Some gals on this board might be a little more honest, but I don't think anyone posts with malicous intentions... except Aimee ;)


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  • I know I'm not part of the oldies crowd, I started posting in March of last year, but I think we're fun as hell. Melissa's sarcasm brightens my days, as does Jena's. Montana's an amazing mod who is funny and sweet as pie. I love following the pregnancies, and I think we're flippin' awesome. 

    I miss some of the other girls who didn't come over to the Nest, but that was their choice. I certainly don't feel like this board sucks b/c they didn't choose to keep posting. And if it sucked THAT badly, no one would be here. 

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    I know I'm not part of the oldies crowd, I started posting in March of last year, but I think we're fun as hell. Melissa's sarcasm brightens my days, as does Jena's. Montana's an amazing mod who is funny and sweet as pie. I love following the pregnancies, and I think we're flippin' awesome. 

    I miss some of the other girls who didn't come over to the Nest, but that was their choice. I certainly don't feel like this board sucks b/c they didn't choose to keep posting. And if it sucked THAT badly, no one would be here. 

    All of THIS! :)


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  • imagelizzonyc:

    What did I miss??  Who was being unwelcoming??  One snarky post about the book club lead to this post?? 

    Noone cares who is part of the "original" posters...Its just a new influx of girls here and "we" miss alot of the gals that posted and made things more fun...Just as much as everyone has the "right" to say how much they love this board, they have the right to say it sucks...

    Thats just my opinion though...

     

    I have to agree with this. Being a public board, pretty much anyone can say anything they want. If you don't like the book club posts, don't read them. If you don't like the snarky posts, ignore them. It's just the internet. We shouldn't take anything anyone says that seriously. If it's a personal attack, that's one thing, and I wouldn't blame someone for jumping on them. If it's someone's opinion, no matter how strong their opinion is or how different from someone else's, it should be welcome.

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  • imageEmDizzle:

    is an October bride, but she is not new to the Nest.  In her bio she describes her self as having a smart mouth.  It was evident to me that she's apart of a nest book club, but lurks here, and decided to show off her self-described smart mouth. 

    I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm just saying Aimee tried to stir the pot on the book-exchange post, and it worked.  Everyone got riled up. 

    Generally, the active 10-10ers here are good contributors, and it's easy for any newbies/lurkers who consider posting to see the general 'well-being' of the board.  Some gals on this board might be a little more honest, but I don't think anyone posts with malicous intentions... except Aimee ;)

    Um... Aimee didn't "lurk from the Book Club".  She was/is an active 10-10er who, like most of us from back on the TK October 2010 board, has simply not gotten into TN as much as we were into TK.  It's quite inappropriate for you to believe that she is just some random with no right to voice her opinion in a 10-10 thread... she does.

    Also, outside of what was quoted above, Liz didn't say anything particularly rude or snarky.  She was simply offering her take on the matter.  I didn't realize we all had to agree with eachother without offering out insights?  I guess I don't post enough anymore to understand when that changed.

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  • imagemsmerymac:
    imagelizzonyc:

    What did I miss??  Who was being unwelcoming??  One snarky post about the book club lead to this post?? 

    Noone cares who is part of the "original" posters...Its just a new influx of girls here and "we" miss alot of the gals that posted and made things more fun...Just as much as everyone has the "right" to say how much they love this board, they have the right to say it sucks...

    Thats just my opinion though...

     

    I have to agree with this. Being a public board, pretty much anyone can say anything they want. If you don't like the book club posts, don't read them. If you don't like the snarky posts, ignore them. It's just the internet. We shouldn't take anything anyone says that seriously. If it's a personal attack, that's one thing, and I wouldn't blame someone for jumping on them. If it's someone's opinion, no matter how strong their opinion is or how different from someone else's, it should be welcome.

    And, as always, I agree with Meredith.

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  • I don't know what we are talking about.... perhaps bc I have a very thick skin and it takes a lot to piss me off so I didn't notice the snark (???) , or perhaps bc I don't enjoy reading so I have never opened to book club thread..... (?????)

    But ummm..... what the hell is a Hollister store? (No seriously, I've never heard of it.)

    I love puppies. I love new houses. I love pregnancies. I REALLY love new jobs! (YAYAYAY!) I don't really love reading books but I'm glad you do if it makes you happy. That is all I have to say. =P

    Anyhoo...... I have no point other than what has already been said above, really. So I'll shut up now. (I just felt like I needed to be a part of things..... weeeeeeeeeeeeee!) 

    (Anyone wanna shoot me now? I have no idea what has gotten into me today...)

     


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  • I also have to say that in life, you encounter people with different opinions and outlooks. So I question the wisdom of building walls to keep OUT different opinions on an internet message board, as though you can somehow keep yourself from ever hearing anything remotely critical or negative.
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  • imagexoxpipahxox:
    imageEmDizzle:

    is an October bride, but she is not new to the Nest.  In her bio she describes her self as having a smart mouth.  It was evident to me that she's apart of a nest book club, but lurks here, and decided to show off her self-described smart mouth. 

    I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm just saying Aimee tried to stir the pot on the book-exchange post, and it worked.  Everyone got riled up. 

    Generally, the active 10-10ers here are good contributors, and it's easy for any newbies/lurkers who consider posting to see the general 'well-being' of the board.  Some gals on this board might be a little more honest, but I don't think anyone posts with malicous intentions... except Aimee ;)

    Um... Aimee didn't "lurk from the Book Club".  She was/is an active 10-10er who, like most of us from back on the TK October 2010 board, has simply not gotten into TN as much as we were into TK.  It's quite inappropriate for you to believe that she is just some random with no right to voice her opinion in a 10-10 thread... she does.

    Also, outside of what was quoted above, Liz didn't say anything particularly rude or snarky.  She was simply offering her take on the matter.  I didn't realize we all had to agree with eachother without offering out insights?  I guess I don't post enough anymore to understand when that changed.

     

    Thank you for saying this!!!   

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     I basically just aided the building of a conversation in the opposite direction of what Montana started, and I'm sincerely sorry. 


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  • imagexoxpipahxox:
    imageEmDizzle:

    is an October bride, but she is not new to the Nest.  In her bio she describes her self as having a smart mouth.  It was evident to me that she's apart of a nest book club, but lurks here, and decided to show off her self-described smart mouth. 

    I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm just saying Aimee tried to stir the pot on the book-exchange post, and it worked.  Everyone got riled up. 

    Generally, the active 10-10ers here are good contributors, and it's easy for any newbies/lurkers who consider posting to see the general 'well-being' of the board.  Some gals on this board might be a little more honest, but I don't think anyone posts with malicous intentions... except Aimee ;)

    Um... Aimee didn't "lurk from the Book Club".  She was/is an active 10-10er who, like most of us from back on the TK October 2010 board, has simply not gotten into TN as much as we were into TK.  It's quite inappropriate for you to believe that she is just some random with no right to voice her opinion in a 10-10 thread... she does.

    Also, outside of what was quoted above, Liz didn't say anything particularly rude or snarky.  She was simply offering her take on the matter.  I didn't realize we all had to agree with eachother without offering out insights?  I guess I don't post enough anymore to understand when that changed.

     

    THIS!! I really think Liz was not saying this board sucks. She was just saying people ought to have the right to voice their opinion no matter what it is. Like Meredith said, it's the internet and people are going to voice their opinion no matter the subject.

    I honestly don't know why but it seems some people are on edge lately, I guess 2011 did start off with a bang....???

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