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Tuesday Confessions
Who's got 'em? Come on, 'fess up!
Re: Tuesday Confessions
That's really all I have today. I'm boring.
I confess, I am now firmly in the BOTB camp.
I went off the pill in Sept and so far my cycles have been 31 days, 37 days and 34 days. This weekend I realized that I was on CD 42 so I tested, it was negative and literally 15 minutes later I got my period. I know Jon was kind of disappointed (probably because I got him all worked up at 7:15 on a Sunday morning), but I was surprised that I was more than a little sad about it. We've been doing the whole laid-back, whatever happens happens kind of thing, but when the test was negative I was REALLY bummed. And now I'm little concerned because 42 days seems ridiculously long.
Jon's calling it my "doppelganger moment" (from HIMYM, if you watch) because clearly I am ready for kids if that was my reaction, whereas before this I was on the fence to the point of making myself crazy about the decision... This weekend was kind of eye opening for us I think..
HAHA I sing along with them even when Chris is home, and he just shakes his head at me and walks away. I don't care -- it makes me happy.
updated 10.03.12
We found out xmas day that B's niece is pregnant (he's the youngest of six kids, his neice is not some crazy teen....don't know why I feel the need to explain that), and I was emailing B's brother's wife this morning, and she said that the niece found out the sex of the baby and they're going to announce it soon.
My heart sank.
I am truly happy for niece and her husband, but the thought of all the upcoming happy baby stuff with them (hell, just the constant conversation about it from MIL), not to mention just seeing a newborn at family gatherings, knowing I can't have one of my own, is going to send me over the edge. And I'm supposed to pretend to be happy about it and can't even talk about this with B cause he thinks we still have a shot and me being negative won't help matters, when I know in my heart we don't. You know how sometimes you just know things? This is one of those times for me.
Nothing against all the ladies here who are moms and expecting, I am happy for you all and live vicariously through you, but it can be hard sometimes reading all the baby stuff (and I know I can not open the thread), but at least there's a distance. It's just on the internet, some people I vaguely sorta know but don't. It's less personal than when it's someone in your actual real life, and someone I can't just ignore or pretend doesn't exist. This baby is a member of my family now and a glaring reminder of my failure.
If they pick either of the names B and I have picked, I will be done.
I am struggling with the diabetes news and I really don't have control over it... I am in the dumps when it comes to my mood so I drank one of those small cokes (like the mini cans). I was dying for caffeine and my body needed it however, it shot me 50 points over normal after breakfast. I am more concerned that I am not going to make it all this time if I cant make a week! UGH. I am frustrated and I cant wait for these 10 weeks to be over...
I know exactly how this feels. The constant baby news on here stings, but when it's IRL people it's much worse. One of Robin's friends (also weed smokers, Michelle) just KU his new girlfriend totally by mistake.
Then, we had dinner with my extended family on Saturday and of course the "when are y'all having a baby" conversation began and we just had to be all cool about it again (we haven't told people we're trying). Then, my cousin said that she and her hubby had started trying for their second after the holidays. I love her, but if she gets PG before me, I might slash her throat.
My confession: I consider myself an animal lover. I don't even harm insects, but I swear if we ever find this mole in our yard I will murder him.
Agreed- I am having more of a pity party kind of day. I am just over a lot of things and this is the only one I can b*tch about.
I'll get in on that group hug
:::HUGS:::
updated 10.03.12
Whatever you do dont stop posting about that beautiful baby. I will say one thing... this board has some seriously cute kids!
Agreed! ((((((((hugs))))))))
I agree!
Don't feel guilty MB, feel happy. You have a beautiful baby girl and you should show her off
I also agree. Theres nothing wrong with being thankful and even celebratory over having a healthy pregnancy, birth, and baby. Theres a huge difference between posting exciting or helpful stories about your experiences and being a bragging b!tch about it like Michelle's "ex" friend.
We seriously do have the cutest babies EVAR. I'm astonished every single day at how unbelieveably gorgeous my child is.
Oh no, McKee! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. Keep us posted.
Additionally, group hugs to everyone...especially the girls who want to be mom's so much, I know you would all make great mom's, and I hope/pray that your day will come.
My confession is that although I am feeling much better today, after being home sick allllllll weekend (all of the 3 day weekend I may add) I felt that I deserved to cash in on some sick time today. I feel like it was unfair that this cold affected only my free time, and by using a sick day, I'm somehow balancing out the world. And this gives me time to disinfect the entire house.
ditto!!
