oopsadaisy!!!!!!!!

QueenofAnything · August 2011

I'm bored. Tell me. We can exchange horrible secrets! I've got a doozie or two. I will only barter for secrets of equivalent horribleness!

eMiLee920 · August 2011

This is not horrible at all: I just wasted 2 hours at work because I wasn't paying attention to the settings when I exported something.

Kind of bad: I met DH online. When we first met in person, I saw him before he realized I was there. I almost ran out and stood him up because he looked so dorky.

ETA: Just realized this post was meant for a Nestie (as opposed to an open thread), but whatever. I shared something. We're all apparently bored, and hopefully that distracted you for 4.3 seconds.

LauraT25 · August 2011

I guessed already in the other thread, but I think maybe she's gay. yes?

LauraT25 · August 2011

p.s. i ate crab dip for lunch

QueenofAnything · August 2011

Alright. To a lot of people, this is way worse than emilee's.

I think I'm pregnant. Not too big of a deal and I'm known for freaking out about this a lot, but this time it's a bit different.

Well one of my medications is used for improving fertility in obese women. AND even though I'm on a BCP . . . I've gotten pregnant before while on BCPs, when I started this particular medication the first time. Andplusalso, I feel like I did when I was pregnant. My boobs are killing me and are huge. Like, one of them is significantly smaller than the other and used to not fill up the cup w/o help. Within a period of days its spilling over. I feel like I'm in a fog and I spotted the other day . . . and it was the same as the implantation bleeding from when I was pregnant. No positive test yet, but it's still early.

So my secret . . . I terminated a pregnancy. And I feel awful admitting it on here because I know there are a fair number of you on this board who faced the same decision I did and chose another option. Honestly, I really admire those girls and the strength it took to make that decision. In hindsight, I regret what I did. I wouldn't have kept the baby, but right around the time I would have been 5 months pregnant, I met a women through an ASCE (American Society of Civil Engineers) meeting who had been struggling with infertility and was looking to adopt. Later on in my life, I worked with her and she was a really awesome person. I know now that I would have given my baby to her. They still are childless and part of me feels like in some way, I kept a mother from having the child she deserved.

diablesse · August 2011

I hope that the secret is...

that she put ex-lax in her boss's lunch!

QueenofAnything · August 2011

LauraT25:
I guessed already in the other thread, but I think maybe she's gay. yes?

If she's gay, how did she get married without us noticing? I mean, this started as a board for wedding planning.

And I don't think anyone would care. I think I'm the most conservative one on this board and I'm 100% for gay marriage.

moleson99 · August 2011

wowza!! I leave the board for a couple hours and I miss a bunch of talk about people named pete, and laura being a light weight with the margaritas (no worries. in 5 months i have every intention of being a light weight and getting hammered!!!), and all this serious talk!

Ok, here are my guesses for the big secret.

1.) She's preggers

2.) She's gay

3.) She's cheating on her husband

4.) she's preggers and she doesn't know if it's husband's due to above cheating.

5.) she's gay and preggers which makes it really confusing

Ok, in all seriousness though, oopsadaisy, we're here to listen if you need to let it out! :-)

shauni27 · August 2011

QueenofAnything:
So my secret . . . I terminated a pregnancy. And I feel awful admitting it on here because I know there are a fair number of you on this board who faced the same decision I did and chose another option. Honestly, I really admire those girls and the strength it took to make that decision. In hindsight, I regret what I did. I wouldn't have kept the baby, but right around the time I would have been 5 months pregnant, I met a women through an ASCE (American Society of Civil Engineers) meeting who had been struggling with infertility and was looking to adopt. Later on in my life, I worked with her and she was a really awesome person. I know now that I would have given my baby to her. They still are childless and part of me feels like in some way, I kept a mother from having the child she deserved.

my secret is i admire you for admitting this. and my secret is if anyone judges you for what you did i will defriend them. Your body, your choice. Even if you regret it now, you still had the right to do what you did.

diablesse · August 2011

Hey Queenie,

I didn't see your post. You must have submitted it while I was typing mine up.

