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I need a baby
to babysit. So I can knock DH out of this baby fever that he's currently feeling.
We were watching a movie last night about a family with two little girls, and DH goes, "Is it bad that I kind of want that, now?" Uhhhh...slow your roll, sweetcheeks.
Geez, you'd think the man has a uterus and it was telling him that his paternal time clock is ticking away as we speak.
So, anyone have any babies, or know of anyone with any babies I can borrow? Particularly one that is going to cry a lot. One that has some reflux and colic would be awesome. That should be enough to do the trick.
*sigh* Kidding....kinda.
Re: I need a baby
Haha. Can't you just take him to some kid friendly restaurant or something? A crying baby at a restaurant usually does the trick for me.
I wish that worked. He just says "Oh, our child would never act like that in public". psh. Ok. If it were only that easy.
He's so clueless.
I can tell you (and him) 110%... your child will act that way.
I'm no help though... I love babies/kids.
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I know, that's what I try and tell him. He doesn't get it. I've also tried to tell him how expensive babies are, and how much crap you need to buy when you have one. He goes, "Ok, besides the essentials, what do you need?" And I start listing things like exersaucers, bouncy seats, pack-n-plays, etc, and the list goes on, and he goes "Well, you don't need those things right away." Ok...so let's just wait until we need something and then go out and buy it. Good idea! We'd be going to babies-r-us every week to buy something new!
I think he's rationalizing it inside his head. Because I can't accept the fact that he's truly this clueless.
Haha, well, yes - they are expensive. But I think they're worth it.
Ok ok, butting out. I'm not helping your cause!
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First, I almost choked on my water when I read the title of your post.
Now that I have recovered, aside from baby-stuff... I really cannot wrap my head around child care costs. It's insanity.
They're definitely worth it. And we will have one. Just not now.
I just think DH thinks there's a simple fix for everything, and that's not how it works with babies/children!
Yeah and after the bouncy seat and baby clothes, there's: school supplies, activities, summer camp, glasses, braces, wisdom teeth, a car and a college education, just to name a few.
MIL keeps hinting to Ben that it's "not too late" for us. Funny how she's never asked ME whether it's too late or not.
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Just do it!
I thought that may have gotten a few of you.
It's all expensive. And DH is the most financially savvy person I know. So why he thinks we could even consider having a child now is beyond me. We aren't even close to being in a financial position to think about that. Which is why I don't think he understands how much the, err, for lack of a better term, "start up" costs of a baby really are. I think he is under the assumption babies are cheap, and they get more expensive as they get older. That may be that they get more expensive as they get older, but babies are certainly NOT cheap by any means.
That is funny, seeing as how it's your lady parts that will be housing the baby in question.
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Haha.
Except luckily, DH isn't like a woman who has baby making on the brain and that's all they think about. I guess I should say, he's not as emotional about it as a woman would be. He does realize that both of us have to be on board, and he knows I'm not yet, and he completely understands why.
I know I have several friends who are ready, but their H's aren't. That would be a tough situation, because with my DH, you could flash a shiny car or pretty bike in front of him and he's totally done thinking about babies. With my friends, that's all. they. think. about. For girls it's like, when we're ready, we're ready.
Do you think your DH will come around soon, Angie?
Hahaha...that was pretty random.
Aren't y'all going to try for numero dos soon?
This thread makes me think I should revist the Friday Top 5 post and list under the love category:
-No "having babies" talk!
haha. Love that!
I guess I should be thrilled that my H wants to have babies with me so badly. But at the same time, it makes me feel bad that I can't give him what he wants right now.
Don't let yourself feel badly. You are doing something great right now to better your family (going to school for a job you will love)!
That was me chanting "baby" at you.
No, I totally understand wanting to wait though. I just enjoy giving you a hard time.
#2... probably in a year or so. I guess that I feel a little more pressure since Cadence is already 4. I just didn't want them too far apart, but hey, they'll be okay either way!
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Oh, for some reason I thought you said that y'all would be trying this summer. Maybe that was someone else. I think 5 or 6 would be a good age for a big sister
Aww, thank you Sara!
DH wants to try this summer... for me - it'll happen when it happens. BUT, I don't want another December/January baby. I want to aim for spring or summer if I can!
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Well Bobbileigh, I have no idea who this Natalie person is you speak of, but, I would like to wait at the very least another 3-4 years. Probably more like 5. I want to be done with school, and have a chance to start my career and enjoy it for a while without the added stress of having a baby. I don't want to work this hard for the next 2 years in school and not be able to enjoy the end result at least for a little while. I would also like to do some more traveling with DH before we have kids. So...however long it takes me/us to do all the above mentioned things.
I don't really like putting a time line on things. I'm not a time line type of person. I think I'll know when I'm ready, and when I feel I've accomplished/seen/done enough things and feel I'm ready to give up those types of freedoms. I know you're never 100% ready, but I think most people know when they're ok with giving those things up. I haven't experienced enough yet (IMO), so I know I'm not ok with sacrificing that stuff at this point. If that makes sense.
LOL my little brother is almost 19 years younger than me! It's a little too far apart but I love him just the same.
Yes, I have two little sisters. One is 2.5 years younger than me, and only is 14 years younger than me. Sadly, I barely know the youngest one (I mean, I know her, but we aren't super close like my other sister). It has a lot to do with my dad and his ex wife (her mom), but still... I enjoy the closeness that I have with my sister and that's the only real situation that I have to base off of.
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I completely agree! My little sister is only a year and 26 days apart from me and we are so close! That's what makes me want mine so close together.
Well I am glad you chimed in Summer as I wanted to hear your response too. I think your very reasons are why Matt and I dont ever see ourselves wanting them. As selfish as it may be, I just cant see ourselves giving up certain freedoms. I like having the ability to run to Target at 9pm because I just decided I need something and I can throw on shoes and we are out the door. I love that if I just decide after work I want to do a little shopping or take a nap then I can because no one is waiting or dependent on me. I know its selfish but I am okay with that right now (and probably for the next 5 or more years) in our lives. I think if we do decide on kids I would rather foster than actually have my own. I think you are right that its easier with it being the guy with baby fever instead of the girl because the hormones/emotions arent so heavy.