I'm pretty boring lately, although even though I've been unemployed for over a week now, I haven't cooked a single thing in all that time, nor have I done anything else useful around the house- or even prepared for my interview next week or done any work on my assignments for my education seminar. I'm a lazy bum.
Just one small confession from me:
I've been sick with a bacterial lung infection since Tuesday night. Danny has done less for me than my mother (who left work early on Weds to get me medicine and dinner--while Danny had all day before work and all he did was go to the dollar store and get me a gatorade and cough drops). Now Danny is starting to get sick and I don't feel like being a good wife. Plus I'm still coughing up my toenails.
And: we had a snow make-up day yesterday (so no 3 day recovery weekend for me) but we got ice and snow today/last night and had a snow day today. Mother Nature FTW. For once she has my back.
i haven't been able to sleep in about a week. Once i finally fall alseep around 3 0r 4 am, H wakes me up to tell me what building he works in that day( i can't just call him if i go into labor he works in a state prison so i have to know where he's at and leave a message....lovely right?!?) He wakes me up right after i fall asleep, i love that he does it so i'll know, but its so fustrating becuase then im up again for about an hour and of course then i have to pee and take more tums for heartburn. As a result, i haven't been up and productive until about 11am. Half the day is over.
I feel bad about complaining about this today with all the other pg/ttc stuff, but i've been in so much pain/uncomfortableness this week. Not sure if im having real contractions but they hurt and on top of being tired, i feel like i am carrying a boulder around in my tummy, it's hard and everytime he moves i feel like he's gonna fall out, i have a doctors appt tomorrow so hopefully i'll get some answers.
oh and heres a good one..... im so lazy lately.....my christmas wreath is still on the front door! ::::hangs head in shame::: its not hard to remove but i can't find the box it goes in so i just keep saying "i'll get it tomorrow" my mom made a comment the other night so its coming down today. =(
JA - I seriously almost posted something like this. I didn't though, because I felt it might come off harsh. Which isn't my intention, nor do I think it is yours.
I understand there are somethings I'll never understand because I haven't tried to get pregnant. I don't want to belittle the feelings of those going through hardships. Because I do agree that getting your hopes up to have them crushed (out of your control) is disheartening. I appreciate the ladies that have remained positive, and consistent in their efforts to conceive. Also while giving congrats and encouragement to others who have succeeded. That to me, is so honorable.
I feel like the constant comparisons and labeling someone else as undeserving is what stuck out to me in a bad way.
Zuma Zoom
I agree with you both.
I DO get the anger that someone can just get knocked up without trying and then treat their body like crap. I totally get that. In fact, I get angry over the fact that some of my friends and family who are fully deserving can't get pregnant and God gives babies to crackheads and people like Michelle's friends.
But I dont get the whole being unhappy when someone doesnt have as tough as a time as you. Its not a competition.
But, I havent been there so I guess it is easy for me to judge. I've never had to feel that heartache myself.
Just a question: who, out of the posters here today, has expressed any hate or anger toward Niners or others who are pregnant or have had babies? Did I miss a post or comment, cause from what I can recollect, we were all pretty much just expressing our frustration and sadness. Not anger or hatred. At least, speaking for myself, that is what I was trying to express.
Never once did I read anyone say that they want mommies here to not post stories or pictures, or feel like they have to hide their happiness. Never once did I read (on this board, I don't go on the GP board, which may be what you are referring to) that a poster felt she was "entitled" to get pregnant over someone else.
We can be sad/frustrated for ourselves and happy for people we know at the same time. They are not mutually exclusive.
Hmmm...there were comments made today about people getting pissed that other ladies get pregnant on the first try or easily/quicly after starting to TTC. I'm not calling anyone out because...well, you're intitled to feel the way you want and usually those feelings are justified. However, keep in mind that there are ladies here who got pregnant on their first try or soon after. And while I'm sure that it fvcking sucks to hear about women getting pregnant when you want it so bad it hurts, try to remember what you say may hurt someone here that you really do like.
Staying on the topic of babies. With a lot of ladies reaching the end of their pregnancies, I am getting pretty bad baby fever. I am not ready to get pregnant again, but when people always say "they grow up so fast" they mean it. I love the stage Weston is at and he is my world, but it is kind of hard on me emotionally that he is growing up so fast and not my tiny little newborn.
Also, along with MB, I do feel guilty sometimes that we got pregnant right away. I did have problems at the end and with Weston staying in the hospital for a week, but that is nothing compared to what a lot of people go through. When I see the gals on here struggling to conceive, it absolutely breaks my heart