August 2009 Weddings
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Flame Free Confessions
Hey Ladies,
I know we don't do this often, but I have one...
Today is my first day off after work 11 straight days in a row. Eleven! And all 8 hour shifts, too. Well, DH crawled back into bed after he got up for work. I asked him what was going on. He called in sick because he's tired. Seriously? Now the cat is periodically yowling at the bedroom door and I'm doing nothing to stop him. And, I'm going to go now and turn on the light to get my things and go to my appointment.
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Re: Flame Free Confessions
Good for you Rx, I would do the same thing, which I did this morning. Light went on at 6:00 a.m. because I just couldn't seem to find my clothes. (Even though I had them layed out from the night before, ha ha)
My FFC. I have been spending money like crazy over the past couple of weeks. I am seriously out of control. We don't have the extra money to spend, and I am scared to show DH our credit card bill. The worst part, I have nothing to show for these purchases. I think I have come to the point where I need to cut up my credit cards. I just got paid, and with the new deductions, I don't know how I am going to pay all the bills. Especially now since I know my payment has gone up. I used to be so good with money, and now, not so much.
DH needs to pass his boards first try and get a job. We can't be a one income family anymore. It is at the point where it is just to much for me now.
I'm supposed to go to my good friends house tomorrow for a party. I asked her yesterday who's going and its the "mommy club" (the 3 girls - and their H's- that are mom's in our group of friends who don't go anywhere unless they all go together)....
One just had a baby in November, who I was/am thrilled for... however, she's become one of those mom's who posts something daily on FB about their kid and has created an album for what seems like each of the 12 days of christmas (Christmas Eve!, Christmas Day!, Other December!, NYE!, 2months! - no joke)..... If all they do is talk babies I'm going to freak out. The friend who is hosting knows about my M/C but these three girls don't.... I'm starting to wonder if I should change my RSVP.
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
You read my mind! I so need to confess.
H is sick and it's driving me up the wall. I sympathize, but he's taking it way far. He's pushing through work, writing and volunteer duties, but the result is a huge grump at home. And he is absolutely raring to pick a fight with me--I feel like I've been tip-toeing around him this week.
Then he'll turn around and thank me for being patient and understanding. Which is nice but at the same time: I can only take so much of his moodiness. We're flying to see my brother in Boston this weekend and he's already said he wishes he could stay and rest. Honestly? At this point, I kind of wouldn't mind it because it'd give me a break from his grumpiness.
I confess that I am beyond irritated at DH for saying "oh, I almost forgot I have a 4-day weekend" when he knows darn well that I get a 1-day weekend. He is well aware that I am slammed at work, I'm putting in 5 12-hour days a week plus Saturdays, and I won't get a single day of PTO until Easter. He works 4 10-hour days and always gets a 3-day weekend, which is bad enough.
Stop rubbing it in my face that I'm at work and you're not.
I got invited on a girls cruise in October that I really want to go on, but DH and I already decided to start TTC this month. If I do get pregnant in the next 5 months, I wouldn't be able to go. I don't want to say I'll go and lose my down payment if I get pregnant, I don't want to put it off cuz I don't want to tell people we are TTC and I don't want to not go, cuz I feel like that will be jinxing myself and I won't get pregnant.
On that same note, I am scared to death of TTC. I am really excited, but I'm scared I won't be able to get pregnant, I'm scared I'll have a m/c, I'm scared something will be wrong with the baby, I'm scared everything will be fine but the kid will die in a car accident when he/she's a teenager. I know I can't control any of that, so I should just let it go and see what happens, but I have always been a worrier.
Wow, I feel like a crazy person now.
My husband is growing a beard and I hate it. It is so scratchy when he goes to kiss me. He is bald so his facial hair is his "hair". Think he would notice if I shave it off while he is sleeping? I had him try washing his face with conditioner and no luck.
I'm in that head space too, and we've not decided to TTC yet. I say go on the trip, yeah, you might not be able to drink, but even if you're KU, you'd still have fun!
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
You have to take each day as it comes. If you don't you will drive yourself nuts and make yourself sick. Trust me, I am a huge worrier. FWIW, if you are thinking about the cruise most cruise lines will not let you if you are passed 24 weeks. Can you maybe suggest something besides a cruise, like a girls getaway for a few days to a sunny, warm place?