I think you're extremely brave for admitting all of that to us on a public forum. That takes balls. I also commend you on being able to make a difficult decision which was to you, the best decision at the time. Sure, 5 months later you might have come to a different decision, but you didn't have that knowledge when it was critical. We're not blessed with foresight.

I am a strong believer in the right to choose. I think the world would be a lot improved if a lot of people realized that it is a viable and in a lot of cases a GOOD idea.

Good for you. And you should never regret it. What is it they say? Regret is the most useless emotion.

shauni27 · August 2011

1) laura, 3 margs (if strong and not on a full stomach) would make me totes drunky.

2) my real secret is tmi: i just went to the public bathroom to poop (i love that word) and accidentally let out a really loud fart. and there were a few people standing outside the bathroom talking. i'm sure they heard it.

2A) i was in an abusive relationship and spent years getting over it. i was finally comfortable saying (to some people, mostly strangers) "i was raped." and then, after 11 years, guess who just stalked me, found out where i worked, and showed up last week? crazy abusive rapist stalker ex.

diablesse · August 2011

goddamn it! these simultaneous posts are killing me!
hahaha

shauni27 · August 2011

diablesse:
Hey Queenie,
I didn't see your post. You must have submitted it while I was typing mine up.
I think you're extremely brave for admitting all of that to us on a public forum. That takes balls. I also commend you on being able to make a difficult decision which was to you, the best decision at the time. Sure, 5 months later you might have come to a different decision, but you didn't have that knowledge when it was critical. We're not blessed with foresight.
I am a strong believer in the right to choose. I think the world would be a lot improved if a lot of people realized that it is a viable and in a lot of cases a GOOD idea.
Good for you. And you should never regret it. What is it they say? Regret is the most useless emotion.

cosigned, shauni (the post whore today)

QueenofAnything · August 2011

shauni27:
1) laura, 3 margs (if strong and not on a full stomach) would make me totes drunky.
2) my real secret is tmi: i just went to the public bathroom to poop (i love that word) and accidentally let out a really loud fart. and there were a few people standing outside the bathroom talking. i'm sure they heard it.
2A) i was in an abusive relationship and spent years getting over it. i was finally comfortable saying (to some people, mostly strangers) "i was raped." and then, after 11 years, guess who just stalked me, found out where i worked, and showed up last week? crazy abusive rapist stalker ex.

Holy shiit, shauni! That is scary. I would have been having panic attacks.

thatjessie · August 2011

FU work! I leave for an hour and I miss the most exciting shiz in months!

Since everybody but the culprit is posting I'll post.

I will probably be the first one of us to get the big D.

moleson99 · August 2011

shauni27:

2A) i was in an abusive relationship and spent years getting over it. i was finally comfortable saying (to some people, mostly strangers) "i was raped." and then, after 11 years, guess who just stalked me, found out where i worked, and showed up last week? crazy abusive rapist stalker ex.

WTF?!?!?! I assume G knows about this past situation??? Did you tell him he showed up at work?

shauni27 · August 2011

thatjessie:
I will probably be the first one of us to get the big D.

Why do you say this?!? are things not good?! must text you later...

thatjessie · August 2011

shauni27:
thatjessie:

I will probably be the first one of us to get the big D.

Why do you say this?!? are things not good?! must text you later...

No bueno in MT right now. Texts are accepted.

shauni27 · August 2011

moleson99:
shauni27:

2A) i was in an abusive relationship and spent years getting over it. i was finally comfortable saying (to some people, mostly strangers) "i was raped." and then, after 11 years, guess who just stalked me, found out where i worked, and showed up last week? crazy abusive rapist stalker ex.
WTF?!?!?! I assume G knows about this past situation??? Did you tell him he showed up at work?

of course, he knows everything and has been nothing but supportive. so has the entire police force for that matter...

Xtine22 · August 2011

shauni27:
diablesse:

Hey Queenie,

I didn't see your post. You must have submitted it while I was typing mine up.

