Northern California Nesties
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Abortion questions (long!)
Yes, I hope that I didn't come across that I don't support adoption. I 100% do, and I think a lot of people should take that route... especially some people that are 'trying' to raise their child.
First, I want to commend you for encouraging an open dialogue and for searching for more information.
To start, I am pro-choice and always have been. I've never had an abortion nor have I had a miscarriage. I do know women who have been through both and I've never met anyone who was cavalier about either experience.
1. When does life begin? Honestly, who am I to say? How would I know? I don't know that it can be identified, can it?
2. Abortion. I know of 1 or 2 friends who had an abortion. How could I not feel sad?
I'm pro-choice, not pro-abortion. I don't wish it upon anyone. My feelings about being pro-choice are a personal and political decision because I do not believe anyone should have the right to dictate the decision other than the mother, father & their doctors. I do not think anyone could make that decision without being changed by it nor do I think anyone could make the decision lightly. I believe it needs to remain legal for the health and safety of our society. Making it illegal will not stop them and that scenario is far more frieghtening to me. I was supportive of my friend when she went through this, it is not my decision to make and I know it was made only after deep reflection. If a friend wanted to discuss options with me, I would do so and never would I encourage one decision over another. I hope I would only help them discuss all their options and know that their decision would be supported. I hope I would be that fair & loving.
3. Miscarriages: I know so many women than have had miscarriages (5 come to mind right now, and that is IRL). I believe the number is something like an estimated 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. I am always sadden by the news of someone going through a miscarriage. And yes, sometimes the depth of my sadness varies by the age of the fetus. Not that it is right or wrong to feel that way. For instance, last year a friend lost her baby at 7 1/2 months. It was heartbreaking to think 'it was so close'. There is also a part of me that understands that it is incredibly common and often is the body's way of rejecting something that was not viable. My sadness stems from their loss and suffering. The depth of my sadness will obviously be compounded by my relationship to them and their personal situation. Never do I see it as 'their fault', I do not think there is any fault to place.
I wish I could say that I never knew anyone that went through either situation, both are devastating.
Lighthouse State Beach, Santa Cruz.