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Re: Thursday Chit Chat
***Hangs head in shame***
This is me. I really want a summer baby, but I think my reasoning makes sense.
1. My sister teaches and if I have a summer baby, she will be able to help me/see the baby more.
2. My mom watches is my nephew, but she won't have him in the summer so she would be more available to help me/see the baby more.
3. The summer is our slowest time at work. Being out for maternity leave wouldn't be so difficult.
Sorry to hear that. But, at least you're aware of these things now, rather than struggling for years and not understanding why you can't conceive.
Hahah. Sara, I'm sure most people have their reasons and they're very valid reasons.
I just think that trying to plan out to the month when you want your child born is only putting more stress on the entire TTC process, rather than just going with the flow and letting nature and God handle it.
Well as much as I want to control it, due to my age, if I don't get pregnant in the "right" month to have a summer baby, we will just have to keep on trucking anyway!!!
How old are you? You don't look much older than 24 or 25!
BTW, I was reading your blog, about your nephew getting sick. You're going to make a really good mom someday
A little late in the game here, but the reason that a lot of women chart and plan when TTC to conceive is because they have already tried to let nature take it course and have not been successful OR they restricted timewise because they are getting older and their chances of having a healthly are diminishing.
I have seen more than my fair share of good friends ( ranging from mid 20s to very early 30s) have all kinds of issues TTC, some took years AND years trying naturally and others charting, and some eventually turned to IVF, while in the mean time I saw several of them go through miscarriages, ectopic pregnancies and have all sorts of other problems. My own pregnancy so far has been very stressful, and we are still not out of the woods as I had a major "episode" again yesterday.
In summary, some women are lucky that once they decide to have children that God blesses them and they are able to do so in a reasonable amount of time, but it doesn't work out that way for everybody.
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I completely understand where you're coming from Kathy. I have several friends like that myself.
I can't speak for anyone else on this thread, but I am more referring to the women who have never tried to conceive, and start off trying to control the whole process and charting, and stressing about everything before they give nature a chance to take it's course.
I'm so sorry you're having a difficult first trimester. I hope it gets smoother for you.
I think it can also be the other way around, though. So many women think because they're over 30, it's automatically going to be hard for them before they even start. A friend of mine is 34, and got pregnant within 2 months of trying. First pregnancy, never tried before. So, I don't think age has everything to do with it. Yes, your fertility decreases, but that doesn't automatically mean you're going to have problems right out of the gate, either.
Just my .02.
When I started thinking about babies (and even now), I do not want a May baby and I do not want a November baby and I really don't want to be in my 3rd trimester during July and August. Then I realized even if I had timed everything perfectly to avoid these things, I could have it super early and that there really is no definite sure fire way to not have a kid during those times. Crap happens.
What's wrong with an November baby?
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My birthday, my MIL and my dad have a birthday in November. I just want our kid to have their own time, if that makes sense without sounding too weird. November is all about MIL so I think it would be best to just avoid that month, if possible. Otherwise November is my favorite month!
You said something happened yesterday? Are you okay?
Aaaaand that's when I'd tell my boss "tough noodles"
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That used to be the busiest time of year where I worked, too......
We weren't allowed to take vacation during December, and a lot of OT was worked.
What do you do??
Or you could have a November baby and totally steal the thunder from MIL. Bahahaha.
I'd love a book club too!
Regarding the charting thing... I've switched to charting as a method of BC, not TTC, and I'm loving it so far. (Granted, DH has been out of town a lot the last two months so the jury is still out on the efficacy, haha.) But it doesn't take much time, it's not difficult to do, and I enjoy knowing what's going on throughout the month. Just another perspective.
Summer... yesterday while I was waiting for an hour to see the dermatologist, I was browsing their laser brochures. My mom just had a procedure called Thermage done on her face, which basically restores elasticity, and I can really tell a difference already, even though it's a gradual process. Well anyway, while browsing the pamphlets, I discovered they do this procedure on stomachs also, and the before and after pictures looked legit (like, not super-perfect, but a lot of improvement, in line with the results I've seen on my mom). So, I'm budgeting for this post-baby, when that time comes... if I can't afford the laser skin tightening, I am not ready for a baby yet!
