maiden/married name decision ... any regrets?

MichellePete · January 2011

I disliked my maiden name because I always had to spell it and no one ever pronounced it correctly. I was also always at the end of the alphabet in school so I was picked last and I disliked that as a kid. I joked that I would find a man who had a short easy last name that was at teh beginning of the alphabet.

I did.

Guess what? I still have to spell the freaking name! It's Banks. How do you screw up Banks? I've had people call me Vanks, Danks, Anks... *sigh*

mrs.raz · January 2011

I took DH's name. I always thought I would change my middle name to my maiden name but my initials would have been KKK.

meesa31 · January 2011

I kept my maiden name as a second middle name.

ZERO regrets.

I just sign with two middle initials. Its kind of fun, I think. My business cards have two intials and I always put my two middle initials on things whenever I can.

I got to keep my association with my maiden name (which I liked) and still get to have DH's last name. My sister fully took her DH's last name and she now says she wished she would have done what I did.

It such a personal decision that you just have to do what is right for you. And for me, this was the right thing.

nicole0066 · January 2011

I took DH's name when we got married. To me there was never any question about whether I would or not. It was something that I wanted to do and felt like it united us together as a family. It was a little weird at first, but the transition went smoothly and I don't have any regrets at all over taking his name.

chaoticmum · January 2011

I hated my maiden name so there was no question of changing it or not. And even though my husband's name fit my nationality better, I still think it sounds dumb with my first name, which I've also never been a fan of. I also added my birthfamily's name as a second middle name, so I have four names now.

So my only regret is not changing my first name too! My first name is completely Swiss/German and my other three names are very Latina. Humbug.

mac17 · January 2011

jennyk213:
I was going to keep my maiden name and then I made a last minute decision to hyphenate my last name. I was literally in sight of the marriage license counter, pulled a pen out of my purse and hyphenated it. Who the he!! knows what came over me.
I have huge regrets. I was my maiden name for 31 years and that's who I am. I don't feel like this name fits me at all and I hate the comments I get from random people. Unfortunately, I don't have a spare $300-something to have it legally changed back. I use my full name on legal documents but I rarely sign with my full name.

I did the exact same thing when I went to get my marriage license. I really love my last name and my husband's is a little tough. There are days I wish I would have kept mine or just taken his. On the up side, no one will ever have my last name.

Because my last name is a little tricky to say, my kids at school just call me Ms. Mel.

*sallymad* · January 2011

ugh. Yes. I decided to hyphenate because I felt like I losing another part of my Dad by dropping my maiden name (he died when I was 21). So it resulted in the longest last name ever. Ok not ever but it's pretty long. I didn't regret it until I was pregnant with dd1 and had to say and spell my entire last name at every doctors appt. I keep meaning to change it to dh's last name but I'm too lazy lol.

malisaann · January 2011

I just got married 3 months ago and haven't changed my name yet, but I'm going to keep my maiden name as a second middle name. I'm really attached to it and there is nobody in my family to carry it on, both among my siblings and cousins on my dad's side. So I'd like to keep it in the family for as long as possible. I may also use it as a middle name for children in the future.

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