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apology*
I guess I would just like to give an apology out there to anyone I offended yesterday with my post about my dogs. I had no idea it would lead to such a discussion. I would like to say I am not a horrible person as I have been described. Its sad that I tried to clarify and say that I had thoughts about giving my dogs away to a better home, however I would not do it. Its sad that I still get attacked. So for those who think I don't care about my dogs or I don't care about them as much as my child you are wrong. That is not the case.
Re: apology*
Don't worry Kristin. We're not wrong, just misunderstood. At the end of the day, just do what you think is best for your family and you'll be alright.
When people say crap like this I roll my eyes.... no one is going to beg anyone else to stay. It is an internet chat board.... everyone is bound to get mini flamed now and then.
This. I'm sure you did not anticipate feeling this way when you adopted your dogs! I know how much you love them. I can only imagine how difficult it is to keep up with 2 dogs, a baby, being pregnant, and being an ER nurse. I'm sad to hear about these situations as well (for both the owners & the pets), but I'm certainly not going to judge someone if I've never been in their shoes. People tend to have a knee-jerk reaction to this situation as if you're dropping them off at a high-kill shelter. I'm sorry to hear about the nasty remarks made. I thought this board was tighter than that.
::big hugs::
FWIW my comment wasn't meant as an attack - I just truly don't understand the thought of giving up your dog because of fur around the house. It makes zero sense to me. I certainly can appreciate working full time, being pregnant and having a small child to care for means you don't exactly have tons of time/energy but having fur around isn't the end of the world.
I don't think it's something to leave over - you made a comment that upset people. It happens. It's not like you're forever branded as an evil dog hater.
I didn't take your comment as an attack. And thats the problem, I am seriously the last person who would ever harm or hate any animals. I am just overwhelmed and made a comment that was taken way out of context. But I think I feel so horrible about it because I honestly love my dogs.
I think you're being a smidge overly sensitive to what near strangers on the internet are saying to you. I JUST caught up on the post that had the comments in it and as far as I saw only 3-4 nesties who are proclaimed dog/animal lovers give you the side eye- if there were more comments, sorry I must have missed them.
They don't walk in your shoes so I'd put little to no confidence in how they think you should live your life. Sure they have good arguments but from the little I know about you, you have a lot going on in your life and can understand how you would be overwhelmed. I think it'd be entirely appropriate to talk to your H about how he can help you with the dog hair/dog care situation. They were right that there are other solutions to just giving the dogs away. You're doing the best you can, give yourself more credit.
thank you! you are right. being over tired and pregnant is a bad combo! lol
I was honestly hoping that this didn't have to be argued about today, but since you INSIST on continuing to talk about it....
Kimsande, i think you are taking this too personal. You aren't getting rid of your dogs so you have nothing to worry about right? I couldn't go without saying something and hopeful some of what people have said have lead you to think differently about it. I can only imagine how overwhelming life can get expecting 2 under 2, but it was not an attack on you. Give your dogs an extra hug tonight and lets move on.
With that being said, my comments were absolutely NOT a knee jerk reaction. this is something i feel strongly about and always will whether i have no kids or 10 kids. This is not something new to me. I've seen it done before and was just as upset. i've seen abandoned dogs who have gone to good homes and still have horrible anxiety and sadness issues. I don't have to walk in anyone's shoes to know i would never do that to an animal.
I never meant to start a war about this and i'm sure Kimsande didn't either, but clearly it keeps getting brought up so there you go.
Kristin! I wouldn't stop posting on here just because of some rude comments made by others. Sometimes people filter themselves in real life but forget that they should filter a bit online too. Just basic courtesy and human decency.
Let me take some of the pressure/heat off of you by saying that I DID give my dog away when DD was a new baby. I gave him back to the rescue foundation where I got him. I was beyond stressed, financially strapped, time-strapped, working part-time and managing a family of three young step-children (not married to the bio dad but living as a family) half time plus a new baby which was not planned for. I never thought I would/could do such a thing but honestly it seemed like the only logical choice at that point. I'm sure there will be flames for this, and I don't care. None of our fellow nesties knew me then or walked in my shoes at the time. You are not a bad person or pet-owner for knowing your limits and considering that maybe you've reached them.
Hope you stick around!
I think human decency involves respecting all creatures, I don't think anyone is being too harsh here, and never in my 4 years on these boards have I seen anyone at some point speak their mind. it's a chat board, luckly it's full of some really amazing people, everyone has an opinion filtered or unfiltered
agreed! and just so you know, i did filter myself, so think about that. haha
Also, I have said nothing that i wouldn't have said (and have said) to anyone's face. i am not hiding behind my computer. in fact i know many of these girls in real life so it's not like i can post and then go hide.
oooohhhhh....i wonder what it's about.
What do you think? Having two babies and being a nurse maybe? Nothing to do with dogs!
ETA: And what are the rolling eyes and "laughing jesus" for? Not sure I understand where you are both coming from.
i'm sorry, did my eye roll not properly express my sarcasm?
It didn't. That's why I asked.
Yes! You must be psychic because we're having them tonight!
is it about mary kay?
what about your mom?
how about a mangina?
is it about mary kay? Nope, but might be about Avon though.
what about your mom? Nope, she's dead, any other sarcastic questions?
how about a mangina? God I hope not.The laughing jesus was directed towards Jess' sarcasm. relax
hmmm... more sarcastic questions? I am sure I can come up with a couple.
but please let's stick to the serious stuff
is it about bacos vs bacon bits?
is it about the inability to successfully blow your nose more than 3 times into one tissue?
is it about sticking it to the man?
what about the serious lack of laughing jesus that pooks has provided (or rather, not) lately?