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interesting question

One of my students asked me this today:

Now that you've been married awhile, anything you wish you had looked for in your mate?  Not that you would change your partner (maybe you would!), but something you wish you had thought more about?

Re: interesting question

  • For me, I often hate the fact that I'm the "bread winner" just because I've been teaching longer.  It makes it really difficult to explore other opportunities when you know that the majority of the bills depend on my salary.
  • Nope - I'm just glad I stuck to my guns to make sure that I married a good dancer!!
  • I think that if I had realized just how addicting video games are (and at times, how addicted my husband is to them), I would have had a conversation about it  when we were first getting serious. But, I know it's one of his few stress outlets, and I will not take that away from him.
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  • very interesting question!

    i would love if DH was less into gaming but like alicia's DH, they are a stress outlet/escape for him. doesn't mean i wouldn't like to take a hammer to the xbox some days :P

    and on the flip side: something that i didn't really give a lot of thought to when we first met but am very grateful for now - other than a few things that i also hate, DH is not a picky eater. i totally am picky but since we've been together,  i've tried/learned to like a lot of different things and i think it has made me a better cook. my bff's husband is pickier than me and i think she misses out on some great things because he's that picky. like, i can't see them traveling abroad very much because he is so picky and reluctant to try new things. as someone who gains a lot of happiness from travel, this would make me feel very limited/frustrated.

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  • imagecheekywife:
     my bff's husband is pickier than me and i think she misses out on some great things because he's that picky. like, i can't see them traveling abroad very much because he is so picky and reluctant to try new things. as someone who gains a lot of happiness from travel, this would make me feel very limited/frustrated. 

    oh that would annoy the heck out of me! i am such a foodie and love trying new things/places! I think its definitely frustrating when dining with picky eaters! and i can say that b/c i used to be THE pickiest eater i've ever known! 

  • wouldn't you hate that? i am still picky but between traveling to some great places where i couldn't not try some things and DH being cool with me trying whatever he orders, i'm so much less picky. and i cannot imagine all the good things i'd have missed out on if i were married to someone who was pickier and less open to new things than me! and even meal planning is a pain in the arse for my friend because of how picky her husband is. their 5 year old daughter is a way more adventurous eater!
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  • imagecheekywife:
    wouldn't you hate that? i am still picky but between traveling to some great places where i couldn't not try some things and DH being cool with me trying whatever he orders, i'm so much less picky. and i cannot imagine all the good things i'd have missed out on if i were married to someone who was pickier and less open to new things than me! and even meal planning is a pain in the arse for my friend because of how picky her husband is. their 5 year old daughter is a way more adventurous eater!

    lol, i am less picky too b/c of DH! when we  first started dating he would "get mad" at me for ordering chicken parm everywhere we went, when he would bring me to these nice places with amazing options.  So being the young 18 year old that I was I tried new things to please him and wah-la he created a monster! I have this "try something 5 times and you'll like it" theory.  Mind over matter!

  • Very interesting question...not that it would have changed anything in the least bit, b/c it was basically love at first sight when I met Brent...but I would love to have more money. 2 athletic training salaries doesn't equate to being rich. But I changed jobs and so did he so all is well now!
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  • I wish I hadn't married my "best friend" in a lot of ways.  
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