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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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it's Thursday! Time for Unpopular Opinions.
I was watching a recorded episode of Chopped last night. One of the contestants was going on and on and on and on about how if she won, she was going to give the winnings to a breast cancer foundation. And she had her head shaved and had a pink ribbon tattooed to the back of her head and she was all "I don't have cancer, I'm just making a STATEMENT."
I thought she was just being an AW and I wanted her to get kicked off. Which she did. And I was pleased.
Anyone else have an unpopular opinion today?
Re: it's Thursday! Time for Unpopular Opinions.
I saw that, she annoyed me too. As if she was just the most wonderful person in the world and everyone should care as much as she does. She kept saying "I feel like i'm carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders." No, you're not going to change the world by winning Chopped. Even if it would give $10K to breast cancer research. Sorry to burst your bubble.
My UO? A really unpopular opinion? I don't think some people deserve the help that they get. Starts making them feel as if they are entitled to everything. Makes me furious to see so many ungrateful people. I know my job is to help, but someone is paying for ALL of this and you don't give a damn? Ungrateful biotches.
apparently having unpopular opinions is unpopular.
Oh, come on Niners, we've all got unpopular opinions. Don't make Ames and I look like the snarky ones... Let out you inner snark!
This! I KNOW y'all have something to say!
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AGREED. that's not being a judgmental b!tch, that's being a parent who is mindful of her child's needs. Which those ladies? are not.
fine, fine...
I don't think women should announce their pregnancies the day they get their BFP. And no, this isn't aimed at anyone here specifically -- friends I have IRL have done it too. I just don't get it. I know you're all happy and everything, but ANYTHING can happen. You don't want to think about the negative during a positive time, but it's the truth of it, and we've seen it happen even here. They say don't tell anyone that you don't comfortable telling if something should happen...for me I guess the line stopped at family until I had my first u/s and heard the heartbeat. And even then I wasn't 100% confident until I was beyond the first trimester. Everyone's different, I know... but still...
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I get that carpooling is good for the environment and everything but I have no desire to ride to/from work with anyone. My commute is my "me" time. I like to belt out singing to awful music and not feel like I have to have a forced converstion that will most likely end up being about work.
Along these lines, one of my coworkers recently found out I live in the same town as her (other side, though). She tried to get me to drive her home each day only so that her high school daughter won't have to leave her friend's house to pick her up. I'm sorry but back when I was using my parent's car, this was part of the deal. In order to use it, I had to pick my brothers up at various practices/CCD/school/etc. It'd be different if she only had 1 car in her family or whatever but to try to get me to drive her home each day so that her daughter wouldn't have to bother is nuts. Also, the few times I did give her a ride ( before I knew the reason), she would b!tch about our coworkers the ENTIRE ride home.
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
totally agree
I don't understand people who wear scarves when it isn't cold. Wearing a scarf with a tank top just looks stupid. When did this become normal?
Re: when to announce a BFP. I think I'd announce right away. I might even tell you ladies before I tell my parents. We'll keep the news in the family for a while (and I do think announcing of fb right away is stupid), but if something did happen, I'd want you all to know. I'd want you girls to know more than my "real" friends. You all know a lot more about my TTC journey than my best friends. Is that weird? Sometimes this board is like therapy for me. I'd feel the need to confess.
- I get that you should not have to wear frumpy clothing but please dress appropriately for your age & also for work. I work on the small floor where our execs sit. One of my coworkers is a thin 40-ish year old woman who wears skin tight white pants, low cut shirts and really short skirts.
- It irks me when I see smokers taking several breaks a day. Just because they smoke, why do they get more breaks than I do ?!!??
- I'm not sure I feel bad for them or am just in awe but it's nuts what some smokers will do to get their fix. EX: It has been raining every.single.day for the past few weeks. Last week, a smoking coworker didn't realize it was supposed to rain. She forgot her umbrella and didn't have a hood on her coat. So, would that stop her? Nope. I saw her literally take the trash can liner out of her waste basket and cut it into a triangle so that she could cover her hair ( like those rain bonnets old women wear). I was trying hard not to laugh but also kind of felt bad that she needed her "fix" that bad.
All 3 of the above are about the same person.
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
I halfway agree with you, and halfway agree with MB.
I announced my BFP on here right away. Why? Because I was FREAKED OUT and I needed someone to calm me down. My husband was at work and I didn't want to tell family until I confirmed with a doctor.
