Father feeding the flames of hell (Long)

annabelle.27 · July 2011

julie324:
Off topic but am I the only one who thinks your dad has a gambling problem?

No kidding. That's where I thought this post was going. As is, "Turns out he gambled the other $1000 and told me my step-mother said I couldn't have it!"

OP: I'm sorry, that sucks. I hope you get it figured out.

MarynJoe · July 2011

1. Your dad isn't going to be the dad you want. Accept it and stop disappointing yourself.

2. My dad promised to pay for my college so when I was ready to go, I called him up and he said "That was then, this is now. No money from me." So I did it on my own.

dirtyred · July 2011

HappyRainbowPony:
doglove:

kellyf87:
Some information for people who have never filled out the Fafsa is that unless you are 25 or emancipated you can't be considered an independant. EVEN if you are married and not living at home. If you lived with your parents for more then six months out of the year they can claim you on their taxes. I got pell grants and I barely made it as independant. Im 23 and the only way I qualified was because I was adopted and there is a section that states if you were in the system you are an independant. Sorry that your parent wont give you their information for it, I went threw the same thing. My mom did not want to give me her info.

Bull crap - I was independent while I went through graduate school from 22-25 years old. My parents did not claim me as dependent and I did not live with them. I did not have to give FAFSA my parents information at all.

Unfortunatly, this is how it is for me. I will talk to my finacial advisor to see if there is anything that can be changed next year when I file, but I don't think there is.

The rules have changed--we had to fill out FAFSA for our 24 year old son (who we hadn't claimed on our taxes for two years) or he would not have been able to get subsidized loans.

gwynnetx · July 2011

julie324:
Off topic but am I the only one who thinks your dad has a gambling problem?

i thought that, too. maybe your step-mother doesn't want HIM to have her information...

doglove · July 2011

suzannepdc:
I think someone else may have already noted this, but the dependency requirements change for grad school.

Yes, thanks (zelda included). I was unaware and now informed.

crystal3188 · July 2011

I have filled out a FAFSA for the past four years. I am 23 and until this past April unmarried with no children therefore I was always a dependent. I however do not have a good relationship with my parents and could not ask them for their tax information. YOU CAN FILE WITHOUT YOUR PARENTS INFORMATION. I have filed for four years without their information. It does ask you for their information but there is an option that says to leave it out (I don't remember the exact wording.) Your funding may be different without their information, but you can still file.

Secondly if you are working full time why in the world would your Dad be claiming you on his taxes?

SueBear · July 2011

Are you sure your stepmom didn't give you $4K, and your dad gambled away $3K, leaving you with only $1k?

I know for Med and Dental school, you need to provide your parents financial info, even when you are married, over 21, etc. It seems so unfair - - why should people assume that your parents are electing to help you out?

Andy28 · July 2011

This isn't true. I work for a University. A student can be under the age of 25 and a parent or married in order to be independent as well. Doesn't matter what FAFSA or tax year. Discuss it with FA at the school and claim yourself as independent.

CurlyQ284 · July 2011

Ok I didn't read all the responses but I'm posting from an SM point of view. DHs ex once filled out a bunch of fraudulent paperwork in DHs name with his SSN and forged signature. Do you think I'm handing my info to SDs who might inadvertently give it to ex? No way in hell. Do you think they know about this incident so they would understand why I won't give them my info? Also no, because I won't trash their mother to them. You don't know what may have happened in the past between the two of them so she is well within her rights to withhold financial info. 2. If your fathers business is tanking but SM is doing well, I bet your dad is promising money to you that is ACTUALLY coming from SM s paycheck. She is then saying she will contribute what she thinks she can and that's why you end up with less than promised. Your dad sounds like he is irresponsible with money, this is his fault. You have two parents to contribute. If SM chooses to help, great, but she shouldn't be footing the bill for your education and your pretty princess day because your parents didn't/couldn't.

LadyMadrid08 · July 2011

If you're married you can list yourself as an independent on your FAFSA. I understand taking a semester off to earn money might not be something you want or can do but I agree with others who said you're married and it's your repsonsibility, not your parents', to fund your university costs.

If it makes you feel any better I took out loans to go to my dream school, worked my ass off, and finished a year ahead of schedule to save money and get out faster. My parents just couldn't help me financially until after I had already started (they ended up very generously giving me 10 thousand to put toward school for my last year). A lot of people have student loans these days. While your father's behavior at your wedding really sucks, it is not his job to make sure you can pay for your education. Good luck!

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