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Re: QOTD
The biggest one I have been doing lately is questioning if Kiley is getting enough "learning" time, like she would if she was in DC. I'm sure she is and this is the teacher in me worrying about it. We do "learning time" everyday. We sing songs, go over these little picture flash cards she has(though she probably thinks I'm crazy because she has no idea what I am talking about), we do some art projects, like we made hand turkeys at Thanksgiving, hearts on V-day, etc. I know she's only 8 months old but I constantly worry if she's getting enough of that and again I'm sure it's the teacher in me!
Should I be doing this? About everything I eat, drink or do. I am so stinking paranoid still. I broke down and bought some hot dogs (which I have been avoiding even though I think as long as you make them it's no biggie) I got major heartburn and felt like "well that is what you get". LOL
why am i still pumping when i have enough in my freezer? when will my kid pop a tooth that's been on the surface since december? when will i finally be able to take a deep breath and relax? why my friend (who has only babysat and has no kids) thinks she's knows so much about babies. everything she 'thinks' she knows is completely ridiculous and being able to go home at night and come back another day is a completely different experience. i babysat most of my childhood and took care of cousin the whole first year of her life. VERY DIFFERENT. will my kid ever begin taking consistent longer naps? when will the big pile of crap on my desk at work get completed?
sadly, this goes through my mind all day. everyday.
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
Is Xander getting enough healthy foods to eat? Is Xander really learning anything at dc? Are we really ready to buy a house? When will I be able to drop down to part time? Do Andrew and I really get enough relationship time together?
Alexander David
11.25.09
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Is this MBA really the right thing for me? Should I try to do school full time? What kind of financial burden would that really be? Should I be tougher/meaner about the budget? Should I try to take more personal time to alleviate some of the stress of school/work and find a better balance? Why haven't I been able to sleep through the night in over a year? Why am I constantly exhausted? Why isn't the diet/workout regimen having faster results? Why is my libido way down compared to where it used to be? What if we're not ready to ttc next year? What if we have trouble ttc? Why am I suddenly afraid of thunderstorms? Where is all this anxiety coming from? What should I really be doing with my life?
Am I depressed or just stressed? Do I need to talk to someone about this?
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This. SO MUCH goes through my head every day - I can't even list all the things I worry about all day (and not even work related!) I really wish it would stop. I'm grumpy today from all of it.
In the last 24 hours:
1) How long am I really going to be comfortable living in a short term rental apartment without a new home?
2) Did I do everything I possibly could for the ten people I laid off yesterday?
This is going to sound very whiny and sobbish but:
Have I done something in this life to not deserve to be a mother?
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Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
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TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
oh stacey
not at all.
it WILL happen!
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
There are a lot of questions that run through my mind daily.
-Do we have enough money for X purchase as well as all of our bills?
-When will either of our jobs become perm. and we get benefits?
-When will we be able to move out of my parents house?
-What job do I want to pursure for the rest of my life? Do I want to work in Customer Service the rest of my life?
-Do people think less of me and Dh because we live with my parents? Do they not take us as seriously as a married couple because of this?
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Aww, Stace, don't think that- of course not. It WILL happen!
Lots and lots of hugs!!
ps not whiny or sobbish
::Hugs:: to Stacey and T.
Lately it's been "Am I really going to be able to reign in my spending to deal with these furloughs?"
Welcome to the dark side
Hugs to Stacey and Tania. You will be mommies soon!!
My questions: Should I have tried to refocus on getting a career before having a baby? Are we really financially stable enough for this baby? What will we do for money if Ben does not get his full pay back? When will we ever get to move back to TN? Why can't I be more affectionate with Ben?
I also ask myself when I will stop worrying.
October 11, 2008
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Stacey and Tania- You WILL be a mother one day!
T- Andrew and I thougt about moving in with my parents for a while too. I know a few couples who are married who live with their parents, its just a fact of life right now.
Wildcats- Just remember Xander took a full year to STTN. Riley will understand it soon enough. I know that's hard to keep hearing, but I understand completely what you are going through.
Alexander David
11.25.09
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Seriously???
I really try to stay out of the snark that is created on these boards, but this is ridiculous. I'm pretty sure that what Kathy was trying to point out is the difference between a Godparent and a legal guardian. A Godparent is completely ceremonial and has absolutely no legality. A legal guardian is the person designated to care for your children should something happen to you. Being appointed a Godparent doesn't automatically give you legal authority, unless they have been set up that way with legal documents, ie - a will or some such thing. Most of the time, a Godparent is determined with the assumption that they will care for the child, however, they must be appointed that way with legal documents.
I really don't think she was trying to undermine the importance of a Godparent, she was simply pointing out the difference between the two. Like I said however, most people pick Godparents with the assumption that they will assume legal guardianship if, God forbid, something should happen to you.
Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
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TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
I give you this
Pretty sure when she says they are unimportant she is undermining the importance.
Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
Blog
TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
I read it the same way Tania. And the second half more so a make sure you designate early legally who will be legal guardian. There are so many news stories of families going to court because there was no legal documentation of who will look after the kids if the parents die. I personally don't think she was undermining anyones intelligence, more so just reminding as Tania said that Godparents aren't always appointed legal guardian and it shouldn't be assumed. Heck maybe Kathy had a situation like that in her family or with someone close to her and always hopes to remind parents to appoint legal guardians so there no one else has to go through that.
I'm not a religious (anymore) person so my kids will not have official Godparents. However, I was raised Catholic and it is my understanding (though I may be incorrect) that the Godparents are those who will help you raise your child with a love of God to help keep them faithful follows of the church. But again doesn't mean that these people will become legal guardians. Though most of the time they are the ones designated in the parents will. So by her saying that it is just more for tradition/ceremony rather than legally is correct.
I do have to say that the choice of words could have been better on her part.
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