The Daily Nugget
Cycle 12, IUI #1 - 33m post wash 10/15/10 = BFN
Cycle 13, IUI #2 - 15m post wash 11/16/10 = BFP, missed m/c, D&C 1/3/11
Cycle 15 - 18, IUI #3-6 = BFN
Cycle 20, IUI #7 = BFP!, missed m/c 9/14, D&C
DE-IVF Aug. 2012: ER 8/30 11R, 7M, 4F; ET 9/4 returned 2
Beta 9/18 #1-820, #2-1699, #3-7124
10/1 1st u/s measuring right on track, 125 bpm
(about to get personal/tmi)... not sure of your "situation" down there, but I have a hard time getting excited for yoga - in many physical ways.... on vaca I brought some ky (which we norm never use) it really helped.... figured i'd throw that out there in case it can help you too
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
It was a mental failure, not a physical one, but I'll keep that in mind for next time.
The Daily Nugget
Cycle 12, IUI #1 - 33m post wash 10/15/10 = BFN
Cycle 13, IUI #2 - 15m post wash 11/16/10 = BFP, missed m/c, D&C 1/3/11
Cycle 15 - 18, IUI #3-6 = BFN
Cycle 20, IUI #7 = BFP!, missed m/c 9/14, D&C
DE-IVF Aug. 2012: ER 8/30 11R, 7M, 4F; ET 9/4 returned 2
Beta 9/18 #1-820, #2-1699, #3-7124
10/1 1st u/s measuring right on track, 125 bpm
We had an early morning flight to Cincinnati for a friend's wedding (H is a GM) and just checked into the hotel that the bridal party and all the guests are staying at.
It is the sh!ttiest hotel EVER. I feel like a total snob but I am used to much better accommodations. I've already called the Westin to see if they have availability, and we're seriously considering jumping ship and fleeing to 4-star comfort. I don't want to offend the B & G though, since they obviously picked this hotel.
uh. we've been TTC since October. my "fertile week" is this week and as much as I want to jump DH's bones every night, I've been stressed with this darned winter class. I finally finished the last of my work last night, but we're both going to be busy doing separate things this weekend, so I don't know if we'll have a chance to yoga. I'm not stressed about it not happening yet, but I WANT it to damnit.
ALSO, my ex-best friend/MOH/now drug addict is logged onto gmail right now for the first time in months, and part of me wants to gchat her and ream her out for being high at my wedding and talking shiit about me and DH behind our backs and not supporting my marriage yet she STOOD UP at my wedding. but I won't. because I am an adult, and arguing with an idiot is pointless.
TTC since October 2010 | BFP 12/29/11 | RRQ BORN 08/26/12
planned | married | blogged
No, I kind of understood that.... for me, the two are strongly connected. I've been having a hard time having any "mood" for it (from all that has happened emotionally and physically)... when there is no mood, there is no way its going to happen, um, comfortably.
For the sake of the fact I want to move past all this and get back on track and do this outside of TTC, using that really helped with getting things going.... once they were going I was able to let go and have some fun. We've been in a huge funk with having any drive to do this 'just because'... I want the stress of it all to go away.
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
Ugh, I understand that this is a cultural thing, but I would also have a really hard time swallowing this sort of attitude. If retired parents needed help making ends meet for living expenses, that might be one thing, but to help them afford vacations - while you guys are trying to get on your own feet - is just too much.
Wait.... isn't this the concept of "Dear John" (which I never read nor saw).... she'll wait around because it happened in the movies!
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
Can I say something and not piss you off? Although obviously I've never met her (well and you for that matter), I never liked her from looking at all your FB pictures. Something about her bothered me and made me think she was a b*tch. Also, I realize it is super judgy to not like someone just from seeing pictures of them, but there was just something about her.
dude, this doesn't piss me off at all. in fact, after we had our falling out, I've had several people tell me that they never liked her and they thought I was too good of a friend to her and that she didn't deserve my friendship. I've been informed of SO many nasty things she's said about me and Sean and our marriage, including "I can't believe she got engaged, that'll never last" - nice, huh?
also, I want to point out that I've tried to help her, even offering to send her to rehab. I've tried to be non-judgmental, but after so many efforts being ignored and after so many fights, I'm just bitter.
