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not to stir up the drama again, but...
1. I've deleted everyone off of my FB from on here. Nothing personal to about 98% of you, but I don't want a bunch of fake internet biotches looking at my page and seeing my personal info. I only knew a few of the fake ones so I deleted everyone just in case. If I haven't deleted you please delete me.
2. I *WAS* a member of that wonderful FB group half of the members here can't join because they're not good enough to be accepted. I've been a member for probably close to a year and the past few days have been absolutely disgusting on there. If I was a rat I would have totally copied and pasted the crap that's on there.
HOW OLD ARE YOU "WOMEN"? Seriously. Still talking about this crap on there when everyone here has let go. I let go, but saw more mocking today and got fed up.
Making fun of threads on here meant to bring a positive light back to the board. Basically laughing at the fact some of them were mentioned. Screw you. Get off your high horse. If someone on here cared enough to actually mention you and you make fun of them or whatever you're just a jerk. *trying to watch my language*
I'm 30 years old and left this crap back in high school. Most of you are close to your thirties...hell even your twenties are too old for this crap. Making fun of girls because you say they don't have any RL friends and lean on the forum girls too much or think too highly of internet friends. These girls are opening up because they feel/felt safe here and you blast them on some FB page. Whatever.
Anyway that's me stiring up the pot. For the snooty biotches that want to talk behind my back now on FB go for it. Hope I gave you something to look forward to and entertain yourself with today since you obviously have nothing better in your lives to focus on. Don't worry...I've deleted myself from your group so you won't have to worry about me reading your bull. Enjoy, have fun, and I hope if you know my real name you spell it right when mocking me. It annoys me when people spell my name wrong.
Love to the rest of you, sorry for starting more drama.
Re: not to stir up the drama again, but...
I debated on responding to this or not for fear of an outbreak, but decided that I need to Thank you for this post.
So all I have to say is: Thank you Thank you Thank you!
I don't think that you will be "stiring the pot" at all. We are over it and I wish that they would join the "over it" club.
My dear friend....I'm not so sure you did put it behind you. Why else would you find it nessecary to respond in any fashion to the FB posts in any other place than on FB?
I'm sorry things have gone haywire for everyone. I for one am not to close to many of you due to my life being crazy outside of the internet world therefore I was not able to be here.
However, I do feel you are being somewhat of a hypocrite by posting about people that are posting about people. See what I'm sayin? Perhaps we should all take a break from our internet friends and keep intouch with the ones present in our lives local to us. If you wish to be close to girls on here then perhaps you should get their address of phone number?
These are my thoughts. Good luck everyone and a happy, fruitful new year!
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This!!! I think you managed to vent in a way that shouldn't offend most people (I thought everything was well put, but I can't speak for everyone!)
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...I think we all need to let it die out. Otherwise, this will never end. Let them talk their sh*t on FB, and we'll enjoy the lovely, awesome ladies that are still on this board (and there are MANY).
Exactly this!
I think the majority of the people who will be offended by this post or who will make negative comments about it are the ones who know they're doing the stuff I mentioned. Obviously I knew some people would be upset for causing drama again without them being involved in the bashing so I know not everyone who may leave a negative comment is "guilty".
As for letting it die I agree. I just got so fed up reading this stuff over the past couple of days because they're doing it in a place people can't defend themselves and they're bashing people who are truly nice people trying to improve a negative situation. This is the only place EVERYONE has access to right now so that's why it's here.
That's all I've got to say. I believe I said enough and if it needs to be deleted, locked, whatever I won't be offended.
I can understand posting this because you wanted to explain why you had deleted people of off........OMG FB......and you didn't want anyone's feelings hurt, and that's cool.
But why did you have to bring up the stuff about the so called "fb group"?
FB is always causing trouble *shakes fist*
Ah fair enough. Sorry thenest is slow, so by the time my post finally went through your response was up.
I very much agree with you, Brooke. There are many awesome ladies here. But the bottom line is there are some girls on the board that just rub each other the wrong way. Those wanting a more tame environment are cool here, but the ones looking for something else...well... they went somewhere else.
I fail to see how that's worse that staying here and constantly fighting.
Diff'rent strokes, diff'rent folks.
