Survey says...

lavieboheme73 · May 2011

And here, separate from all that mess, are my answers to your burning questions:

1) Would you make a fool out of yourself in public if it meant you were making your partner laugh? Sure...he does it for me on a regular basis, why shouldn't I return the favor?

2) Do you prefer the lights on or off during sex? If you're having sex and this is your biggest concern, someone's not doing their job!

3) If you could 'take back' your virginity from your first partner, would you? Nah...it is what it is

4) Would you ever start a relationship with someone who was still living with an ex for financial reasons? Nope. That's way more baggage than I have strength to handle.

5) Would you rather have a great friend you could share everything with or a great lover you can't really talk to? Friend. I couldn't stand not being able to talk about me.

6) Do you like kissing in public? I'm with Nukke on this one...I just like kissing, period. Beyond that, it really doesn't matter.

7) Did American really put a man on the moon? Only the man and the moon know for sure...

8) When fooling around with someone, do you sometimes have sexual fantasies about other people? Not so much. What's going on in the here and now is pretty damn interesting, ADD aside.

9) Is it possible for full-figured women to be equally attractive as thinner women? See my old modeling portfolio, affectionately known as Exhibit A. You be the judge.

10) Do you think the family of a murder victim should have any say in what punishment is given to the murderer? Yes, I believe they should.

11) We are all human; do you judge someone for a past indiscretion? Absolutely not...I've done some horrible things in my past that I'm not proud of, and I would hate for someone to judge me for them, being as I put in so much work to change all that.

12) What is the sexiest part on a woman or a man? Eyes and smile...and this isn't really a part, but I find a great laugh to be an incredible turn-on

13) Would you rather have your dream job or your soul mate for the rest of your life? Soul mate...it's no fun having your dream job if you have no one to share it with.

14) Should your mate also be your best friend? Ummm...why on Earth would you marry someone who wasn't?

15) Have you ever had a true one-night stand? Yes, I'm afraid I have.

Xan921 · May 2011

TishaPayne:

15) Have you ever had a true one-night stand? Oh god yes, I was a big ol ho back in the day.

LMAO, me too! Angel

coppcw08 · May 2011

OceanHutt:
All kidding aside.....
Anyone else have "born this way" by gaga stuck in their head all the time now due to this thread?
no?
yea........

Don't be a drag, just be a queen.

jena.n.ross · May 2011

They always play "cool" music before my human sex class, while everyone (all 350 of us) is filing in.

Tuesday was my final, and they were playing this video on the big projection screen.

I kind of love her. Well, parts of her. While I like her songs and videos, I dislike her LOOK AT ME AREN'T I SO WEIRD persona. She's being weird with the sole purpose of 'shocking' people, which I find kind of sad. But I can only say from my (weird) perspective. Maybe I'm just an indie snob.

coppcw08 · May 2011

jena.n.ross:
They always play "cool" music before my human sex class, while everyone (all 350 of us) is filing in.
Tuesday was my final, and they were playing this video on the big projection screen.
I kind of love her. Well, parts of her. While I like her songs and videos, I dislike her LOOK AT ME AREN'T I SO WEIRD persona. She's being weird with the sole purpose of 'shocking' people, which I find kind of sad. But I can only say from my (weird) perspective. Maybe I'm just an indie snob.

Agreed. I think she has some interesting ideas, but I'm annoyed by the same thing you are. She does crazy things and wears dresses made out of meat just for the sake of being weird. I'm all for being yourself, but when it crosses into "just for attention" territory, I get annoyed.

holiday254 · May 2011

1) Would you make a fool out of yourself in public if it meant you were making your partner laugh? That depends on the extent of being made a fool. Just look silly? Sure. But really embarrass myself? Not a chance.

2) Do you prefer the lights on or off during sex? Off

3) If you could 'take back' your virginity from your first partner, would you? Most definitely.

4) Would you ever start a relationship with someone who was still living with an ex for financial reasons? No. I don't think it is wise to start a relationship with anyone who is still that involved with an ex.

5) Would you rather have a great friend you could share everything with or a great lover you can't really talk to? Great friend

6) Do you like kissing in public? A little. Not full on makeouts though.

7) Did American really put a man on the moon? Sure, why not.

8) When fooling around with someone, do you sometimes have sexual fantasies about other people? Rare occasion, but sometimes.

9) Is it possible for full-figured women to be equally attractive as thinner women? Most definitely. Beauty isn't about weight.

10) Do you think the family of a murder victim should have any say in what punishment is given to the murderer? I don't know. I think emotion is difficult when it comes to justice.

