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WDYT? Social/Wedding Situation
MH has a friend who is getting married in October. They are not extremely close friends and I don't know the friend's fiancee well either, but we all did hang out a few years ago and she and I are FB friends. Over the past months, H and the friend, R, have been talking a lot more. It got to the point where R kept telling H that he wanted H to come to his bachelor party out of town. H joked around that if he spent the money to go, he would be off the hook with having to attend R's wedding. R joked around back and said something like "no problem, your wedding gift to me will be coming to the bachelor weekend and my gift to you is I won't even send you an invitation so you won't need to come." They laughed about this but H was pretty much serious about it. He just has no desire to go to this guy's wedding, but he is glad to go to the bach party.
Earlier this week, we received their wedding invitation in the mail, which we were both surprised about. We had not thought we'd really be invited. A few days after that, H decided he would go to the out-of-town bachelor party and he booked his plane tickets. Because he's going to the party, he tells me that he and I are definitely not going to the wedding. He's like "R and I made a deal, I'm going to his bach party so I don't need to go to the wedding!"
Personally, I am happy to go to the wedding, and I think it would be rude not to. There's no reason that we can't go. It is an hour drive away, but everything in the Tampa bay area usually is, big deal. But H is saying he doesn't want to and we don't need to.
Isn't this a weird situation? Do you agree with me that it would be rude if we blew off this wedding? It will be obvious that we aren't coming just because we don't want to. If we rsvp no, with some made up excuse, R will probably tell his fiancee the whole story. I don't know, the whole thing just rubs me the wrong way. It annoys me that H didn't even take my feelings into consideration, namely the fact that I would have no problem attending the wedding. I enjoy weddings!
Re: WDYT? Social/Wedding Situation
I think it's rude, but MH would probably be thinking the same way your H is.
Maybe the fiance made him send the invite, bc she thought it would be rude not to? Sometimes I'm really glad that we don't have a bunch of random friends/acquaintances.