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Re: Too Much Suspense....and a poll.
My bad, I did think you were disagreeing
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I agree with everything here. I would have to know - I'm too much of a planner to not know that info in advance if it was available to me :-)
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We found out with DS...I don't like surprises...at all. I am the person who does open their christmas presents and then re-wraps them because the suspense kills me.
We also named DS before he was born and called him by his name too. Now that he's here I couldn't imagine his name being anything else...he's definately an Ian.
With that being said I am a firm believer in intuition and even if I didn't find out I knew I was having a boy, I always referred to him as a boy, carried like I was having a boy, ate like I was having a boy (lots of meat), and and just felt it to my core that he was a boy so I wouldn't have had to know.
Someone else mentioned this, but I know for ME, I need to find out. I think it's highly unlikely that throughout the whole pregnancy, I won't develop *some* gender preference. I'd be happy with either, but I'd probably still be a little disappointed. I'd like to take the couple days or so it would take to get back around to excited while I'm still pregnant, not when baby is here.
Note the careful use of personal pronouns. This is *my* opinion for *me* when *I'm* pregnant. Just trying to avoid any accusations of mommy wars!
That's really cool! :-) I sometimes get "premonitions" too but never about unborn babies.
We found out with DD, and I will admit why, too.
I had my heart set on a little girl. Of course I would be happy either way,and love whatever child was placed in our arms, but I still really,really wanted a girl.
I was afraid that if it came out a boy in the delivery room, my first reaction would be disappointment. And I didn't want that. So, we found out so that I could be excited either way.
This time around (yeppers, due 11/11/11) we are going to let it be a surprise
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I have always been a "find out at the birth" person, but this seems like such a great idea! Hopefully I'll remember it once we are ready for kids...
However, I love on movies (yes, I understand that life cannot always be as cute as the movies) when the dad comes out of the room and announces to the anxiously waiting family if its a boy or girl. So much of pregnancy is focused on the mom to be (as are weddings on the bride), that I dream of my H having that one moment where everyone hugs him before they see the baby.
We found out with both - I'm WAY too OCD to not know - although the nursery was neutral, I wanted clothes that made it obvious that it was a boy or a girl (although even with all blue people asked boy/girl questions all the time). It was great because my mom and aunt were able to buy a TON of stuff on clearance throughout the year, so from 0-12 months we bought almost nothing for the boys for clothing.
We did decide to keep our name choices secret though - first we really didn't know - we had 2-3 with each boy to decide between, but second we wanted something to be a surprise for people when they were born.
we found out with K, and we will find out with this one next Thursday.
I know I'll have some feelings to deal with, as I had a definite feeling of what the baby I lost was...whether this baby is a boy or another girl, I think there will be some things I need to work through in my head.
I just read the other responses - and now I feel bad about the "wanting people to know it is a boy" comment - I definitely don't try to reinforce the gender stereotypes, and I don't think that dressing a baby in the "typical" color even begins to come close to that, but I can see how some people could take it that way.
I also just really wanted to know it was a boy (there was definitely no question in the ultrasound) really helped us to be prepared and not be stressed about boy/girl, AND then we were able to only need to find boy names both times - and we had a hard enough time with that! It really is a blessing if your family is able/willing/chooses to help you with buying stuff for baby ahead of time though - I can't imagine how much money we saved that first year by already having a ton of clothing. We were lucky enough to have two boys, but if we had girls there are enough girls in our family that the clothes would have been recycled too!
We found out with both girls.
I was adament that we find out with #1. I wanted her room to be perfect, and made just for her. Wanted her name picked out, couldn't stand calling her "baby" any longer. DH didn't really want to know, but I talked him into it.
With #2, I initally agreed that he could decide what he wanted to do. We agreed that we would not find out. I was really game for it, but something took over as we were laying on the table starting the u/s, and we both gave in and asked to find out. Well, they couldn't tell. They also couldn't complete the u/s, so I had to go back, and that time they had a clear view, and we found out.
I wish we hadn't. My first was a c/s, and I think it was nice to know the sex and feel like I could control something. Having a vaginal birth with #2, I realize how amazing it would have been to find out right there, on the spot, when she came out. So, if there is a #3 in our future, we will not be finding out ahead of time.