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Re: a confession
My confession is that I'm sad Jilly is clearly a nihilist. She's one of my faves. Even still.
I love the pledge. I love saying it, I love the unity that comes when everyone says it. I love the national anthem. I do not however think it is spitting on the troops not to say it. Some things are about America as a whole.
How about...
I think that the pledge is a brainwashing tool to turn children into little nationalist godlovers before they even know what they're saying. Confession enough for you?
Not that I actually care too much about it, but I also don't care to protect it or force kids to respect it and stand, either. Also, I completely agree with the high school kid who's protesting staying the pledge until there's gay marriage otherwise there isn't actually justice for all.
I also think the national anthem isn't a very good song. They could have chosen better, both for the music aesthetically and for the meaning of the lyrics.
I'm pretty sure those confessions surprise absolutely no one.
ETA, I knew there was another one based on this thread. Better than getting the church ladies to clean that girl's home, I think a fund should be started for her birth control. Babies having babies is not something I like to see.
I am starting a new job next week. I also have a doctors appointment to go over some fertility testing that we did this past week. I need to move the doctors appointment so I don't miss work. Part of me doesn't want to go at all because i am scared.
The Dogs and Us
I did that once myself in high school. Note to self...never let teen girls in a car together...way to much talking. Any way someone got my tag number and then sent an officer to my house to talk with my mom. She said "she is at the church with the youth group." Yeah I was really at the lake with a bunch a people at a party. When I got home my mom and the officer were there. Yikes. Any way I claimed that I thought I hit a trash can...yeah in the middle of the parking lot. That is when my career as a "bus girl" started at the Western Steer.
100% normal. S and I haven't gone through a deployment/seperation that long, but even just a few months can mean readjustments when he comes home. Just remember that she'll be used to the way things were before she left, and if you've changed anything (for example I completely rearranged the pantry last deployment) and then she puts something where it doesn't belong (with my example S went grocery shopping to help, but then I couldn't find anything for days) don't get frustrated with her. Take sometime for you three as a family, but make sure you also have some time with her one-on-one just to talk and readjust.
After the long flight back, she'll probably be tired and jet lagged and not wanting to do a ton right away, and that's ok. I block out the first weekend after deployments as sleep and cuddle time watching movies on the couch. I have dinners pre-made and frozen in the freezer, so we don't have to get up and cook for a few hours or go out to eat.
She's got Tricare! And in the great Commonwealth of Virginia if you can't afford birth control they will give it to you for free! There should be no excuse.
67/200
I was thinking that exact same thing the other day. I was just really afraid to type it out because I figured I would offend people.
On the subject of the pledge of allegiance. I like the idea of teaching it to kids along with the national anthem and other traditional songs. To me those things are an important part of American heritage. I just think that past a certain point you get saturated by it and it doesn't mean as much anymore. Almost like diminishing returns. To quote my high school US History teacher, there are many different ways to be patriotic. For some people, that means reciting the pledge of allegiance while for others it may be something completely different.
My confession is that I'm thinking of butting into somebody's business. I have an acquaintance IRL who has been going a little bit off the deep end lately. She's in the middle of a serious situation and the way that she's treating it is causing some of her closest friends to drop her like a hot potato. I kind of want to try and have a chat with her about it and try to get her to understand what is happening, but it's really none of my business.
Unless you don't believe in birth control.
I've been under the impression that abstinence is considered an acceptable form of family planning for those who do not believe in "birth control" methods.
True, but the conversation was about getting her funding to be on an actual birth control method which may or may not be against her belief system.
Honestly, I have little sympathy for people who are overwhelmed b/c they choose to not use birth control. Abstain if you can't handle the babies, but if your birth control is free, then don't impose upon other for help for your choice to be stupid and procreate beyond your abilities to provide.
I have almost no sympathy for people who continue to have children they can't care for. Of course I have sympathy for the children who didn't choose to be born into that, but not so much for the parents.
What about Catholics? I always thought that the Catholic ban on birth control included condoms and just looked it up. What I'm finding says condoms are against Catholic teachings though some people are trying to get that ban lifted or modified for use in the prevention of disease. Apparently Catholics can use hormonal birth control to treat health problems as long as their intention is not to prevent pregnancy, use of condoms to prevent disease isn't as acceptable. Also, belief systems can be personal and not based on an organized religion.
Ah, I didn't find that information anywhere. The most recent articles I could find were dated 2010. While I did bring up Catholicism I was also thinking about personal beliefs. I do not practice any religion, and there I things I believe in and don't believe in and those beliefs have nothing to do with what a deity might think. The point that I was going for is that there are multiple reasons why she might have opted to not use birth control. Maybe she did use it and it failed. It doesn't really matter though, the kids are here and their mom might need some help. She definitely doesn't need people saying she shouldn't have had the kids in the first place.
I'm done with living here. If I have to hear one more "you don't have kids! why not?!?! when are you having them?!?! you better start now!" I'm going to punch someone. I can't wait to be back in a liberal area where having children before you're 30 is a rarity not a rule.