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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Parent Plus Loans and In-laws
Given that he was told it was a gift he would not have to pay back, I would not pay her back. Regardless of the fact that he benefited from it, if he was going to be responsible for paying back the money he should have known in advance so he could decide whether or not to take it.
They're crappy parents to promise him a gift, then announce its not a gift anymore, then try to blackmail him into paying it by refusing to have a relationship with him. I would not have promised to help make payments when you can; focus on getting your financial ducks in a row, finishing school, etc. If/when they come to their senses and apologize, you can deal with it then. I'm not a fan of prying into relatives' financial situations or second guessing whether or not someone can afford to give me a gift. That is their business, their decision. It wasn't your DH's job at 18 years old to sit his Mom down and say, hey, are you making responsible financial decisions and can you afford to give me this money you promised. She took out the loan, she is responsible for it.