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Monday Randoms
Re: Monday Randoms
My husband practically had to drag me out of bed this morning. Boo.
Hope everyone had a great weekend, though!
Good Morning!
We had a lovely weekend in Chicago. We're going to try to get out there as much as possible in the next few months to spend time with my BF's baby while she's here.
How was everyone else's weekend?
Glad to hear you had a nice time in Chicago.
Our weekend was nice -- fairly low-key which was a nice change. We went blueberry picking yesterday for the first time ever. That was kind of neat. I'm hoping to go again soon.
JuliD - Yay for fun in Chicago. We are going this weekend for a friend's wedding. So excited!
Kasa - Glad you had fun blueberry picking.
Wop - I am so sorry you have to deal with family drama, especially right now. You have enough to think about. Would it cause even more drama if you just said, "I need to focus on my health and my baby right now. I can't get involved in this."
I'm so sorry you're going through that, Wop. The only advice I can really give is to remember than you cannot control other people or their emotions. You cannot make people grow up, act mature, behave responsibly, etc. They are adults, and you bear no responsibility for their current situations or actions.
No family is perfect and some familes take awhile to reach peace. You're not alone by any means in that regard.
Focus on doing what is best for you. You can offer your advice or support and then be done with it. Make your peace as best you can, set a good example and focus on the good relationships. If people are being immature, it's my belief they will come around in time, but you can't force it on them or take it personally if they don't.
Wow, JuliD. This was really well written. What good advice and a great look at how to handle issues that come up.
Wop! Someone I work with once uttered the phrase, "I quit trying to figure out crazy."
Think about it. Deep, eh?
I try to remind myself on a regular basis not to waste my time and energy trying to figure out the crazy things that some people do. Specifically, my inlaws. I've spent so much time trying to rationalize their words and their actions and understand them and what they do. I've stressed myself out over this on more than one occassion. But at the end of the day, you can't rationalize crazy. You just can't, because crazy is irrational. And it's in your best interest to not even spend time dealing with it. Brush off the craziness, and move on.
Perhaps that is applicable to drama too?
It's a little more than "crazy" right now. My mom came over yesterday to tell me that she's probably getting a divorce because she's in an abusive relationship and has no where to go. I don't know what to do. We could house her, but do I really want this drama in my house right now? No, not at all. I don't want to get wrapped up in this. I have a baby on the way, I don't know how to help her. I want her to help herself and do something with herself. I feel like she has potential to get out and be on her own, but she's not doing it. I don't want to enable her, but I don't want her to be homeless either. I'm at a loss.
Mine did! At 6:15 he threw open the shades and asked me to get up and make him coffee and breakfast.
WOP, even if she came completely drama free, do not invite her to come stay with you. You'll feel guilty, she might help you to feel more guilty, but you've got the right to focus on your own little family. It is not up to you to find a solution for her.
Logistically, there are a lot of places that can assist her. It sounds like she's not sure about her next steps. I hope she stays safe, makes good choices, and is kind to her very pregnant daughter.
I'm really sorry you're dealing with this.
Woah! If Jim did that to me... What's up with that, DP?
Wop, Sorry the Drama Llama found its way into your life right now. I would check into what Charity said. Most of the time courts will favor a women in most situations.
My BFF has made her way back home and DH gets to have me back now.
Today I'm working on finding so health insurance for DH and myself. SS is still covered under MI Child. It's kind of hard not know for sure what we would use. It seems right now dental and vision are more important than health though.
So sorry about the drama. Great advice has been given by others. Hugs.
I'm trying to unbury myself after being gone.
Some further explanation is probably needed. First of all, I have spoiled him rotten in our years together. As with every relationship, I bring my share of unpleasantness to the table, so spoiling him is one of the ways I make myself tolerable
Secondly, last week I felt very guilty about having the option to sleep in and I tend to be an early-ish riser, so I would get up and make him French pressed coffee to take along to work. Before we went to sleep last night I told him to just ask if he wanted coffee and/or breakfast in the morning, so he did.
Unfortunately for me, he got up about 45 minutes earlier than usual... He also revised his request to just coffee.
Can't wait to hear about your trip!
Wow, that is sad.
Wop - sorry for the family drama. I would look into local resources that you can direct her to. Unless she does this herself, most likely she is going to end up in the same situation again. Plus you don't want to put you or your family into a risky situation.
Well hows this for weird. It wasn't our client. There is a guy that works in our building with the same name and age. Still sad that that guys died but so glad it wasn't our client. Ryan was about to call it a day.
You're almost through the withdrawl period.
Oh my goodness, I cannot stop giggling!