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Vents, anyone?

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Re: Vents, anyone?

  • imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    I can't believe you left the potential of her snuggling with a pot bunny out.

     

  • I was out yesterday and to busy at home to even get on here so as usual I am late to the party.  I am sooo ready to leave my day job and start focusing more on what I want to do but so much has happened the past month that has me terrified to live on just DH's paycheck.  I got rid of my beloved car for something a lot cheaper and more convenient for me and I know I will save another $250/month on gas without this commute.  I am just scared to actually pull the trigger. Plus I know that my boss will want me to replace myself here so a typical 2 week notice isn't going to work.  I REALLY want to make this happen before DD goes back to school.
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    imageMrs.JulesH-S:
    I was out yesterday and to busy at home to even get on here so as usual I am late to the party.  I am sooo ready to leave my day job and start focusing more on what I want to do but so much has happened the past month that has me terrified to live on just DH's paycheck.  I got rid of my beloved car for something a lot cheaper and more convenient for me and I know I will save another $250/month on gas without this commute.  I am just scared to actually pull the trigger. Plus I know that my boss will want me to replace myself here so a typical 2 week notice isn't going to work.  I REALLY want to make this happen before DD goes back to school.

    You have no obligation to replace yourself.  What I learned from quitting is that work will be just fine without you, they will find a way to survive it.  Two weeks notice is plenty.  Good luck with your decision.

    Finley Anne ~ 11.9.2008
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  • imagePAGAS:

    imageMrs.JulesH-S:
    I was out yesterday and to busy at home to even get on here so as usual I am late to the party.  I am sooo ready to leave my day job and start focusing more on what I want to do but so much has happened the past month that has me terrified to live on just DH's paycheck.  I got rid of my beloved car for something a lot cheaper and more convenient for me and I know I will save another $250/month on gas without this commute.  I am just scared to actually pull the trigger. Plus I know that my boss will want me to replace myself here so a typical 2 week notice isn't going to work.  I REALLY want to make this happen before DD goes back to school.

    You have no obligation to replace yourself.  What I learned from quitting is that work will be just fine without you, they will find a way to survive it.  Two weeks notice is plenty.  Good luck with your decision.

    I agree with this.  They will manage - and probably pretty quickly.  And if not, that isn't your problem anymore!  It's sad, but most companies treat pretty much everyone as replaceable.  GL!

     

  • imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    This is why we don't get out more than we do.  I want the babysitter to come to us!  :-)  Plus it's just easier with his own toys here and his own bed. 

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    imageCareBear01:

    imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    This is why we don't get out more than we do.  I want the babysitter to come to us!  :-)  Plus it's just easier with his own toys here and his own bed. 

    We have a deal with our MIL, we each take one way to drive.  Works out really well.  She bought a carseat and everything fell into place.

    Finley Anne ~ 11.9.2008
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  • imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    I'm sorry you're feeling this pressure.  You'll know when you're ready to leave C with her for an overnight.  In my experience, first-time grandmothers can have unrealistic expectations.  Doesn't mean you have to fulfill those expectations though. 

    My MIL has a full-blown nursery too.  Before DD#1 was born, she also pulled a cradle out of her attic and had a mattress especially made for it, I guess thinking that our newborn would be sleeping in it at her house. We were living out of the country at that time, so talk about unrealistic!  I think she was just super excited to be a grandmother.  Unfortunately I was the DIL who ended up disappointing her over and over.

    The other funny thing about MIL's nursery is that she made it very gender neutral but she now has four granddaughters ages 5 and under.   I joke with her and ask her if she's ever going to add some pink and purple sparkle to her nursery!

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  • imageTexasHarmony:

    imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    I can't believe you left the potential of her snuggling with a pot bunny out.

    Ha! That would be at FIL's. A place she will never ever ever ever EVER go to.

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  • imageCareBear01:

    imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    This is why we don't get out more than we do.  I want the babysitter to come to us!  :-)  Plus it's just easier with his own toys here and his own bed. 

    This is my thought as well. In my head she's won't get why she's at a strange place. DH and I are going to Mexico next week. We asked my parents(who live in Grapevine) to come and watch her. They jumped at the chance.

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  • imageKKMMex:

    imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    I'm sorry you're feeling this pressure.  You'll know when you're ready to leave C with her for an overnight.  In my experience, first-time grandmothers can have unrealistic expectations.  Doesn't mean you have to fulfill those expectations though. 

    My MIL has a full-blown nursery too.  Before DD#1 was born, she also pulled a cradle out of her attic and had a mattress especially made for it, I guess thinking that our newborn would be sleeping in it at her house. We were living out of the country at that time, so talk about unrealistic!  I think she was just super excited to be a grandmother.  Unfortunately I was the DIL who ended up disappointing her over and over.

    The other funny thing about MIL's nursery is that she made it very gender neutral but she now has four granddaughters ages 5 and under.   I joke with her and ask her if she's ever going to add some pink and purple sparkle to her nursery!

    C is her 3rd Indifferent

    One lives in the DFW area so they don't see her all that often.  The other lives in the Houston area so not that many sleepovers. *maybe* 2 a year?  BIL/SIL have had a lot of friends that are getting married so they do take advantage of that and get a hotel room for the night thus, needing an overnight babysitter.  At times I don't think people can grasp that we are different. 

