August 2006 Weddings
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Re: NER: The Duggars
lol that is a fantastic comparison.
I seem to remember making this point before...
It's fun when bunny and I agree.
That said, that part of it is more obvious when it comes to the teen marriages as a result of no-sex until marriage. A friend of mine recently married a guy who is an incredibly good match for her and a very healthy relationship, and they abstained until marriage. They're in their mid-twenties, though. Her relationship with her previous fiance is what made me formulate above opinion in the first place.
ETA: But they held hands and kissed and hung out by themselves. Because, you know, they're adults and thus don't need a chaperone to remain committed to a lifestyle they each chose willingly.
Actually, Marquis, I thought I was repeating something someone else smart had said before!
Yeah, I have friends who abstained until marriage but married in their mid or late 20s. One didn't marry until her early 30s and was with the guy for something like 4 or 5 years. I also have a friend who abstained but got married very quickly before she was even 20. FWIW, all are still together, but it seems that the older people entered into their marriages much more deliberately and thoughtfully.
I only half agree with this; I think sexual chemistry is extremely important in a relationship. I dated (and narrowly escaped being engaged to) a great guy...on paper. There was no chemistry and I just did not enjoy having sex with him AT.ALL. I was convinced it was my problem! I thought I was just one of those girls that didn't like sex. After we broke up, I discovered that was not true! Imagine if exBF and I never had sex and got married - I imagine I'd be a pretty miserable wife right about now.
Anything you can achieve through hard work, you could also just buy.
See - to me its almost like a they are down playing the importance of it. They do with hold from it because of "baggage" or whatever BS they use - but the actual act of abstaining to me, means you don't think its part of a healthy marriage - which I totally disagree with. Its the same with living together. How can you possibly vow to have a good marriage when you are 100% inexperienced with everything that a marriage involves? I would b!tch slap any guy that promised that to me. He doesn't know WTF he is promising! He might as well promise to not die.
And I am 100% not "to each their own" on this. This isn't about benign customs or traditions or holidays or what not. This is about healthy relationships and healthy lives and healthy bodies.
Unless endless wringing of the hands and a t-shirt wedding dress = healthy marriage.
The reason it places too much emphasis on sex is that it makes sex the difference between 'married' and 'not married'. So then people get married to have sex.
Haha, it was posted before, but that was before they got hitched. There was no announcement when it actually happened.
And this is probably inappropriate, but he actually looks pretty cute in his wedding photos!
Also, anything that's so foribidden automatically has great importance attached to it.
And can i point something else out? He doesn't have a JOB! WTF does he do? Is he just gonna work for his parents? What if she wants to move near her parents in FL?
yeah, unless you all post about something, or DH happens to send me a link to an article, I have no idea it happened
Hello, she's married now. ?She has no more independent wishes. ?She must follow her spiritual leader.
He's probably going into the family business. ?He'll build a house with donated materials, declare it a church, and live tax free.?
On the website it says he owns and manages a used car dealership... where did this no job info come from?
but isn't that his parents'? or wasn't it? thats cool then that he "owns" it. still weird.
Here's what the website says: "Josh started a pre-owned wholesale car dealership in Northwest Arkansas, Champion Motorcars. He now manages the dealership full time with his brother John. He also pursues other various entrepreneurial adventures as time allows. "
So I took it to mean he owns it, but his parents probably bought it in the first place. I also read it wrong - it's wholesale, not used. Oops!
I missed recaps on the Duggars???
I'm surprised they got married in a baptist church since they are their own church.
So how did they meet if shes in Florida?