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I need a vent thread. Join me, won't you?
Please, post your vents, whines, flame free confessions. Have at it. I need company in my grumpy corner.
Re: I need a vent thread. Join me, won't you?
Facebook is exhausting me today, and it's my own fault for engaging in stupid political debates in the first place. I know better. I know that I should just scroll past while shaking my head. I shouldn't bother commenting. But I can't seem to help myself, I open my big virtual mouth, and an hour later I'm having heart palpitations because I'm so angry that people can be so damn narrow-minded.
*head desk*
To balance out my grumpies, I want to AW that I'm getting more mobile and active, finally. It is such a relief to actually be able to go into the kitchen and make myself a simple breakfast and load the dishwasher.
Whine: I have one but I don't want to say too much. I'm just a tad pissy pants about something.
FFC: I'm so sick of hearing about OBL. Seriously, it's getting ridiculous. I want to smack half of fb bc of idiotic posts. One in particular.
Vent: I don't want to go to MIL's for dinner tonight but H mentioned to her about it and now i have to go. So dinner will be at 8pm and i won't get home until 930/10pm, LO will not be happy about that and I am not either. My house is wreck, I have SO much to do before this weekend and I have nothing done. H is working ridiculous hours so it makes it very hard to get my stuff completed. So dinner is just another imposition on my week.
I really don't understand weeknight dinners out. I just want to go home/be home most nights after work. If I'm not at home, I'm thinking about everythign that's NOT getting done at home.
For my own vent - Mother's Day is annoying. I love my mom and MIL, etc., but organizing it always seems like a PITA. I'm especially annoyed that my SIL that can barely go a day w/o talking to her mom or having her help her out w/ something, never organizes anything for her own mom on MD, so we always end up having both sets of parents over or going out w/ both sets. It is not relaxing in the least. I hope Longwood is fun for us on Saturday.
I am looking forward to my maternity leave obviously to be with LO and DH, but I am also really looking forward to the break from work. I REALLY need it.
I'm worried that I will be kind of territorial with the baby. There are a couple people (2 in particular) who I'm afraid will be a bit over-bearing. One of them I can handle, but the other one worries me.
I am still either crying or spinning into a panic attack at the thought of exclusively BFing. I think I have decided to try to supplement from the beginning because even though I'm aware of the possible issues with that approach, I think it will be best for us.
(TMI) I'm MOH in my sister's wedding 4 weeks after my due date. I'm totally paranoid that if I'm still BFing, I'll leak through my dress, probably during the ceremony or some other obvious time.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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Oh sweet Mary mother of pearl, this is me today. I had to close FB because I was about to go all crazylady on someones azz. And really, it would accomplish nothing at all. I cannot believe how many people out there are just f-ing stupid. I think we should start a "post your stupidest FB statuses here" where we can all post what people are saying, than point and laugh. It could be cathartic, or something
I am very frustrated with gardening. I don't know WTF I am doing, we have sooooo much to do, and H is never home to help. I don't find gardening relaxing, and I am too apprehensive about it to find it rewarding. I am hoping to make SOMETHING successful out of this mess and then maybe I will feel differently last year. But I have NO idea what to plant, where to plant it, what kind of soil we have, what the drainage is, and bc the sun is playing games I really am not 100% what gets how much sun. It's annoying the crap out of me.
I am so frustrated with SD that I can barely hold a conversation with her. It's too much to get into here, but I just want to shake her and tell her to get her sh!t together and stop f-ing around. But I don't. I keep my mouth shut and smile and nod and hold it all in until I want to explode. It hurts my heart.
oh - and also - I am praying to sweet baby jesus, buddha, abraham, ezekiel and all their brothers and sisters that DH sees the light and just hires a GD contractor to re-do our kitchen before he gets too far into it. He's very handy and creative and has done a great job on other projects, but ummmmm - this is huge and really expensive and I don't want it to take 18 months! He said today he *thinks* it might take him longer to do this than it will take a contractor - um - what?
Oh no, please don't stress yourself out!! Take it as it comes, do what feels natural and best to you AFTER the baby gets here. It sounds so cliche and you here it on here over and over again, but it's so true happy mom=happy baby, just keep repeating this to yourself. And for the second part, this is what breast pads are for, if you do need them for the wedding you'll be fine.
1. I'm tired of my "new" job. I am not doing what the job description was, at all. I told my boss and they said, too bad. During my annual performance review, I reminded her I was bored, and she said, well, maybe you're just in a place in life where you need a job where you don't think (i.e. this one). Um, lady, I'm here to tell you, give me more work. More mentally stimulating work. How often does someone ask for more work?!