TTC since October 2010 | BFP 12/29/11 | RRQ BORN 08/26/12
planned | married | blogged
I never read or saw it either, but the whole thing just make me nauseous. Why put your feelings out there for something that is most likely not going to work out? BIL has plenty of other issues that make me just as angry, but some I try to overlook because he maybe doesn't know better. But, this just makes me crazy. And, as I said, I'm not going to feel bad for him.
I have tons of confessions - how much time do you have?
1) I had an annual appt with my gyno Wednesday. I have a birth control implant in my arm (Implanon) and it's due to come out in June. We started talking about pregnancy and the preparation etc. It's something I so desperately want, but am so terrified to actually do. I think sharing in the grief with this board, and having some IRL friends with issues has really shown me that pregnancies are not easy, and not to be taken for granted. I'm not quite to the point of accepting the risks along with the perks.
2) I need to get myself back on track with my workouts. The scale was very unforgiving at my doc appt, and beyond that, I'm just not happy with the way I feel with these extra lbs. I'm lacking in motivation, and that's what scares me most.
That is scary. I would be afraid too. My 20 yr old brother just failed his first semester of college and had to move back home. I also caught him smoking weed in my parents basement when he came home for break (he never returned). My older brother and I caught him stoned many times in a two week period. I am so worried about him. I am afraid that this is a coping skill for him. My parents made him go see a counselor and that has seem to help. I guess the only thing to do is let them know you care.
On a side note I would really like to punch a coworker in their face.
That is scary. I would be afraid too. My 20 yr old brother just failed his first semester of college and had to move back home. I also caught him smoking weed in my parents basement when he came home for break (he never returned). My older brother and I caught him stoned many times in a two week period. I am so worried about him. I am afraid that this is a coping skill for him. My parents made him go see a counselor and that has seem to help. I guess the only thing to do is let them know you care.
On a side note I would really like to punch a coworker in their face.
You're not crazy. I am the same way and I talked to my doctor about it because it's starting to cause depression and anxiety which makes me feel horrible. Along those lines, she said you'll worry when they graduate college that they won't find a job, and then when they're 40 and going through a divorce you'll still worry. Her point is that being a parent will always come with it's share of worries and it never ends, it's part of the territory but the rewards of being a parent are priceless
My FFC is that I gained 10 pounds in December alone. Prior to that, I had only gained 5 pounds the entire pregnancy. My doctor is not pleased and now I have to go in every three weeks so she can monitor my weight gain. I'm supposed to try to limit my gain to 25 pounds overall and even though she says not to worry about it, of course I can't help but be worried.
I'm also frustrated at my weight gain, but clearly not frustrated enough otherwise I wouldn't be stuffing my face full of chocolate as I am right now.
I would also like to confess that I'm totally unenthusiastic about Phil cooking my birthday dinner for me because something will go wrong and he'll be asking me every 5 minutes what he should be doing next. I might as well just do it myself, you know?
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I confess that I am stressed about TTC again. We just officially started trying again in December which I'm so happy about, but I'm so nervous at the same time. I drive myself crazy thinking about stuff sometimes. Also, I got AF yesterday and I was way more disappointed than I thought I would be. I don't know why.. I know we just started trying again and I need to give it time. There's just something about getting AF when you're trying to not get it I guess.
Which brings me to my other confession that even though I'm ultra broke, I charged $145 worth of stuff at VS yesterday to make myself feel better. It was the end of the semi-annual sale and all sale bras were $15.99 & sale panties $2.99. Plus all the clearance lingerie/sleepwear and beauty was 75% off. So that's my excuse!
I confess that I feel like a horrible mother because there are days when it feels like I was never pregnant and this whole thing never happened. There are days when my life feels almost normal, and then I feel like I'm suppose to be sad. It's like people expect me to still be a huge mess and I'm not. Being honest with myself there were some days where I wasn't sure how I was going to ever survive this, but now I have a hard time picturing just how different my life would be. It just makes me feel like maybe I didn't love them enough.