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Re: Am I wrong or do I fold?
The absolute best way to teach your kids is by example.
Enjoy the trip.
remind them at any time their house may sponaneously combust and kill them or that a huge swarm of locusts may carry them away or the earth could explode or they could get hit by a kid on a 10 speed walking to the store.
really?! are you kidding me? take the car and go. next time dont tell them.
why are you still ASKING THEIR PERMISSION?!! jesus h christ answers like that would drive me insane. you're almost 40. you're a mom. you know what's good for you and the kids. start doing for yourself and your kids and stop asking their opnion and permission. you said yourself they are manipulative. STOP! Dnt even dignify their stupid comments with replies.
Have your car fluids and tires checked. Make sure you have a pair of jumper cables, take your cell phone and charger, have your car insurance # handy in case you need to call them regarding accidents/breakdowns or towing. Take any other normal precautions for safety, and don't do anything stupid on the road (like driving over tired, or taking shortcuts through the woods, lol) and you'll be fine.
I think you are right...it is like a challenge for you to do something. You will feel a million times more confident at the end of the trip than you will at the beginning. Your parents are too enmeshed in their feelings of you as their little girl to see you as a grown adult. Only you can make that difference. I say take it - and it'll not only be great for you, but will be a greater example for your kids.
My mom used to do this to me all the time. "You can't do that..." and then a list of paranoid reasons I shouldn't do something. Especially with cars and trips - I went once to San Diego (my first flight -ever) and my mom didn't talk to me for a week. I was in college and my cousin payed for the flight - ridiculous.
I moved to Seattle soon after I got married and started realizing I could do whatever I wanted. I was free from that and it's huge. She was manipulating me - I love her, but that's what she was doing. I think because it made her feel like she was still 'my mom,' and still in control.
The consequences if I did something she didn't want me to - even as an adult were awful. She'd yell - she throw tantrums, etc. But I got to the point where I just stopped letting her make me paranoid and started doing what I wanted.
I am still alive, btw. You need to go!!
life is too short to let someone else live it for you...
Go for it!
You know that the right answer is to go.
Have fun!