And so on and so on.
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I also think that when people talk about what is said in private and don't "copy and paste" as you put it that it can sometimes be made out to be worse than it truly is and while I'm sure that trust in each other is not fully warranted in some cases, don't feel that everyone who is on the other site is stabbing you in the back.
People often wind up going in tangents and making light at the end of a serious post, it doesn't mean that they are trying to make fun of the OP.
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I believe this is what caused the issue. Post were locked because of a disagreement. EVERYONE didn't get to say their piece. IMO, if they had been allowed this would have all died.
Some people thought the posts should have been locked, and others did not. Its just a matter of people wanting different things from this board.
THIS. I'm so tired of hearing about the secret society outside the TN that some can access and some can't. Everyone on both sides needs to move on. Deep Breaths.
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It's obvious that people can't say what they want to say around here, posts get locked and panties get in a bunch and they are horrible people for having a real opinion that differs from everyone else.
Well said, J.
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I have to agree with this. I don't think any of the hurtful remarks should be posted here, because that won't serve any purpose at all. But I do think it's a mistake to say "Oh, there are these really hurtful posts, but you can't see them," because that just has a tendency to breed paranoia and discontent. I get the motivation behind the original post, but I kind of think it's just opening a whole new can of worms.
FWIW, I was late in the game to TK, but I think it was kind of inevitable that people would choose to post elsewhere after the weddings, and that the tone of the board would change. I think that perhaps everyone was really focused on being positive about froofy wedding details (I realize I'm oversimplifying), and maybe didn't notice how different people's true posting styles were. Or maybe they were more willing to put up with them because of the shared experience. And now that the weddings are over and things are settling down, people are being a little more "real" (for lack of a better word), and it just doesn't mesh well. It happens. It's the internet. And different posting styles do not equal an indictment of you (general you) personally. It's just how thing s are in life. And as long as people can remember that, and not toss a lit match into the room when leaving or getting out the flamethrowers when others leave, then it shouldn't be a big deal.
(For those interested = the old stomping grounds, TK Oct 2010 board)
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That's too bad. I never thought people fought that much on this board, even when they did state their opinion.
There are a lot of girls that "moved" out that kind of sucks since they we're awesome. I can't say I've ever had a problem with anyone on this board.
1. To the OP: We would have never noticed you left the group, so no need to prepare us for the pain we would have never felt.
2. HZ.. why you stalking?
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you, Tara. And I agree with Destiny and will add that it is definitely easier to like someone when all you can judge them on is their wedding choices instead of their personalities.
For the OP - you obviously didn't pay much attention to the group because 1) if you've been there a year and were upset by it's content - you were in the wrong place because it had been pretty dead. and also - it's called being FUNNY.
Thanks for not pointing fingers - but I sincerely meant that it is sad that people are having low self-esteem three months after marrying the men of their dreams. Just because I think not venturing out into society is dumb doesn't mean I'm a cold-hearted b*tch. Just sayin'
For you, (who's obviously interested, which is creepy stalker weirdo stuff) "the old stomping grounds" the Knot 1010 board, isn't even the half of it. We went somewhere where we could be totally honest, and it's not the FB group either, so you can stop requesting to be in it.
If you "happy clappy, let's love each other, warm fuzzy girls" saw it, you would clutch your pearls and have a massive coronary explosion.
And to OP, a lot of us have no idea who you are so get over yourself. I don't think we were FB friends, but if we were and you deleted me I would probably be relieved because I would've just added you in the first place to be nice.
hollla! oh yes.
I know I'd said I'd stay out of the drama and up until my post yesterday, as far as I'm aware I had.
I'm not "stalking" at all. I still have TK Oct 2010 board on my internet favorites and make a weekly trip or so over to a few of my fav TK boards, so when I went to TK (via my bookmark for TK Oct 2010) yesterday and noticed all of the new posts on Oct 2010, I said something here.
It's definitely not stalking, get off your high frikkin horses. I have nothing against anyone here (and/or now on TK) and like "chatting" with all of you.
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Oh please Hannah. You "check" a board that's been dead for months? You're special. You obviously do care since you felt the need to come back here and say where a lot of the girls went.
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