September 2010 Weddings
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: JODY
lol. It actually took me like 5 min to figure it out. She called you by your name, and then you posted with your other SN. I was like
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But I didn't hang around much on TK, so I didn't know people very well.
I agree with all of this. Obviously I haven't met her, but I've had plenty of nice interactions with her on here.
Honestly, my feelings woud have been hurt if it had been my name brought up in the initial post, so I totally understand. Of course Ferdy was just being honest, but sometimes it's better (or at least easier!) to be tactful instead of honest. But to go from that to bashing people and apparently taking it to FB is just overreacting.
I will say that it was taken to fb--she approached me first-- we duked it out verbally-- I tried to be as objective as possible-- but it didn't end very well. Can't go back and change it......wish she would see the errors of her ways.... I've recognized mine and apologized to her....but she wasn't interested.
Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
Yeah, you've done all that you can do with you sincere apology. Sorry this got so out of hand!
And I'm still confused. I guess I don't pay attention enough. Or maybe I'm not enough of a "reg".
ETA: Oops, nevermind. Figured it out. There's the "blonde" part of my strawberry blonde.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
Me too! And I'm no one's close personal friend or mortal enemy. I'm so out of it, that I have no idea exactly what SSgate was.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
But you might KNOW something & leak it out (??!!) I'm not comprehending either.
09.25.10
I got de-friended too. I can see why, especially if you girls were also defriended, but up to that point I had been pretty nice so I was surprised.
Boo hoo. I should have made a status about how I noticed I lost a friend and how much it upset me, and then jumped down my friends' throats if they tried to say that maybe one of my friends just closed their facebook account.
I don't court drama and I dislike when people use any internet forum as a place for passive aggressive confrontation, so I am ok with the de-friend.
I jdo find it amusing that she defriended me and I have never said a word to her when many times I could've. Nor do I belong to a clique or a claque or what have you, and that was one of her main beefs.
My life will go on...it must.
Love this.
TTC since 08/2010
Anovulatory since at least 12/2010 (probably longer, unDx)
Dx PCOS 3/2012
SA 5/25/12--normal
June 2012--50mg clomid+TI--BFN
July 2012--50mg clomid+Ovidrel+TI--BFN, lining at 5mm
August 2012--5mg femara+Ovidrel+TI
A passive-aggressive apology? You forgot to use a profanity to describe the rest of the board. WTH, Dats???
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reasons like this help me remember why we are two parts of one Nestie heart.....swooooon!
Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
I'm going to play Devil's Advocate. Jody wrote ONE response to Stef at the beginning of this post and that was it. The rest of this board made this post 45 replies long without any further input from Jody. Sure, she defriended a bunch of you on FB but I think you all would do the same thing if you knew everyone from the board was talking about you like this. Why keep them as friends? What would be the point? She barely knows you all, and certainly not enough to keep you as friends on FB if you're going to do a post like this. Who is terrorizing who right now? Think about it.
I stayed out of this thread for a while because I felt the same way - this was between Jody and Stef. Her response WAS ridiculous though, and on a public forum where she knew people could read it - why not put it in the PM that she was already sending?
She defriended me before this thread. When I was still trying to stick up for her and avoid conflict with her. I don't know when she defriended the others. I entered this discussion because I think it's wrong to follow someone to facebook and continue the drama there - sure, this thread started out as a private page between two people, but that information happened to come up here so this is where I reacted to it.
I don't know the details of what was said between Ferdy and Jody, but I know that Jody has tried to manipulate people to stop posting here in the past through off-board conversations, so this was the final straw. It was an odd place for all of this to happen, sure, but it DID happen, and it started because Jody over-reacted yet again.
I don't know. I'm not Jody's friend on Facebook or anyone else's from this board - just never added or been added by anyone here - so I probably have a completely different perspective on the situation as some of the other girls. I just don't think it's right to see someone singled out like this.
As for Jody following Ferdy to facebook, she and Ferdy apparently had an argument / discussion / whatever. I'm not saying anything against Ferdy at all, but she made the comment that offended Jody (which at least several others agreed was rightfully so), and participated in whatever conversation she and Jody had off the board. She could have ignored Jody, in which case this post would be alot more valid, but she didn't. That makes her just as much at fault. But she didn't receive a message from Stef as the moderator, and she didn't become the subject of this witch hunt post. Jody got both.
And while I'm on the subject, does Stef as the moderator of this board have the right to mediate conversations that occur OFF the board? I don't know. But if we all agree that she does, both Ferdy and Jody should have received a PM, in my opinion.
I don't know what's appropriate in regards to TK/TN rules, but something had to be said - Jody decided to take a matter that occured ON TN offboard to intimidate/interrogate/wtfever Ferds via FB - which Jody initiated.. it would have been different if she approached it in a mature way, but (as usual) it wasn't the case & in my opinion found it ridiculous and unnecessary. I also know this isn't the first time Jody has approached other Knotties/Nesties offboard in this demeanor, so it's not exclusive to Ferds. Ferds didn't ask me to do anything, I honestly took it upon myself to contact Jody via TN asking to leave TN related matters on TN - because that makes sense, right? I don't like to pull the "MOD is me" card, but I felt this was necessary because all I could think is my mind, if it doesn't end here, where (& when) will it end? I've bitten my tongue long enough and especially with this I couldn't remain neutral. Enough is enough.
09.25.10
citygirl,
I understand what you're saying, but I want to point out that as I've mentioned before, this started because Jody publicly disrespected our MOD, and I did not agree with it. Sure, it kind of turned into an attack on her but how often has she attacked others on here? There's only so much we can be expected to take with a smile. And again, she was the one who made the matter public on this post - we have every right to respond and express how upsetting her behaviour has been.