2. I accepted a new job outside of my current place. I was days away from turning in my notice, feeling free as a bird, like I had no care in the world, and the job fell through. I'm having a hard time getting back into my current job since I had already mentally checked out and stopped signing up to do ANYTHING.
3. I have considered having another baby for the extended break from work. How depressing!
Just in general having a blah time of it right now. But, we're going to visit family in a couple of weeks and then off to Turks and Caicos!
@ Kathryn - I know a contractor who did a GREAT job on our basement and didn't go over the price he quoted.
@FIA, glad to hear you are up and about
@SarahKate - Bfing was really important to me, so I went all out for it. However it worked FOR ME. Do what is best for you. Ask for help and don't stress yourself out. Nursing pads/breast pads are AWESOME.
Vent:
MIL I love you. I am sorry that you talked SIL out of driving down here when I was on maternity leave because of an inch of snow. SIL regularly drives to college in more than that. Now you want to come down today -thursday WHEN WE BOTH HAVE TO WORK. This just stresses me out. I am tired and still getting used to my routine at night. I cannot take time off - I was just off for 3 months (not that you are asking) DH doesn't have the vacation days. I'm not sure what you guys are planning to do on Wednesday, because DD IS going to daycare. We pay by the week and DD is getting used to the routine.
SIL, I love you, but you are only young once and though it seems like you can't ask off for weekends at your pt job at retail place, you really can. I was 22 once and while I understand where you are coming from, I also have the perspective of being older. I should have asked off for things that I didn't. If you need the money that badly, DH &I will give you the amount that you would make after taxes if you took the weekend off.
AW - Thanks to TheLinkBride and Nestie Eileen, I have my siggy and account problems fixed. YAY!
I'm sick of homework, and want to get back to work. I've been off work since February to concentrate on finishing school, which has been great, but I'm sick of it. I like working better than going to school.
Case in point: my study guide for tonight's final is 21 single spaced pages. WTF. ridiculous.
I'm worried that I'll never be ready to have a baby. We've been married almost 3 years and DH is ready (he's a few years older than me), but I'm freaked out about how EVERYTHING will change when we have a baby.
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Sister I could of wrote this post.
I'm not even sure I want to rehash the last two weeks at my house. We basically needed to re-level our brick patio, dig up our back yard,regrade and sod it. And move our fence back to the property line. DH wants to do all this work himself. You have to remember he works nights and sleeps during the day. I'm trying to figure out when he's going to actually work on this project. Well he finally did agree to hire a fencing company to move back the fence, THANK THE LORD! I'm not sure I can handle it anymore!
I want to scream at most of my co-workers. I don't need to hear that I'm huge, or that I'm going to have a huge baby, or that I'm waddling, or that I'm going to have a miserable time coming back to work after having the baby or losing the baby weight. I don't understand why my body has become such a hot topic of conversation when I really only discuss my pregnancy/baby with one or two close coworkers that are smart enough not to call me fat or tell me not to eat chocolate b/c there's too much caffeine it in (it's a flippin' hershey's kiss!)
I do not want to return to work when the baby comes. I cry just thinking about it. I don't like my job, after the cost of daycare I will be working for very, very little money but we get great health insurance through my work. I want nothing more than to quit and not look back but it's not going to happen.
I want to karate chop my brother's girlfriend in the face.
This is the story of my life. I totally feel your pain. Backyard patio? DH said 1 month and $500. 18 months later and a few hundred over and it was done. (He wasn't working continuously on it, there were many months where nothing happened.) Basement? DH said 9 months and 10k. We finally agreed on 15 months (he might squeak it out) and it's probably around 15k.
Did G give you an estimate as to how long he thinks it'll take? I'd double it. And that's no offense to him but like I said the other day, these projects *always* take longer than you think - even if you hire pros - there are always delays.
I hope that he agrees to some sub contractors at least!!
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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I am not looking forward to having the name debate with DH for Nugget. I have a feeling he will want some *out there* names and that's NMS. I like old school names and he is into guns and cars and once said to me "what about naming our future son Remington?" No offense to anyone who has people they know named this but it sounds more like a dog or cat's name to me. IDK. Just hard to wrap my head around.