I think you're extremely brave for admitting all of that to us on a public forum. That takes balls. I also commend you on being able to make a difficult decision which was to you, the best decision at the time. Sure, 5 months later you might have come to a different decision, but you didn't have that knowledge when it was critical. We're not blessed with foresight.

I am a strong believer in the right to choose. I think the world would be a lot improved if a lot of people realized that it is a viable and in a lot of cases a GOOD idea.

Good for you. And you should never regret it. What is it they say? Regret is the most useless emotion.

cosigned, shauni (the post whore today)

double cosigned, Xtine

moleson99 · August 2011

ok, so since everyone else is telling some biggies, I'll share mine.

My ex who I was with for about a year and a half was married. It was such a weird situation. I mean, he had told me he was separated and sleeping on the couch to save money and move out. stupid young me, believed him. About a month later is when I knew that wasn't the case. (Later I found out that I wasn't the first he cheated on her with, I was just the first relationship. He usually only had one night stands).

I know a month isn't long, but I don't know what it was with that guy. I mean at that point, I was done, in love, cupid shot me in the butt. The intesity and passion was something I had never had before. And although I have all that with Josh, it's not the same, it's a different thing. Can't explain it.

Some of his friends became my friends, and actually, my husband's friends too. It was almost like once things ended with us, I got the friends out of it (you know like divorced people get a house or a dog, or something....i got our ridiculous friends whom i love dearly and were actually in my wedding.)

His wife found out about us, 3 months into it. It was the must f'd up situation I've ever been in. I mean he was at my house 3-4 nights a week! Her and I had interactions, etc. I mean, all our friends knew, his dad and step mom knew about us- the 3 of them would come to the bar when i was bartending, etc.

I knew I wouldn't be able to let this guy go. So I got the wife's number from a mutual friend. One night he came knocking at my house. I had my roommate use the number and call her and say "Can you please come get your husband b/c he won't leave our house?"

It was like I finally woke up and realized what the heck was going on. 5.5 yrs later, we still run into my ex. J has since hungout with him due to our mutual friends which is beyond crazy to me. His wife also finally divorced him about 2 years ago. After me, he went back to doing his one night stands.

moleson99 · August 2011

shauni27:
moleson99:
shauni27:

2A) i was in an abusive relationship and spent years getting over it. i was finally comfortable saying (to some people, mostly strangers) "i was raped." and then, after 11 years, guess who just stalked me, found out where i worked, and showed up last week? crazy abusive rapist stalker ex.

WTF?!?!?! I assume G knows about this past situation??? Did you tell him he showed up at work?

of course, he knows everything and has been nothing but supportive. so has the entire police force for that matter...

I can't imagine! Keep us posted on this!

diablesse · August 2011

sweet jesus in a hand basket! so much shitz is going down.

Shauni - the nerve of the dude! and I remember you talking about this before. btw, lol and congratulations on your shart. SHART WEEK WOOOO!

Jess - wtf yo?! What's going over there. Texts are not acceptable. We want in! Also, I already beat you to the big D, like years ago.

Aspersia · August 2011

QueenofAnything:

Alright. To a lot of people, this is way worse than emilee's.

I think I'm pregnant. Not too big of a deal and I'm known for freaking out about this a lot, but this time it's a bit different.

Well one of my medications is used for improving fertility in obese women. AND even though I'm on a BCP . . . I've gotten pregnant before while on BCPs, when I started this particular medication the first time. Andplusalso, I feel like I did when I was pregnant. My boobs are killing me and are huge. Like, one of them is significantly smaller than the other and used to not fill up the cup w/o help. Within a period of days its spilling over. I feel like I'm in a fog and I spotted the other day . . . and it was the same as the implantation bleeding from when I was pregnant. No positive test yet, but it's still early.

