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Re: Poll: Ma'am/Sir
Pretty much this. My mom is from Kansas and my dad's family is more Italian than southern despite being in Texas.
This. Were to told to use yes ma'am/sir with my maternal grandparents who where very southern, but that was it. My Dad's family was from Nebraska, and I lived all over. DH grew up with "yes ma'am" and all of my nieces and nephews on DH's side have been taught to say it. Not sure what we'll do.
Ditto this. I'm from FL which is neither considered the north or south. My parents and siblings are from the NE so we were raised with mostly their regional stuff. I was taught to say yes please/no thank you with no ma'am or sir included. Plus it was mr and mrs. lastname. One kid called my mom Ms. Laurie but that was because he couldn't say our last name. I still call my parents friends mrs/mr lastname. I'm letting A say mr/mrs firstname because it's what's done around here but it threw me off for a long time. I only got used to hearing Ms. Clare because I worked at a preschool.
I do use it occasionally, but it wasn't required in our home. What was required was "yes, Mom/yes, please," or "no, Mom/no, thank you." I am teaching my kids the same.
Manners were HUGE for my mother. I still remember when I was about 6, and we were leaving our neighborhood pool. My mom held the gate open for a woman who was coming in, and she strode right past, not even acknowledging my mom. Appalled, she immediately crouched down to my sister and me and said, "Did you see what that woman just did?? Never EVER walk through a door someone's held open for you without saying thank you." Obviously it stuck, if I remember it 35 years later. And it helped teach me the lesson of being polite to strangers in general. (Of course, we have all sorts of lessons built in here for the kids--with the exception of expats from certain countries, it is very rare for people to acknowledge strangers at all, much less be polite. Even clerks and cashiers sometimes don't say anything. Not even hello. And if I say, "Merry Christmas" or "Happy New Year" as I'm leaving, they're always caught off-guard.)
As far as how they address adults, we've always followed the rules of the schools they've attended so as not to confuse them. So they say "Mr./Mrs. FirstName" if they know the first name; otherwise they always say "So-and-so's Mom/Dad." I actually hate the "Mr./Mrs. FirstName." However, in the kids' current school, even though they use Ms. FirstName in kindergarten, once you start 1st grade, they start calling their teachers by their last names, and I am so relieved. Once Hannah is out of kindergarten, they'll both call all non-family adults "Mr./Mrs. Last Name."
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We were taught to say both "Yes Ma'am/Sir" and "Yes please"/"No thank you" . They are used in different contexts:
Mom: Would you like more to eat?
1/2pt: Yes please/No thank you.
Dad: Did you brush your teeth yet?
1/2pt: Yes sir/No sir.
We intend to teach our children the same.
Grounds for death right there if there was even a hint of attitude in a response of what. If I didn't hear something, they expected excuse me or I didn't hear you or something, never what.
We were taught to say yes/no maam/sir to everything and everyone. God forbid you said huh? what? or anything along those lines! My parents were Marines so, it was never a question. And we always called all their friends by their rank and name. Once they retired and we lived in "the real world" it was Mrs. Mr. Lastname UNLESS they told us specifically told us to call them miss firstname. However, we had such a close knit group growing up it was always mom and dad for everyone.
I am teaching Landon Yes/No Sir/Maam. Also manner are a huge thing in my house. And how to treat a lady. IE opening doors, etc.