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S/O Poll: How many kids do you want?
I noticed alot of the nesties had "have baby #" on their list of things to do in the next 5 years.
How many kids do you want? How far apart in age would you like them?
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Re: S/O Poll: How many kids do you want?
We want 4. At first I said I wanted them about 2-3 years apart. However, G is getting to that awesome age where everything is fun and exciting. She loves other kids and babies right now, so I feel like she would love a little sister (or brother ;-)). DH and I are both getting the 'inch' already to start planning/trying for #2 soon.
Two is it. It's manageable and enjoyable for us. And like MrsJR said, I like having more time to myself and with DH now that our kids are getting older and easier.
Not to mention the fact that I'm no spring chicken. But even if I were in my 20s, I'd still be happy with two.
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DH wants 3.
We've saved our IVF lifetime credit max, but 2 feels perfect to me.
I've really enjoyed having my girls 23mos apart. It just works well. They interact well, etc.
Baby #3 would likely be 2 years after the upcoming surrobaby is born IF it's something we decide on. I'm certainly no spring chicken so...
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H and I have pretty much decided one is our magic number. We like that we have a child that is part of us. And she's happy and healthy. My H is 6yrs older than me, and he doesn't want to be retiring when our 2nd graduates high school.
I like that I can give all my attention to just El. I don't have to split it, or worry about jealousy, fighting. All the crap my sister and I went through. My mom's an only child, she turned out just fine. My H is the youngest of 4, I have an older sister. I BARELY get along with my sister. BARELY and that's now that she lives in Georgia, and is moving to Germany for 3yrs. I miss her at times, but others I forget I have a sister.
But we'll for sure decide in 3yrs when my B/C comes out. Either I'll get fixed or he will. Sure H talkes about a "little buddy" but he also loves having his girls!
This is a hard one for us. Things are starting to get more manageable now so its on the radar at least. I like the two year spacing my girls have but obviously if we have another it will be more than 2 years since my babies turn 2 in May. Financially I think we both want to see where we stand once we move to a bigger place. So much depends on how much we sell this home for and how much we choose to purchase.
We also consider if lightning might strike twice and get twins again because it does happen. Do we want to try for that boy? Do we want possibly 4 girls? I don't know for sure but I do know that right now neither of us is ready to say we are for sure done. I think that is the most important thing. The rest I suppose is up to God.
Two.
ETA - preferably 2-3 years apart.
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2. 2 years apart.
This is perfect for us. Busy, but managable. We want to be able to pay for college, cars, etc. and it would be a stretch w/ more kids. I am just now starting to get my body back, and I think it would be a lost cause if we had more kids (MUCH harder the 2nd time than the 1st).
We have lots of friends and feel like we haven't been as good of friends as we want to be, which will be easier when the girls are older. Also, I want to have a career at some point, and the longer I wait the harder it will be to get into it. We want to take lots of trips, which is easier as a family of 4 - we prefer man to man rather than zone.
My DH is the youngest in his family by 12 years so we joke about not trying again for 12 years...haha.
But in all honesty, maybe one more. But not for a while!! At least 5 years!!
We plan on having two. We are going to start trying for #2 this October.
Neena Mae. 1/7/10
"A baby nursing at a mother's breast is an undeniable affirmation of our rootedness in nature." - David Suzuki
Wedding 6.18.04 Cole 11.20.06 Gavin 3.31.08 Parker 07.15.10 Logan 04.03.12
2 is my number. They keep me/us busy enough. Both pregnancies were smooth sailing as was conception. Like Buzz, I am no spring chicken so don't want to push the limits on this. Like others, we want to take vacations (someday) and it will be more affordable and manageable with two. I have dreams of both kids sleeping well someday and don't really want to start that cycle over. DH would like a third - thinks it would be fun, but I think the third would push my sanity limits! :P God gave me one climber and the 2nd appears to be headed in the same direction. I think I would need to open a zoo with a third! Lastly, I would like to return to work at some point. I have already been out of the work force for 2 1/2 years and fear marketability will be a challenge the longer I stay out.
This exactly!
I think we're 98% sure we're done.
But I would be open to being pregnant and giving birth once more. For the right couple.
We definitely want at least one more. Maybe two. We'll start trying in December-March for number 2. I have to make my weight goal before I go get my IUD out (my rule!).
It seems weird to be doing all this work with weight watchers just to start putting on pregnancy weight but I keep telling myself pregnancy will be easier 50ish pounds lighter to start.... if not, it is good motivation!
The idea of 3 boys scares me, so I think if #2 is a boy, that might be it. I don't know. Every time Wesley gets done with a phase, I have been telling myself that it's okay because we will do it all at least one more. I guess we'll see if I feel that way with the next one. Nick used to want 3-4, but now I think he thinks 2 is plenty. Although, he is ready to start trying now and I am making him wait!