I just cant get myself motivated to clean out the 2nd bedroom. We only have the two and the 2nd one has been my craft room as well as the office. I am having a hard time purging a lot of the stuff I have in there. I think part of me doesnt want to get rid of things and the other parts of me are being selfish and I dont want to give up the space that has been *mine* for so long to Nugget. I feel extremely selfish because of it.
I am sure there are more right but this is all I have for now. And sorry they are both BR.
I am sorry about most of your co-workers being douches.
Also this last sentence made me LMFAO. And may I suggest a karate chop to the throat? Much more effective!
He did the basement pretty quick - like maybe 4 months and 5K total. The man room he started right around when DD was born. UMMMMM - its almost finished now, she's almost 2.5. He's holding a grudge against the contractors who did our master bath. It was expensive and they were kind of a-holes and at least 2 months late, but it IS really nice. And, we have teh money, whichi is the most annoying part of the whole thing. I think I am going to try to get him to committ to a timeline. He is going to sub out some of it and hire helpers, etc. but I still think the whole thing will take a year.
errr, exsqueeze me? what happened to getting it done in 10 days? did I miss something? I would shake him by the shoulders and yell "for Gods sake man, hire somebody!"
Demo & new floor = 10 days.
the whole thing - new cabinets, counters, appliances, etc. will be a year.
After the demo and floors are done, we'll hang on to our old appliances and set up a temp kitchen w/ folding table, etc.
You could try the *true* argument, that you won't be saving any money if you have to go a year without a functioning kitchen. You'll basically be eating out for a year! At least this would be a kicker at my house, where we only eat out once a week.
no #1 - I'm sorry
no #2 this post makes me very happy I give off a bitchy vibe sometimes and people would never, ever ask me abuot my cervix.
I could not live like this. I would hire something!
I hope it doesn't take a year
That's a long time with no kitchen!!
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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My vent: My MIL pisses me off. Everything has to be done her way or it's the highway. This weekend is T's Birthday, yes, he is lucky enough to have his Birthday on Mother's day. Your son also works nights, so the only day that DD and I get to spend some quality time together is Saturday and part of Sunday. In my previous post I talked about our backyard issue, we are having sod delivered on Saturday, and DH will most likely laying that all himself. Well MIL wants to do brunch/lunch, we just aren't sure when the sod will be delivered. Plus with three kids (BIL/SIL) were suppose to come up too, I just didn't want to push it, not knowing what time we were going to eat. With kids you gotta have a time. Well she flipped on DH on Saturday night about laying sod. Like she knows how to lay sod and all this nonsense. I was about this close to throat punching her. So I decided to cancel the brunch/lunch for Saturday and plan to have family up on Sunday for Mother's day/Tim's Birthday. MIL is not happy. Well you know what woman this is the best we can do!
#2- I really don't like my dad's gf, she is coo coo and is just rude and loud. And my dad wants to bring her over to my house. I just hope by 1p.m. I'll have enough wine in me to not notice her.
Sarah - don't stress about BFing! I recall all too well being in that boat (although it was a few months into DS's life) and feeling this extreme pressure to keep BFing even though it clearly wasn't the best choice for him. It was hard to make the switch (esp b/c I wasn't deciding to - I didn't have any other choice though), and yeah, I've dealt w/ some ignorant comments about the fact that I FF DS now, but I really focus on the most important fact: he is fed, growing, healthy, and happy. Formula is not poison, and it can do for my child what my body failed me in doing, so as long as he's thriving, then I'm happy. He's had 1 cold in his 10 months, and is meeting milestones WAY ahead of schedule, so clearly I haven't ruined him.
... every single day of forever.
Amen! I wish more people thought this way. I wish more people would not judge others b/c of what they fed their child.
Sarah try not to stress too much. Enjoy the last 4.5 weeks of your pregnancy.
I'm jealous you have a handy husband! We need to do some upgrades to our house (shower and kitchen remodel) and DH is not the most motivated to do things around the house. It seems like he can come up with any excuse to procrastinate on it: it'll cost too much money, we haven't done enough research, we have to go through the basement and throw some things out first before we tackle on anything new. (Okay, some of this I understand...) But now that tax season is done and maybe I can *finally* get his attention to focus on it, it's now fishing season and he'll be spending his weekends on the boat because he deserves a break to unwind. GAAH!
When DH and I first started throwing out names, before we knew the sex, I was really afraid we'd never agree on anything. His names were all over the freaking map and I liked none of them and he liked none of mine. But once we started thinking seriously about it when we knew it was a boy, we decided on a name easily and quickly. I hope you will have an easy time too when it comes down to it!!
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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