Trouble in Paradise
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Feeling ignored and pregnant
Well, I assume you qualify for social services since you said housing and not apartment or rental. That means you probably qualify for assistance in establishing a child support order and collecting accordingly.
So go down there and find out.
Click me, click me!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
It'd be better if I could even begin to understand it. The spelling and grammar is so bad I can barely figure out what's being said.
I'm I the only one reading OP in Consuela's voice (from Family Guy)?
Yes, it is your fault. You make things better by not including your dead beat baby daddy in things like this. You instead are using your daughter like a money doll being pulled apart by two kids. "I want her, but you pay for her." "No, I want her but you have to pay more for her." "No, you." "No, you." Can you imagine what this feels like for her? Poor thing.
If you want to make her feel like her daddy buys her stuff, stop asking him for money, go to the court and fill a claim that you suspect he is hiding his income so he doesn't have to pay his equal share of child support, and get your kid stuff with your own money, but let her think daddy paid for it/ let him take credit for it. This will all make your daughter feel better, have him provide more, and have him pay his equal share.
MUD.
And FAIL.
PS- "Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!" (I have the perfect gif. at home for this situation, but I am at work and can't access it)
I'm not dirty or fail mother. I want her dad to take care of her so as to take not so much burden for my husband.
Contrary to others, I won't judge you. I don't know your situation personally, so why would I?
I would reccomend just having him pay child support & get him out of your life 100% ASAP. It's for the best. That, and wait to have another child til you're 100% prepared, with a good man beside you. Again, not judging, it just makes it a hell of a lot easier to be a mom if you're in a good, strong, long term relationship. It doesn't have to be marriage, but it has to be solid.
I wish you & your baby the best.
Re-read what you just wrote and tell everyone again how you didn't fail English class. That sentence doesn't even make sense, much like all your previous posts. I hate to get all grammar police here, but couple that with the fact that you chose to have sex with and procreate (even if it wasn't planned, you do know that sex can result in a baby, right?) this baby daddy with his many other baby mamas (and the fact that you use the phrase baby daddy and baby mamas seriously), you sound unbelievably naive and immature. Stop bugging the "baby daddy" for anything. Clearly he has no interest in supporting this child beyond what he's forced to by the courts and that isn't going to change. You are creating your own drama. You have a husband now, it's high time you two as a married couple support both kids.
If this is real, then OP needs to change her life strategy, because obviously this one isn't working!
How do you feel about Lemon Pledge?
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
If this isn't MUD, I feel sorry for her children's future grade school teachers. The literacy team is going to have a field day trying to catch kids up to grade level if THIS is the type of English exposure they have...
Superman no here.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Your husband did know you had this daughter before you got married, right? Then you are all a family together and taking care of your daughter from a previous relationship should not be considered a "burden" on him or you or anyone else! This guy is not going to give you more money. You messed up by being with a slut of a man, and now you are sad that he isn't more involved. But the thing is, being sad about it and calling/texting him isn't going to fix anything. He is not going to give you any more money. His family is not going to suddenly be accepting of you and your duaghter and help out, and his baby mamas and their spawn are not going to miraculously all get along and open their arms to you and your daughter and let you get in between them and the shred of attention they get from the baby daddy. It is time to stop whining, accept things as they are, GO BACK TO SCHOOL, and raise your daughter and the coming baby with your husband as one big happy family. I know you think need the money and "help" from this other man, but trust me, it is so not worth it! Move on.
Well, I guess that's why she and "baby daddy" have all these kids... the condom wrappers are most likely written in "the english".
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Edited because I feel sick.
If you live in the US, you really are setting up your children for failure in the US education system. My mother was a literacy teacher at a large public school, and 95% of her students were from non-English speaking families. Even after 20+ weeks of one-on-one teaching, most of them were not on grade level with their peers.
If you don't live in the US, feel free to disregard.
Did you NOT read what I posted? Even with LOTS of special intervention, your children WILL NOT BE good enough English speakers to progress with their classmates!
Even WITH intervention programs, they expect the parents to HELP teach the children to read, write, and communicate in English. Teachers will NOT fix the mistake you're making.
EVERY summer break they will go 10 weeks without speaking English unless they are with their friends, and even then, playdates are not a substitute for language immersion. Each year they will go back to school and fall farther and farther behind.
Again, my comments were meant as positive suggestions, but the way this thread turned has made me feel horrible.