September 2010 Weddings
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Re: oopsadaisy!!!!!!!!
Dia - I know what you mean, I feel very exposed when I post on TN these days.
My BMB started a secret FB group that is actually really nice, if anyone is interested.
This is me to a T. And I can't keep up with the crazy business that is this board today with my slow as fuuuuck phone on the computer internet. Plus, I need to go cut rhubarb and dig up potatoes.
I'll be back later I'm sure, but you ladies will all be gone by then and I'll just be a relegated to being a lurker.
All this news is craziness!
Queenie- Definite props on telling us your secret. I had a termination as well and not many people know this (my friend that took me, my sister and DH). I was rowing with my college team and didn't think it weird to get up at 4 am, work out with the team and throw up, our work outs were so tough, half the team was throwing up. I wasn't supposed to get my period because I was on Depo, so nothing seemed out of sorts. But I was also going out every night and drinking up a storm and by the time I realized what was happening it was bad. I think about it all the time, but I don't think I made the wrong choice. Your secret gave me the strength to tell mine.
Shauni- I am so scared for you and hope that this jacka$$ keeps his distance or I'll have to fly out there with my crowbar. Stay safe.
Jess-I'm sure you don't want to share too much, but my thoughts are with you and hope you can work something out.
Here's my last juicy secret that's not huge, but it's the only one I keep from DH.
When we first were dating, we made it very clear that there was no commitment and we were not BF/GF. I took that as the truth and was dating another guy (OG) as well. About 5 months into dating, DH picked up my phone and saw a text from OG and had a tissy. He then started getting uber competitive about OG and about a month later decided we should be each others one and only. Things with OG were just a fling, so i called it off and went for DH.
OG is DH's co teachers son. DH doesn't know.
Don't we still have a 9.10 FB group? Also, I have gotten in trouble for something I posted ages ago on TK, so there are some things I just don't talk about online anymore.
Also, my aunt and uncle's 3rd baby had a lot of signs of DS throughout the pregnancy, but they didn't want to do an amnio because it was too risky. The doc told them over and over that their baby would have down's and they should terminate, but they didn't. My cousin is 9 years old and perfectly healthy! They were so surprised and relieved that when she was born there wasn't any sign of it at all. Sometimes, doctors are wrong.
I'm sure your baby will be healthy and beautiful!
TTC since 08/2010
Anovulatory since at least 12/2010 (probably longer, unDx)
Dx PCOS 3/2012
SA 5/25/12--normal
June 2012--50mg clomid+TI--BFN
July 2012--50mg clomid+Ovidrel+TI--BFN, lining at 5mm
August 2012--5mg femara+Ovidrel+TI
Jessie- Hugs to you. You know we are all here for you.
Shauni- Also hugs to you. I know what it is like to be in an abusive relationship with stalking and late night phones ect.
Holy shitskies, this is bananas, all of it.
QoA, ditto totally Shauni's and Alicia's posts to you.
Jessie - I have absolutely mentioned D to MFD in the first year. I run from problems and that sucks - these are the same problems we've always had and we've been together for almost 9 years, they're not going anywhere easily. I think too often we expect to be married and then live in a state of utter bliss for the "honeymoon" period. But that's not how things are anymore. Most people live together before marriage, or they have a child together, etc. In a round about way I think I'm saying that problems that exist before marriage only become magnified after, but with work and love you can stay in it if you want to. And if you don't, you divorce and f&ck anyone who judges you for that. I'm here if you want to talk. Facespace has my phone number on it if you want to text me, or just send me a facepsace message.
Shauni - I want to run over your ex with my car, then back up and run over him again. Ok? Ok.
Aspersia and everyone else, big hoots for letting some big stuff fly. Courage, ladies. And interesting. I got nothing. I'm too much of an open book most of the time.
As for Oopsadaisy, I think it's either someone who posts here often under a new name and wants to stir the pot, or it's a cheater.
I think this board just got a whole lot closer.
I commend all you girls for sharing. I'm lame and I've got nothing.
Moleson - I've been in your shoes. He wasn't riding the couch, they were actually separated. But I was still dumb. I thought he was 'the one' and we'd get hitched and live happily ever after. He ended up going back to her (or so he told me). Years later I found out he was cheating on me (us?) w/ a third and actually ended up getting engaged/married to her. Lesson learned...I made K show me the divorce decree before I agreed to start seeing him.
Alicia, I don't mind answering
Being with girls is really nice. It's very different - their touch is softer, sweeter. It's nice to be able to share clothes. It also means that you both get that special brand of crazy that only females can though. In general (before DH), I preferred girls, though I was with more guys. To me though, it was a matter of finding the right person - DH just happens to be male. Don't get me wrong, though, I totally enjoy his male-ness 
I just think that with other guys it didn't matter. I like that DH is a man because it's him, it's very much a part of who he is...does that make sense?
Queen, I say that I'm husband-sexual too!
TTC since 08/2010
Anovulatory since at least 12/2010 (probably longer, unDx)
Dx PCOS 3/2012
SA 5/25/12--normal
June 2012--50mg clomid+TI--BFN
July 2012--50mg clomid+Ovidrel+TI--BFN, lining at 5mm
August 2012--5mg femara+Ovidrel+TI
this
ditto.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
Holy shiz y'all! I go to lunch and a meeting and shiit hits the fan!
I got some skeletons to throw in the pot, but I also use my SN everywere too...
Props to everyone for sharting <--i mean sharing (totally a Freudian typo), you are brave, brave ladies. My heart is pounding just thinking about typing my nasty secret.
Jessie-Want me to drive up there and hug you in person? An 8 hour drive is NBD. And this time I swear I won't bail on you.
Shauni-I remember you telling us that sometime before. Craziness. Fecker. I'll be in the car w/ Steph when she runs him over. So glad Mr. G and the PD have your back.
QoA-No regrets. You did what you had to at the time. Noone can fault you for that.
Aspersia-I much prefer making out w/ girls, thanks for sharing. Enlightening.
TTC since 08/2010
Anovulatory since at least 12/2010 (probably longer, unDx)
Dx PCOS 3/2012
SA 5/25/12--normal
June 2012--50mg clomid+TI--BFN
July 2012--50mg clomid+Ovidrel+TI--BFN, lining at 5mm
August 2012--5mg femara+Ovidrel+TI
This!
I also have one that i have no problem sharing I just don't want to do it on a public board because i also use this name for everything.
Holy freakin' cow. I leave the schools, hit the outpatient clinic and home and come back to check this before bed and I'm here for an hour+ reading!
Props to everyone who shared. I hope I remember everyone.
Jessie - Hugs to you and what you're going through. Hope things get better.
Shauni - ex can take a flying leap off a cliff. Sorry he's back but glad G and PD are backing you up.
All the ladies who had to make a super tough decision, I give you props. I have no idea what I would've done in the same situation.
Dats - you got a PM!
Oh and I have nothing. I'm a lame goody-goody apparently
QOA - I think that was very brave of you to come out and say this. I also think you made the best decision at that time for you. ((((hugs)))
Shauni - Holy crap!!! I hope you called the cops or something
This is a huge fear for DH and I as I have a relative who is DS, and we would hate to have to make a decision like that.
My brother has DS so I have done a ton of research because it was always an easy topic in school. DS is not hereditary. I have the same chances of having a child with DS then someone who has no "family history". This is not saying it also doesn't make just as terrified that it will happen. I don't know if I could be as strong as my parents are. This is why I choose not to have the NTscan, I would rather not know for the next 9 months then if something came up worry for the next 9 months.