    They see my nephew a lot more because BIL/SIL invite them over/use them as baby sitters more often. DH and I both have such busy schedules that we are selfish of our time with C.

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  • imagestarlettedir:


    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    When I was still nursing, this is the main reason we never left DS overnight.  It really just didn't make any sense since I'd still have to wake up at whatever time in the morning and pump.  It didn't do me much good for him to be away over night... it wasn't worth all the packing, transporting, etc.  

     

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  • imagestarlettedir:
    imageKKMMex:

    imagestarlettedir:
    MIL keeeps asking us to have C go spend the night at her house in her  full blown nursery.

    I don't want to for a number of reasons.  So far DHhasnt tried to push it. I think he knows better.

    1. We don't have anything planned that requires us going out of town
    2. Say we just wanted a night out- we'd have to drive 45 minutes to drop C off to drive 45 minutes back home just to repeat the same thing the next day.
    3. I don't want to kick my kid out of my house unless there is a reason. You wanting her at your house is not a reason.
    4. I don't want to spend a day chained to my pump unless absolutely necessary. Again, just the reason of you want her at your house is not absolutely necessary.


    I'm sorry you're feeling this pressure.  You'll know when you're ready to leave C with her for an overnight.  In my experience, first-time grandmothers can have unrealistic expectations.  Doesn't mean you have to fulfill those expectations though. 

    My MIL has a full-blown nursery too.  Before DD#1 was born, she also pulled a cradle out of her attic and had a mattress especially made for it, I guess thinking that our newborn would be sleeping in it at her house. We were living out of the country at that time, so talk about unrealistic!  I think she was just super excited to be a grandmother.  Unfortunately I was the DIL who ended up disappointing her over and over.

    The other funny thing about MIL's nursery is that she made it very gender neutral but she now has four granddaughters ages 5 and under.   I joke with her and ask her if she's ever going to add some pink and purple sparkle to her nursery!

    C is her 3rd Indifferent

    One lives in the DFW area so they don't see her all that often.  The other lives in the Houston area so not that many sleepovers. *maybe* 2 a year?  BIL/SIL have had a lot of friends that are getting married so they do take advantage of that and get a hotel room for the night thus, needing an overnight babysitter.  At times I don't think people can grasp that we are different. 

    They see my nephew a lot more because BIL/SIL invite them over/use them as baby sitters more often. DH and I both have such busy schedules that we are selfish of our time with C.

    This is us, we just don't get as much time with him as we would like because of work.  We don't want to just hand him off for a whole day/night when we don't have something else planned to do.  And when we do have something where we need a sitter it never fails the ILs are out of the country.  

    My big boy is bounding towards 3! Hoping to add a sibling. image Hipster dog is not impressed.
  • I've been in my department about 18 months.  Two engineers started within a few months of each other. 

    One has 4 very large, past-due budget supplements that he has been aware of for months.  I constantly am having to babysit him to make sure any of his cost work gets done (which I am actually fine with, job security for me & he's a fun guy to pester).

    The other has had double the work load, but can always get me his budget amendments in a timely manner & they require very little tweaking on my part.  And the costs on his rig require very little look-back on my part.  (And he ain't bad to look at.)

    I really like both guys a lot, but I am quite pissed that the first engineer got promoted over the second engineer solely because he has been with the company 2 months longer.  Two months seems like a very negligible difference since their total years in the profession are the same.  The company is going to be kicking themselves when he leaves.

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  • this is such a stupid vent: a few months ago they had My Little Pony toys in the Happy Meals and Maddie got a couple of them, but we didn't end up with her favorite character.  So I've been trying to score her one from eBay and they're ridiculously overpriced.  I know there's Happy Meal toy collectors out there who will pay $$$ but come on!!!!
  • imagePAGAS:

    imageMrs.JulesH-S:
    I was out yesterday and to busy at home to even get on here so as usual I am late to the party.  I am sooo ready to leave my day job and start focusing more on what I want to do but so much has happened the past month that has me terrified to live on just DH's paycheck.  I got rid of my beloved car for something a lot cheaper and more convenient for me and I know I will save another $250/month on gas without this commute.  I am just scared to actually pull the trigger. Plus I know that my boss will want me to replace myself here so a typical 2 week notice isn't going to work.  I REALLY want to make this happen before DD goes back to school.

    You have no obligation to replace yourself.  What I learned from quitting is that work will be just fine without you, they will find a way to survive it.  Two weeks notice is plenty.  Good luck with your decision.

    Amen to that.  When I left my position, we had a big event that happened every September (kind of our annual banquet) so I told them in July that I'd be leaving October 1... a good stopping point, and I didn't want them to be high and dry in the planning of that event.  Because I worked with volunteers, I wanted to see it through to this event.

     I left plenty of time, so that we could have someone in line to replace me, I could train them, and it would be an easy transition.

    Guess when they finally decided to get on the move and hire someone?  Yeah.  The week before I left.  I had 2 days to "train" her. 

    No one died.  The new person figured stuff out.  The rest is monkey-history ; ) 

  • imageMistym05:

    imageKKMMex:
    It is so ridiculously HOT outside.  I'm tired of summer weather and it's only June.  Rain or cool off already!  I'm never going to make it til October - UGH.

    I agree! I am trying to plan my trip back up to MI next month while DH is away on a business trip but don't want to board the pup. 

    Agreed.  I hate Houston's summers.

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