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Do you masturbate?
I have recently discovered that I am into masturbating. Especially during AF, since me and my DH won't have sex during that time. I was just curious to see if you other ladies do the deed yourself or not.
I know it's sort of a personal question, so don't respond if you're not comfortable. I completely understand!
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September 25, 2011, Mommy lost her little angel. Mommy will always love you, and will forever hold that special place in my heart!
At 35W2D, my little angel made her appearance. I never knew what love was until I met you. 12/4/12
Re: Do you masturbate?
If the results come back anything but 100% yes, I'm going to say that people are lying.
Of course I do. And if you don't I think its weird.
Sometimes I cannot sleep and I get my pulsating bullet out and Im sleepin' in 5 minutes!
IMO there still are many ladies that do not masturbate. I hope they discover their bodies soon.
I read that book Vagina Monologues and it opened my eyes a lot!
http://www.amazon.com/Vagina-Monologues-V-Day-Eve-Ensler/dp/0375756981
Wait until he goes away for a long weekend.
So?
Sometimes he's asleep..or not home....or maybe I just need a quick O to go to sleep or relax (and I don't want to go through the whole sex routine).
Just because you wan't a quick O or stress release it doesn't mean you are in the mood for sex. Sometimes sex is more work and mess than I feel like getting into!
^This...I think masturbating is a totally healthy way to get in touch with your body, whether you are in a relationship or not. Where it turns into a problem is when it becomes a replacement for sex with your partner, as opposed to an addition to your overall sex life. Aside from that, there is nothing wrong with it.
I admit that as a teenager, I tried and got nothing out of it all. I am christian and after growing spiritually, I completely believe that it is a sin. I also don't think that EVERYONE does it. If you are married you shouldn't need to at all. Just my honest opinion in why I personally don't.
Did I say there was anything wrong with masturbating, or that I would never do it again now that I'm married? No. I just haven't had a time when I've felt the need or the urge to since we started having sex (which, if you can't tell, was when we got married). If I found myself in the situation of wanting to, I absolutely would. I was just commenting that I voted no, because it's been at least a year since the last time that I did, and that probably won't change anytime soon.
No need to turn your noses up at me.
Totally not judging (okay I am a little) but I'm also just curious. Why do you think this is a sin? and also why when your married wouldn't you need it at all? I would almost think that that's when you WOULD need it. Once your married your having sex, getting to know your body better, your figuring out how to get turned on with your partner, I would think that masturbation would be a part of it, and that you'd be more apt to want to masturbate when your H is away because you're used to having sex and getting to O.
I'm also curious about this. I'm a Christian as well (Catholic) and I don't see anything wrong with being in touch with your body. I will admit that when I was younger, I felt the same way sometimes. But I don't think it is a sin to feel pleasurable with your husband or on your own. Why should you not need to do it just because you are married? What if you were trying to improve your sex life with your husband and getting in touch with yourself was a way to do so?
It's funny, there was a time when I would have totally rolled my eyes and smirked at this, but I think I actually get it now.
Mind, I've been sexually active for 22 years and was quite a ho in my 20's, so I'm no shrinking violet. I was with my husband for 10 years, and things got pretty stale. I have a boyfriend now and he is *so* good at getting me off that I actually have some difficulty doing it on my own. It's like my fingers or toys just don't do the trick anymore. And believe me, I try! He would love for me to put on a little show and do it for him but I just can't seem to come that way anymore. Luckily, he's happy to oblige whenever I ask for a quickie.
~ The Nestie formally known as MrsBrittany ~
I agree with all of you ladies. I have recently discovered this. My EX was terrible in bed, so I had a little friend that I got out very often. Sex with my DH now is wonderful and lasts a while, but seems like when AF is around, I am extra "turned on", and I feel the urge. I also agree about the relaxing part, after the big O, it is amazing and kind of a stress reliever. It is a great way to explore what you and your body likes!
Thanks for all the responses ladies!
September 25, 2011, Mommy lost her little angel. Mommy will always love you, and will forever hold that special place in my heart!
At 35W2D, my little angel made her appearance. I never knew what love was until I met you. 12/4/12
You are basically denying yourself pleasure! You are not hurting anyone.
You should open your mind a little more. I am christian too.. and I ain't gonna stop having my O's just because of that...
~Still rooting for my TTC buddy ShanRich0810~
~ DD 5/15/00 ~ DS 2/27/03 ~ DD 9/29/04 ~ DS 7/3/07 ~
absolutely
i work night shift and we have kids so sometimes it's really hard to find time together (and when we do have sex it is usually on my days off and he wakes me up at like 3 am so I'm groggy and it does little for me
This. I started very young. I was one of those kids that masturbated from a very young age (I'm talking I discovered it when I was 5). Obviously I didn't get real sexual pleasure from it at that age, it was more of a comfort thing. Later it just naturally evolved and though I thought maybe it was a sin for a few months I got over that pretty quickly. Also, that "sin" kept me sexually satisfied and from losing my virginity until I was out of high school which I think is a pretty great thing.
Also, for the woman who said you shouldn't need it when married...have you ever thought of masturbating as part of sexual foreplay? The few times I have had DH watch and not touch until I finished were very exciting.
Yes I... masturbate!
I love it! I am married and DH and usually have sex a min. of 2x times a week, depends on the week. We both work and go to school full time so schedules can get a little hectic.
Sometimes I just want to look at porn or sometimes I just want to be greedy and give myself a bunch o' Os!
I feel sad for people who don't pleasure themselves. It makes me me feel more comfortable with my body as I am a big girl, and therefore I think my DH finds me more attractive.
To those of you who were wondering, it's a sin because God created sex to be between one man and one woman in the context of marriage. Your "parts" were made for your husband's pleasure, and his for your pleasure. God designed us that way. All sexual deviance from this such as homosexuality, sex before marriage, adultery, and masturbation are sins.
Oh FFS, I'm ashamed that people like you still exist. Total eyeroll
Kidding or serious?
So which one of the ten commandments is that?
Once again somebody interprets the bible to suit their own ends. Or maybe they think they are helping God by covering all the loose ends he missed?
bastephens05 must be tons of fun for her DH. She probably only lets him have sex if it's for reproduction. There are religious cults including the Quakers that take the "conceived in sin" verse literal. Instead of the analogy it was intended to make saying that all of Adam's & Eve's descends are sinners .
bastephens05 probably only does it in the missionary position with the lights off.
And bastephens05 can't figure out that outrageous statements such as her's drive sinners away from church. Instead of into churches.
Maybe we should all bow and pray to the holy bastephens05 instead ? She just sooooooo goooooooooooood.