To Swallow or Not to Swallow

Mrs*May24th · February 2011

This is my first ever post and i'm really uncomfortable but i guess i should just say it. DH and i have been married for almost 2 years and its been great. The sex is great and we both reciprocate with oral. However, he wants to finish inside of my mouth and i just am disgusted by thought of it. He's been trying to get me to at least to consider the idea as a 2 year anniversary present but i just don't want to. He says i don't necessarily have to swallow it and that i can spit it out. But i just don't see that happening but i do want to keep him satisfied. Can anyone share your thoughts on your experiences with it. It would be greatly appreciated.

ReturnOfKuus · February 2011

I don't see why you can't just spit it out.

JacquelineTyler · February 2011

ReturnOfKuus:
I don't see why you can't just spit it out.

Yes Agreed

lovestory4 · February 2011

I honestly don't mind it at all, it doesn't really taste like anything most of the time. I actually prefer swallowing to cleaning up after intercourse. I think if it means that much to you DH then you could do it just once to make him happy. If you do decide to do it, I personally think its easier to just swallow then to spit it out. I feel like you taste it more spitting it out. I would just suck it up for the night, a little mind over matter. You can brush your teeth right after and it will be like it never happened

Plus I'm pretty sure that your DH will appreciate the sacrifice since you're so against it, and maybe return the favor in some way. Some studies say semen can act as an antidepressant or stress reliever, so you could benefit it that way too!

Lane05 · February 2011

I think if you are really not comfortable with it then your H should be OK with pulling out of your mouth at the last minute, or you spitting it out. You can have a tissue ready and make it a pretty quick process.

Pure Romance makes a fun product called "good head." There are a few flavor varieties. I use it more as a lubricant during oral as my H doesn't usually prefer to finish that way. It's supposed to help with relaxation etc. while giving oral.

Good Luck. Keep talking to him about how you feel. Communication is always the best thing when it comes to bedroom issues.

GibbyLod · February 2011

I can complete understand. I am the same way. I don't want to be repulsed by it but I just can't help it. Even if I spit it out, it doesn't matter for me. But, like all good wives I tried to find a way around it for my H. The one thing I have tried that I would recommend is to try improving the taste with some sort of flavored gel. I know it might sound odd, I got this gag gift at my bachelorette's that included (among other things) a strawberry flavored "lick me licker" gel. To be honest it was the only time I didn't feel like throwing up afterwards. So if you really want to give it one more chance for your 2 year anniversary, it might be worth a try. Good luck.

Roherynn · February 2011

What are you disgusted about? If it's the taste, it's probably H's diet. My FI's tastes like salt, but one time he ate bacon and I got a bacon-ey flavor that time.

I can understand his wanting to do that, but having a compromise would be the best solution.

MrSTyLeR11 · February 2011

I am sitting on both sides of the fence. Some days I swallow, some days I spit it out. Some days it's thick and creamy (TMI?), some days it seems not so thick so it's easier to swallow. If you don't like the idea of swallowing, give him oral, then run to the sink and spit it out. Thats what I do some times and it doesn't ruin our mood.. we get a quick laugh out of it! Do it for your husband to make him happy

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MissyCee · February 2011

Roherynn:
What are you disgusted about? If it's the taste, it's probably H's diet. My FI's tastes like salt, but one time he ate bacon and I got a bacon-ey flavor that time.

I can understand his wanting to do that, but having a compromise would be the best solution.

Umm, he would have had to eat a TON of bacon for you to actually taste bacon in his semen.

OP,you really should try it at least once, it's really not that bad. You can spit it out, but I think it's easier to just swallow it. Have a drink nearby and take a sip of something right after, taste will be gone immediately. It obviously is something your H reeeeeally wants (dont' all men?). What if you make a deal and ask him to do something new for you in return? Make it fun and don't let the fear of the unknown make it feel like a chore.

Roherynn · February 2011

All I can say is that it usually tastes salty, but that time it had a bacon flavor. Tongue Tied

tmkd · February 2011

Who cares, just swallow it.

TarponMonoxide · February 2011

Roherynn:

What are you disgusted about? If it's the taste, it's probably H's diet. My FI's tastes like salt, but one time he ate bacon and I got a bacon-ey flavor that time.

I can understand his wanting to do that, but having a compromise would be the best solution.