BUT - I also knew that I had to be at least 6-8 weeks along. I do *kind* of think that when you're charting and you test early and get a BFP when you're like 3 weeks PG, that mayyyyybe it might be best to hold off until you're sure you have a verifiable pregnancy. But, that being said, I do understand that in the case of this board, sometimes this is a GREAT place to get things off your chest and also a great place to find support when you need it.
Also, re: the bolded part. That is not weird at all. I have come to feel like all of my very best friends in life are on this board. I don't have many "IRL" friends (I use that term loosely because a lot of the girls on the board are now real-life friends too) and this place is my refuge. A couple of weeks ago I took a break because I was very hurt by something someone said on here - but then I realized that I value this board too much to leave.
In short - I can't quit you!
Haha Sara and I were just discussing this. So annoying!
I, too, agree with all of the above.
The Niners are my drug.
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I'm friends with some of these people, so I'll attempt to defend them. They usually eat seafood, because they feel better about the life the seafood had. Many people don't want to eat chicken, beef, or pork, because of what the "farming" industry has become. I've seriously cut down our meat consumption for the same reasons. It's greener and kinder to animals. They just shouldn't label themselves vegetarians.
I knew a girl in college who said she was a "vegan who eats cheese." WTF?
right. it's not that they don't eat the meat - that's fine and there are many legit reasons for not eating meat. however, don't label yourself something that you're not.
Also, I could never be vegan. I freaking love cheese, man.
I see the same thing at work and it ticks me off too. My coworkers and I joke all the time we should go work at "UNEMPLOYED" like it says on their charts, because they get free healthcare and somehow have enough money to bring their iPhones and Coach purses with them to the ER, where they hang out on a weekly basis because WE are their primary care physician.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
ugh I know someone like this and it pisses me off. She's also guilty of my UO. Mind you she's got her iPhone, Coach purses and drives a MDX....Also she stopped BF-ing "because she didn't feel like doing it anymore"- no other reason. To each their own but then she's one of the ones complaining the WIC paid for formula is making her child's stomach upset.
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Oh. I also hate when people who have kids thinks the entire world now revolves around them. SIL (you know, the one who's getting her own plane) sent me a note in my birthday card telling me to start preparing for my nephew's third birthday next March, when the whole family is going on a Disney cruise! Squee!
First of all, that's going to be a lot of money. If I'm going to spend that much money on a vacation, I'd rather it be one DH and I choose for ourselves. Second of all, I can't imagine a Disney cruise is all that fun for people without kids. If everyone goes (MIL, FIL, single BIL, single SIL, and us), there will be 6 childless people, two parents, and one kid. That just doesn't seem practical to me.
In addition to the plethora of reasons we want children ASAP, one of which is now so that I can't go on the Disney cruise with crazy SIL d/t being tremendously pregnant or caring for my newborn baby.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
To echo Amanda, the one episode of Glee I watched was totally ridiculous. (The one where they did Journey songs.) I think Glee is dumb.
I announced my BFP on here the day after I found out. I didn't see anything wrong with telling you guys, for reasons previous posters have stated.
I judge smokers. Like, really harshly. To the point I think of them as "Bad People," even when I know that they're very kind in every other aspect of their lives. I have a nice, male coworker who smokes, and I know he's a great father and husband, but I just think of him as inconsiderate for coming back from smoke breaks smelling like sh!t and making me want to hurl. And when people smoke in their cars and the smell of it enters MY car? I instantly hate that person with a burning passion. (This may not be all that unpopular of an opinion though, since smoking has become such a stigma in the U.S., for the most part.)
I want to hear more about this friend who keeps her kid on WIC formula that makes her sick. I feel like she's leaving out information.
My UO....I get annoyed by women who post only about their child's sleeping/eating/pooping habits on FB. I dont want to read for the fifth day in a row how your kid is sleeping well/eating so many ounces/took a big ol' poo after 4 days. I can probably bet most of the people reading it dont care to read it either. On that note, I'm equally annoyed by the comments that those posts receive from other moms trying to one up the OP. Once in awhile is fine (hell I may do the same someday) but every. single. freakin. day? PLEASE TALK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE.
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Ditto this! Also, please, stop complaining about your newborn. We get it. You're sleep deprived. You don't have to tell us every single day. You're blessed with a baby, and you spend all your time wishing it was asleep.
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
LOL I totally agree with both of these comments. Some ppl in my news feed act like they are the first mother on the planet and everyone should want to know every detail of their daily life. Please STFU.
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