Outcasted by MIL- (long)

Re: Outcasted by MIL- (long)

• mrebecca

  May 2011

  Wow.. I though MY MIL was bad... 
  Unfortunately, I have no advice to give you, because I need advice myself...

  I also get gossiped about. She has told everybody in the family that my house is messy and stuff like that... 

  I try to be nice when she comes, but my husband says it' ok for me to say what I think if the need ever arises...

  And I sometimes let a sarcastic comment or two slip.. For example, every time she comes, we say, "Ignore the house; it's a mess..." she says, "Oh, I didn't come to look at your house!" I say, "It's ok, I know better than that!"
  And she says, "Aww, the baby has grown so much!" and I say "Well, they tend to do that."

  Sure it makes for awkward moments, but it's totally worth it to me

  Anyway... Good luck.  

  

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• BlackDiamond3201

  May 2011

  doglove:

  Maybride2:

  What should you do?  Are you serious?

  Your husband is a jerk.  Why would you want to be spend time with someone - let alone be married to someone - who would leave you sitting in the car while they visit with people who don't like you?

  Your husband is every bit as wrong and insulting as his step-mother is. 

  Every single bit of this.

   

  Agreed!

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• SeaMama

  June 2011

  Well, I'll tell you the SECOND my father started being disrespectful and condescening to my husband after he was laid off his construction job and unemployed for a little while, I straight up told him he shouldn't make me choose because my husband and my own family are going to win the fight every single time.  My dad backed off.  That's what normal people do for the spouse they love.  Ditto PPs.  Your husband needs to put his foot down with his family, or not expect you to be around them.  I NEVER force my husband to vacation w/ my family or see them if he doesn't want to.  He's a great guy and puts up w/ a lot, but if he says he doesn't want to deal, that's it.  I go alone or I don't go. 

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