All I can think of is that episode of SATC where Samantha had the bf whose spunk was funky. She had him drink pineapple juice.

l_herron · February 2011

I have a really, really strong gag reflex-as in if I eat something I don't like (green beans, for example) I gag. I have let H "finish" in my mouth a few times and have swallowed once, but it was difficult.

I think if I didn't have this problem I would be happy to do it more often-especially since he enjoys it so much.

ArmyWife82409 · February 2011

I hate the taste too, and told my hubby it was out of the question. But a few months later he asked me to give it a shot and I did. I had a towel right next to me, and I swallowed a little bit and spit out the rest.

The first time I almost puked, but the second time wasn't as bad. I'm going to try it again when he gets home (he's deployed right now), and hopefully it gets better. But all of you have given me new ideas to try to make it easier

rochella · February 2011

I prefer swallow to spit because you don't even taste it when you swallow, at least I don't. I have only spit once and I tasted EVERYTHING then, because it hits all your taste buds on its way out. Even then, not the end of the world, but I'm certainly not lining up to go taste semen all the time.

Just try it!

ColeM320 · February 2011

just swallow.

baconsmom · February 2011

ReturnOfKuus:
I don't see why you can't just spit it out.

Or have him shoot for the back of your throat, and bypass the tongue altogether.

I don't enjoy the taste of semen - I mean, it's not meant to taste good, is it? - but I swallow regularly. It's a little thing I dislike in the scheme of things, and it doesn't hurt me, and a bottle of water on the nightstand solves any lingering aftertaste issues.

I would at least try it for him, on the understanding that if you hate it, you don't ever have to do it again. And if you don't want to do it again, is there some alternative you can suggest that would be just as hot for him? Letting him come on your breasts, perhaps?

married2thebest · February 2011

like others said...It really isn't that bad. Swallow quickly or keep a tissue next to you and spit it out. If he gives you oral, it it the least you can do for him. He doesn't have any choice about having your fluids in his mouth.

I have read that what men eat can sometimes change the taste of the semen. You could look that up online.

heather&edwin · February 2011

I will usually let him finish in my mouth...with the goal being get it as FAR back in my mouth as possible...no taste, no contact with tongue, no clean up! Everybodys happy! Now if he finishes without being in the back of my throat...then involuntarially i end up pushing it back out lol other options are let him finish inside me, a little more "clean up" but no tasting! Not that it tastes bad...its just kind of "slimey" and not the most appetizing, but not nauseating by any means.

Derniermot · February 2011

Just try it. Dont think too much about it.

Tough Taters · February 2011

Ick, the idea of jogging off to the bathroom sink with it in my mouth then spitting out it...that would surely make me sick. I say, if it's in your mouth already, just swallow. Seems easier than trying to spit it out.

marlin123 · February 2011

I think sometimes in your head you make it worse than it really is.

I was kinda terrified to swallow the first time I did - but was suprised how it really wasn't bad at all.

So give it a try.

ryry1977 · February 2011

I have always swallowed. Never thought much about it. Try it and spit it out first and see from there.

+LuckyVal+ · February 2011

IDK, it seems like a pretty MM alternative to buying him something for your anniversary Big Smile

My H suggested you ask him if he wants you to snowball him, it's best to share this gift

pregaftertubal · February 2011

how about having some drinky drinky first. let your body relax with your favorite adult beverage!

jck2009 · February 2011

After reading several responses I have to say, I don't swallow either. I did it, literally, one time. And I threw up afterwards. My SO loved that I crossed the line for him, but when he realized just how sick it made me, he never asked again. I'm not saying you are going to be sick but some women just can't take it. For me, it's not a taste thing as much as a texture thing. I also don't drink milkshakes or anything that's got a creamy texture.

I say, do it once, and if you're really unhappy about it then talk to your SO. I'm sure he'll be understanding as long as you've given it a try.

miller4285 · February 2011

I have only swallow when tipsy or drunk. Because the texture and taste doesn't bother me then

But other times, I spit. I, too, gag and can't help it if I try to swallow. It's not so much the taste.....but the texture. It's like snot, and I think it kind of kills the mood to gag or throw up.

I feel he should respect what you are comfortable with. My philosophy is "let me ease into it in my own good time" if it's something I haven't done. But don't keep asking/pushing me too. It'll make me just not want to try it at all (I won't do anything if I feel it's "expected" of me.)