I was just kidding in asking what's wrong with Nov. because I having my baby in Nov. I totally understand though wanting your child to have their own time..
And yeah, without turning this into the 1st Trimester board and sharing TMI that may be offensive to some, I had been having complications with my pregnancy with abnormal bleeding and I had a major episode of that yesterday ( worse than any other of the times to the point that I thought it was all over), but thankfully we went in and saw the baby who looked to be doing well on the ultrasound. My doctor is hoping that these episodes will be over by the end of the first trimester, but they are definitely scary and stressful and take a huge toll on me and my husband.
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Do they know what's causing the bleeding? That would freak me out, too!
I work for a tax servicing company. Mortgage companies use us to be their middle man for the tax authorities. We get a list of taxes that need to be paid from the mortgage company then we call/fax/check the website and see what is due and pay the taxes out of homeowner's escrow accounts. Texas is our biggest state and most mortgage companies want the taxes paid before the end of the year. I have been lucky that my first 2 years have been weekend Christmas time. # years ago my department stayed at work until almost 11 on Christmas Eve and then had to be back here at 7am the day after Christmas.
Brianna, my boss is a man who doesn't understand crap about men. My supervisor is a woman and said that it did happen that I have an December due date she wouldn't tell him until it was too late to hire someone to take my place. I'm safe but I was warned. Luckily if we get pregnant this year we won't have to worry about a December baby!
Good idea! How much is a procedure like that?
I understand where you are coming from as well .. for every sad story , there is a success story as well, you just don't know what's going to personally happen to you until you cross that bridge.
FWIW, I hope all the ladies here have a smooth and happy journey when and if they decide to go down that road.
And btw, thanks for the kind words about my pregnancy, I hope we won't have any more scares from this point forward.
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DISCLAIMER: This post falls in the TMI category, don't read it if you don't want to.
There are different causes for bleeding during pregnancy like a weak cervix, impending miscarraige, etc. Given, that thank God, our baby is doing well according to the u/s, and my cervix looks good and is still closed, my doctor "hypothesizes" that it might be the placenta growing and rubbing against the uterus and getting irritated and causing bleeding. This doesn't sound good to me because you don't want anything to happent to the placenta, but the doctor says at this point, we should just monitor it( she said to monitor the bleeding and if it increases to come back in again). Sadly, given how early on we are though, she said if something were to happen, it just means the pregnancy was not viable, but we are praying everything will be ok.
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TMI from you? Never!
I'm sorry you are having to experience this. I hope they go away soon.
I'm not sure... I don't remember seeing a price sheet for that. I can ask my mom what she's paying for the face, and I'd guess that one body area would be similar to the face price. Even though the face is smaller, it's more intricate or whatever, so I think the size and detail would even each other out. I'm definitely going to do some homework, and I'll share what I find out
Well I pray everything turns out ok for you and your baby.
Kathy - I'm praying for you guys!
I was going to say something else, but now I forgot what it was.
ETA: Dana - That sounds kind of really illegal... on several levels.
Kathy - I can't even imagine how stressful that is. I'm so sorry and I will keep you and your baby (and your DH) in my thoughts and prayers.
Anna - If I was going to switch careers it would most definitely not be to teach HS economics. I would be willing to teach a financial literacy course, but not economics.
Book club ladies - let's start a book club!
You are too kind! I am 30, will be 31 in October.
I am not sure if I will be good mom, but I do make a good crisis responder!!!
they do realize that's COMPLETELY illegal, right? i mean, grounds for a SERIOUS discrimination suit. if they had just done it, instead of telling you that they would do it "if", they might have some wiggle room, but having told you flat out that they'll lay you off if you have a baby then has pretty much f'ed them. if you have any of that convo in writing, i'd save it and send a copy home. even if you don't have a december baby, if they try to lay you off while you're pregnant/just afterwards, you've got some real ammunition against them.
i'm glad your supervisor is willing to help hide it for you if necessary, but she shouldn't even have to think about that.