11) We are all human; do you judge someone for a past indiscretion? I think who they are today is more important than who they were 10 years ago.

12) What is the sexiest part on a woman or a man? Man - nice chest. Woman...I dunno.

13) Would you rather have your dream job or your soul mate for the rest of your life? Soul mate

14) Should your mate also be your best friend? Absolutely

15) Have you ever had a true one-night stand? Nope

chantico23 · May 2011

Bonny -

I don't think that anyone here hates you. I can't speak for the other girls, but when I read your post last night I wanted to respond in a similar fashion as several of the other ladies have, and thankfully I have calmed down a little in the last 24 hours. Here's the thing...whether you intended to or not, your survey response came off as very condescending when you said "I've only experienced my (thin) perspective." It sounded like a passive aggressive way of saying that you think you are more attractive because you are thin. You added insult to injury when you said, "I can't help I was born this way." It was also very difficult to understand your perspective, because, as Kenna said, just because you find someone attractive doesn't mean that you find them sexually attractive. I'm pretty sure that everyone in the world looks at other people (men and women) and makes a judgment on whether or not they are attractive people. Quite frankly, the combination of not stating an opinion and flaunting how thin you are resulted in giving the impression that your opinion was very strong...that you do find heavier people less attractive than thin, but that you were not honest enough to state that. And that opinion is one that I found to be quite offensive and rude. Can you see where I (and others) are coming from, and how your post could be taken in that way?

On another note, could you clarify your response to the question about whether or not you think you spouse should be your best friend? I agree that time alone is important. But never in my entire life have I spent all of my time with my best friend, so I don't understand the relevance. I'm quite happy that my husband is my best friend. And the fact that we spend time apart, and have separate interests and activities that we are involved in doesn't lessen the fact that we are best friends.

alecat9 · May 2011

erindworley:
Bonny -

I don't think that anyone here hates you. I can't speak for the other girls, but when I read your post last night I wanted to respond in a similar fashion as several of the other ladies have, and thankfully I have calmed down a little in the last 24 hours. Here's the thing...whether you intended to or not, your survey response came off as very condescending when you said "I've only experienced my (thin) perspective." It sounded like a passive aggressive way of saying that you think you are more attractive because you are thin. You added insult to injury when you said, "I can't help I was born this way." It was also very difficult to understand your perspective, because, as Kenna said, just because you find someone attractive doesn't mean that you find them sexually attractive. I'm pretty sure that everyone in the world looks at other people (men and women) and makes a judgment on whether or not they are attractive people. Quite frankly, the combination of not stating an opinion and flaunting how thin you are resulted in giving the impression that your opinion was very strong...that you do find heavier people less attractive than thin, but that you were not honest enough to state that. And that opinion is one that I found to be quite offensive and rude. Can you see where I (and others) are coming from, and how your post could be taken in that way?

On another note, could you clarify your response to the question about whether or not you think you spouse should be your best friend? I agree that time alone is important. But never in my entire life have I spent all of my time with my best friend, so I don't understand the relevance. I'm quite happy that my husband is my best friend. And the fact that we spend time apart, and have separate interests and activities that we are involved in doesn't lessen the fact that we are best friends.

Erin, I couldn't agree more with all of what you wrote.

bonnyandtim · May 2011

erindworley:
Bonny -

Here's the thing...whether you intended to or not, your survey response came off as very condescending when you said "I've only experienced my (thin) perspective." It sounded like a passive aggressive way of saying that you think you are more attractive because you are thin.
No. I just shared that my experience is only as a straight, small girl. I don't know what being attractive any other way is or what people/men find attractive.

You added insult to injury when you said, "I can't help I was born this way."
Again, I've always been small.

It was also very difficult to understand your perspective, because, as Kenna said, just because you find someone attractive doesn't mean that you find them sexually attractive.
Again, I just don't look at girls. IDK why this is weird.

On another note, could you clarify your response to the question about whether or not you think you spouse should be your best friend?
A husband is a different level of relationship. NOT a best-friend (IMHO). My best-friend is my (girl) BFF.

chantico23 · May 2011

Yeah, thanks for not attempting to understand why what you said was off-putting. I guess I'll have to resign myself to the fact that you are either incredibly self-absorbed or weird.

bonnyandtim · May 2011

erindworley:
Yeah, thanks for not attempting to understand why what you said was off-putting. I guess I'll have to resign myself to the fact that you are either self-absorbed or weird.

I'm just trying to explain (again) that I didn't mean to sound mean. Just that I only know the limited experience I have as a small, straight girl.

chantico23 · May 2011

bonnyandtim:
erindworley:
Yeah, thanks for not attempting to understand why what you said was off-putting. I guess I'll have to resign myself to the fact that you are either self-absorbed or weird.

