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That was quick

akt77
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Hi Everyone,

 I need some advice. I am getting married in 7 months. And my fiance and I are building a home which should be done in 2-3 months. Well I have been staying with family since my ex cheated on me and I left him in June 09. Well the living situation here has taken a turn for the worst and since last spring when my fiance came into the picture they've been acting like I am a burden but it is getting way worse. (mind you my family is very weird, and can be very jealous, any outsider is usually looked at like competition, like I don't have enough love to go around). So I get along very well with my fiances family. And being my fiance is staying with his family until our home is done they has offered that I come live there. I am sad that things turned out this way with my own family and I am so very greatful for this offer but also a bit scared, any thoughts would be great.

PS, Talking to my family about how I am feeling wouldn't be a good idea because it would be all in my head or my own fault.

Thanks.

 
02-03-2011 at 7:38 PM
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Why dont you get an appartment and live on your own. Nothing says you have to live with either family.
 
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So you've ended a relationship, moved back in with mommy and daddy, started another relationship and are engaged... all within the past year and a half?

Have you ever been single as an adult? Or lived on your own?


fiancee = vag ** fiance = peen
** Babies shouldn't be born with jobs **
**They're called first loves for a reason -- more are supposed to come after. You don't get a medal for marrying your prom date.**

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Rent an apartment and pay for it on your own. You know, like an adult would.
fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** **They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Unless yo ass is imoan. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. But still no medal.

Re: That was quick

  • Geez, I'm shocked.
    2 IVFs & 1 FET. Welcome home baby girl!
  • I need some advice. I am getting married in 7 months. And my fiance and I are building a home which should be done in 2-3 months. Well I have been staying with family since my ex cheated on me and I left him in June 09.

    And this isn't even a year since she busted up with the ex and she's already engaged. Needy and jumping into a relationship much? 

    Well the living situation here has taken a turn for the worst and since last spring when my fiance came into the picture they've been acting like I am a burden but it is getting way worse. (mind you my family is very weird, and can be very jealous, any outsider is usually looked at like competition, like I don't have enough love to go around).

    I for one can't figure out why it is okay for a daughter or son to bring a SO into the house. Why are they permitting them to live there? 

    Her family is weird? The OP said it all.

    So I get along very well with my fiances family. And being my fiance is staying with his family until our home is done they has offered that I come live there. I am sad that things turned out this way with my own family and I am so very greatful for this offer but also a bit scared, any thoughts would be great.

    PS, Talking to my family about how I am feeling wouldn't be a good idea because it would be all in my head or my own fault.

    Thanks

    She needs to take a hiatus from dating but the horse is way out of the barn. Ah, well.

  • Oh boy......

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  • I like how she implies that it's unreasonable for her family to think she's a burden by not supporting herself, and the solution is obviously to go be a burden to somebody else.
  • First off I want to thank all of you for your advice. I will say I don't feel I am jumping into any thing I gave myself time after leaving my ex because I am old enough to know that I don't want a rebound relationship. And I have lived on my own I just isn't something I can finacially do right now, but I have paid my way here for the time I have been here. So again thank you for your thoughts.
  • How old are you?
    fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** **They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Unless yo ass is imoan. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. But still no medal.
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