So my secret . . . I terminated a pregnancy. And I feel awful admitting it on here because I know there are a fair number of you on this board who faced the same decision I did and chose another option. Honestly, I really admire those girls and the strength it took to make that decision. In hindsight, I regret what I did. I wouldn't have kept the baby, but right around the time I would have been 5 months pregnant, I met a women through an ASCE (American Society of Civil Engineers) meeting who had been struggling with infertility and was looking to adopt. Later on in my life, I worked with her and she was a really awesome person. I know now that I would have given my baby to her. They still are childless and part of me feels like in some way, I kept a mother from having the child she deserved.

Don;t ever feel bad about this...sometimes it's just not right, and people don't realize that terminating is actually a very hard thing to do.

Since we're sharing secrets, I guess I'll jump in (and I am totally prepared for complete judging, I've dealt with plenty before!) I don't think I'll get into details, because this could turn into a book, but I don't want it to seem as if I take my experiences or other people's lightly.

Queen, I'm with you...DH and I have had 2 terminations. Shauni, abusive relationships suck - I am also with you on this, that's why I broke up with/now hate DD's father...seeing him and handing over DD every week is torture. Oh, and I'm bisexual. I think that covers it? This has been an interesting Thursday, I must say...

QueenofAnything · August 2011

Haha, oopsadaisy's secret is probably really silly compared to some of these.

diablesse · August 2011

oh snap Aspersia, WINNAR!

sooo....how is it being with girls? (you don't have to answer that) I used to wish that vagina turned me on. Guys can be such idiots and I love girls! I just can't get with the hooha. bummer.

btw...this turned into the best day on the chat board EVAR!

guys...I really am literate. Misspellings and OMGWTFs abbreviations just crack me up.

QueenofAnything · August 2011

Aspersia:

Queen, I'm with you...DH and I have had 2 terminations. Shauni, abusive relationships suck - I am also with you on this, that's why I broke up with/now hate DD's father...seeing him and handing over DD every week is torture. Oh, and I'm bisexual. I think that covers it? This has been an interesting Thursday, I must say...

Oh, I'm bisexual, too. I always tell H that I'm just H-sexual now that we're married.

mushE · August 2011

QOA, I admire you for sharing, and like the others, you'll get only back up and no judgments from me. I am very pro choice, had a pg scare my last year of law school, and believe I would have made the same choice as I just wasn't ready yet.

The confessional part of it is that I had my during the week bf (5 years my junior) and my weekend bf (long-term bf that I was on/off with), and wouldn't have known until I gave birth whose it was, but it would have been pretty obvious then! (One guy was Chinese, the other Israeli.)

Shauni, hugs to you. That is so scary, and I'm so glad that you have G and the police force backing you up!

Jessie, I'm so sorry to hear it. I'm here along with the others if you need an ear.

eMiLee920 · August 2011

I hope I don't forget anyone.

QoA - I admire your courage in admitting it. The others said it much better than I could. I think every woman has to make her own decision and live with it. What's right for you, at that moment in time, is only something you can decide and no one should judge you for making that decision.

Jessie - We're here for you.

Shauni - WTH? I'm glad you've got a lot of support from G. I can't imagine.

And this post reminded me, I was thinking of submitting a KPS - about a different secret.

mushE · August 2011

And holy crap, ladies! This is the most action we've had on this board forever. Confession is good for the soul!

I told H a while ago about my two boyfriends at a time situation, and he just laughed. One of my law school buddies was like, Mush, 2nd boyfriend sucked! and then I had to explain to him that I had a 2nd boyfriend, because H only knew about 1st boyfriend. Oops.

Also, since we're confessing. My parents had a hard time getting pg both times, and then had a surprise pg after me. They were over the moon, but my mom had a feeling all along that something wasn't right. Amnio revealed the baby had DS, and they chose to terminate. My sister is super judgy about this, even though she herself chose to terminate a pg when she was about 21. The confession part is that I was terrified my baby would have DS too, and then H and I would have to decide what to do.

diablesse · August 2011

you guys are all really brave. I'm too chicken to reveal any of my real dirt on here.

I'm such an idiot. I use the same screen name on every board I'n on online and it's the name I use on my car when I race it. It's way too easy to track me down.

wish we could have a private board.

oopsadaisy!!!!!!!!

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