I'm just trying to explain (again) that I didn't mean to sound mean. Just that I only know the limited experience I have as a small, straight girl.

But that's the thing. I've only ever known my life as a medium-sized, average girl. And yet I can look at a skinny girl and find her attractive or ugly. And I can look at a fat girl and find her attractive or ugly. It doesn't make me a lesbian. It makes me a normal human being. So either A) You aren't being honest. You are too focused on yourself to be aware of those around you. Or C) You are unlike any other human being in the entire world.

Dyork · May 2011

erindworley:
bonnyandtim:
erindworley:
Yeah, thanks for not attempting to understand why what you said was off-putting. I guess I'll have to resign myself to the fact that you are either self-absorbed or weird.

I'm just trying to explain (again) that I didn't mean to sound mean. Just that I only know the limited experience I have as a small, straight girl.

But that's the thing. I've only ever known my life as a medium-sized, average girl. And yet I can look at a skinny girl and find her attractive or ugly. And I can look at a fat girl and find her attractive or ugly. It doesn't make me a lesbian. It makes me a normal human being. So either A) You aren't being honest. You are too focused on yourself to be aware of those around you. Or C) You are unlike any other human being in the entire world.

D) You've lived in a cave your entire life

E) You're SO incredibly homophobic you fear that looking at any woman in any way will cause your eyes to melt.

chantico23 · May 2011

Dyork:
erindworley:
bonnyandtim:
erindworley:
Yeah, thanks for not attempting to understand why what you said was off-putting. I guess I'll have to resign myself to the fact that you are either self-absorbed or weird.

I'm just trying to explain (again) that I didn't mean to sound mean. Just that I only know the limited experience I have as a small, straight girl.

But that's the thing. I've only ever known my life as a medium-sized, average girl. And yet I can look at a skinny girl and find her attractive or ugly. And I can look at a fat girl and find her attractive or ugly. It doesn't make me a lesbian. It makes me a normal human being. So either A) You aren't being honest. You are too focused on yourself to be aware of those around you. Or C) You are unlike any other human being in the entire world.
D) You've lived in a cave your entire life
E) You're SO incredibly homophobic you fear that looking at any woman in any way will cause your eyes to melt.

F) You're a closet lesbian and don't want to give anyone suspicion of the truth.

coppcw08 · May 2011

erindworley:
Dyork:
erindworley:
bonnyandtim:
erindworley:
Yeah, thanks for not attempting to understand why what you said was off-putting. I guess I'll have to resign myself to the fact that you are either self-absorbed or weird.

I'm just trying to explain (again) that I didn't mean to sound mean. Just that I only know the limited experience I have as a small, straight girl.

But that's the thing. I've only ever known my life as a medium-sized, average girl. And yet I can look at a skinny girl and find her attractive or ugly. And I can look at a fat girl and find her attractive or ugly. It doesn't make me a lesbian. It makes me a normal human being. So either A) You aren't being honest. You are too focused on yourself to be aware of those around you. Or C) You are unlike any other human being in the entire world.
D) You've lived in a cave your entire life
E) You're SO incredibly homophobic you fear that looking at any woman in any way will cause your eyes to melt.

F) You're a closet lesbian and don't want to give anyone suspicion of the truth.

Erin, Diane... you're obviously both lesbians.

(Which makes me want to watch the "Not that there's anything wrong with that!" episode of "Seinfeld.")

jena.n.ross · May 2011

You're digging yourself a hole, which are obviously too small (minded) to get out of.

You asked who else hated you. Every time you stress that you're thin, and you're small, and you never look at women, you make someone else hate you.

lavieboheme73 · May 2011

jena.n.ross:
You're digging yourself a hole, which are obviously too small (minded) to get out of.
You asked who else hated you. Every time you stress that you're thin, and you're small, and you never look at women, you make someone else hate you.

...and God kills a kitten. So please, for everyone's sake, just save it for a board that cares. I understand those may be a bit difficult for you to find, being as at least one has already bounced you.

Anabeth420 · May 2011

I'm small... does that mean I'm thin and beautiful now?!?!?!?!

Oh wait, not I'm small in stature, and have humungous tata's and a donkey bootie... I'll never be small that way THANK THE LORD!!! (Voldemort that is )

LVoldemort · May 2011

BBC.

B.B.C.

pondering_gal · May 2011

coppcw08:

Erin, Diane... you're obviously both lesbians.

(Which makes me want to watch the "Not that there's anything wrong with that!" episode of "Seinfeld.")

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